Post # 1
ok. I’m sitting here addressing Save The Dates (YAY! I LOVE THEM!:http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/awesome-save-the-dates#axzz2VTvMMQXe )
My FI is Dominican, and many people in his family will marry someone from DR so they can come to America “legally”. This is generally just an agreement, and not a romantic relationship. I’m not asking for opinions on this, I don’t believe this is the right thing to do, my question is purely about the addressing in this situation:
A friend he has grown up with did this when he was younger. After they married, they did not date, socialize together, etc. I have never met her in any social setting. They’re still married, and recently began…um… dating? How in the world do I being to address this thing?! He tends to flip from girl to girl, so I don’t feel comfortable putting Mr. and Mrs, and I also don’t feel comfortable putting her name (FI and I don’t even know her name!!). haha I wish I were making this up- bees, HELP!!
Post # 3
bump! Please help I’m so lost!!!
Post # 4
I would just address it to the friend with a plus one although technical eduquette says Mr and Mrs.
Post # 5
How about Mr. Friend and guest?
Idk…. thats my only suggestion!
Post # 6
@jasonkatie2014: When someone is just dating, the STDs are either sent to that person only, or that person “+ guest”. Because over the next year they might not still be with that partner. Either way, you don’t name the recent girlfriend on the STD.
(See e.g. this very old thread http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/and-guest-on-save-the-dates )
The fact that the girlfriend is “technically” his wife doesn’t change that. I suggest sending the STD to him only. Your FI can tell him verbally that he will get to bring a guest to the wedding.
Post # 7
Do you think it’s strange to say “guest” when they’re technically married and living together (not in a traditional sense… this is the 3rd girl he has “lived with” in the past year and a half)?
Post # 8
@paula1248: I think i’m just going to aviod it completely and address it just to him and let my FI deal with it lol. It has been very easy to address things in line with ettiqute- this situation just seemed off to me.
Post # 9
Just give him a “and guest”. He knows his situation is unique and so does she- who knows if he’ll be dating his wife by the time of your wedding. Unless he told you or your FI that they are in a serious or committed relationship now, just give him a generic guest, right?