Post # 1
My older sister, (26) has been dating the devil, who is only 21, off and on for under a year. He threatened to kill my family, does drugs, no job, no car, he lives & leeches off my sister, he cheats on her CONSTANTLY and even left her for another woman but came back when that other one threw him out and he had no where to go. He sexually harassed me and since then my sister “disowned” ME because she thinks IM a threat to her relationship seeing as how her boyfriend is attracted to me! He slashed my mom’s tires on her car and even ripped off parts to sell for more drugs (caught him in the act!), etc And these are only a FEW reasons why I hate this trash..
Anyways, My sister got evicted (2nd time in a year!) from her apartment because of him, he’d use their rent money on drugs, and he was searching for other women in the nieghborhood to screw while my sister was at work, etc. So they moved into his parent’s basement…I forgot about them after that..
A few months passed and I was doing laundry when I found a a piece of paper in my boyfriend’s pants, he always asked that I make sure it’s nothing important before I throw things out, I opened it up and saw that it was his plans to propose along with a reciept for a ring that costed more than 6 grand. I almost hit the floor! He had circled the 16th and wrote a few things down. So I was sure he was going to propose on that day. I told my parents what I found and asked if it could be a proposal, and they told me yes. They also called my sister for some odd reason to share the “not yet good news” with her. From what I hear she was upset because she feels she should be married first. Even though she already got married and divorced, and this jerk she’s with have only been dating less than a year, whereas my guy and I have been together over 3 years. And we own our own home, our own dog, nice jobs, etc. So we’re ready for this.
Anyways, yesterday was magical. My boyfriend proposed in the most fairytale like way, and we spent the entire day having the time of our lives. So as you can imagine, when I got home to a voicemail saying my sister got engaged the same day. I was FURIOUS! She guilt tripped that pathetic guy of hers into proposing, but I’m upset because everyone KNEW my boyfriend picked this day for a long time now, I feel like she did it just to overshadow me! And to make matters worse, she told my parents she’s getting married on the 14th of October, the day BEFORE OUR wedding! 365 days in a year and she picks the day before! I’m so angry and I don’t know how to deal with this! HELP! What would you do?!!!
Post # 3
Honestly, I would just consider all of the facts. Your sister has issues, clearly. I would just recognize that she feels she needs to act out in this way because she is insecure. Pick another date for your wedding and move on. In addition, tell your parents not to share details of your wedding with her.
Post # 4
Oh. Wow. Normally I see these posts and I am appalled that girls get so easily jealous.
This is a whole other level. From what you’ve said, I dont think the relationship will last to the alter (more to the jail cell), and if he has truly wrecked the lives of so many people, I doubt their wedding would be well attended to take away from any of your thunder.
Drugs and mental illness are the worst. And my only advice is to let them win. Pick a new date and dont tell your sister (and promise your family to do the same). It looks like she wants to go first, so pick a November date.
Post # 5
I would ignore her and keep on planning. Hopefully by October they won’t have wedding money because he’ll spend it all on drugs and she’ll get pissed and leave – then their wedding plans will dissolve, he will disappear off to jail, and your sister will grow some self-esteem and re-start her life.
Post # 6
I would not worry about this at all. She apparently has mental issues and he apparently has drug/character issues.
Unless your parents are planning on shelling out a lot of money for her SECOND wedding, they won’t have the money or fortitude to plan a party, much less the wedding.
Post # 7
I agree with the other bees. It doesn’t really sound like this relationship is going to “go the distance” I would pick a later date, and not worry about it. Good luck with planning and congrats on getting engaged!!
Post # 8
Sounds like a mess. A mess you can avoid by tuning it out and not taking it personally. I feel really bad for your sister. She must be very beaten down by this relationship. I hope she finds the strength to overcome this physical demon but also her clear emotional demons.
Post # 9
Change yours to the day before hers..
Post # 10
theres no way they are actually going to get married! and your date is october 2014? I seriously doubt they will last that long.
Post # 11
All I can say is Forget about her! If shes Engaged– shes engaged.. what can you do really? You guys dont haev the best relationship so talking to her really wouldnt make a difference.. Just enjoy your engagement and forget about someone trying to steal your spotlight. your ENGAGED! ( Congrats! )
Post # 12
I agree on all the “ignore the BS” points, but I would move my wedding up a week. Maybe that’s just me being a little immature. Have nobody tell her the date. If she finds out the date and moves hers up again, let her have it. Whatever, people will probably be more interested in yours, and they’ll be in town already! I hope she realises how horrible this guy is before too long. It seems like if she spends the next 8 months trying to outdo you, but he keeps stealing all her money, she’s gonna end up pretty miserable.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
Do you serously think her wedding is going to happen? This person seems so radically unstable that I wouldn’t even worry about her.
Post # 14
@sweetpea87: Good suggestion.
Post # 15
@mink: I was going to say the same thing!
Post # 16
That sucks. I wouldn’t worry though, everyone would obviously know what this is. Her engagement will probably fall apart before she gets married to this creep. And I kind of hope it does for her sake.