Post # 1
Does anybody else here have a boyfriend that is addicted to video games/Xbox ??? I’m so tired of going to bed alone because he stays up till 3 am playing games. Today when we ate lunch and did something. However right when we walked in the door after picking up kids he went straight to the game. No hey kids how was school, no talking to me, them, helping me clean up the mess everywhere…it is getting old. I’m pretty pissed off actually. If anybody has had this issue I wonder what you did to help slow done the gaming time. I wish I had never bough the stupid game in the first place.
Post # 3
My sisters boyfriend is super addicted to call of duty, but nothing she has tried has come close to ripping him away from that screen. It must be like… heroin.
Post # 4
Ugh, I so feel your pain. My bf actually makes video games for a living though, so I can’t complain as much as I’d like. It is market research after all <eye roll>.
Have you tried talking to him about it? We have one major tv in our house, so if I let him play video games, he’s not allowed to say anything when I put on my Plantinum wedding, Bridezilla shows. lol.
Post # 5
This truely stinks. My FI plays a lot of video games, but the minute it starts impacting our “us” time, or his household responsibilities, we chat. He might not realize the impact his gaming is having on your and your family.
I would sit down and have a serious discussion about this, and the need for him to pick it up with the family. He needs to limit his game time each day. Many games have a “parental timer” which can be used to limit the amount of game time one has in any given day. The game will automatically kick them off when they surpass the game time. You should see if this is an option for the games he plays. I know of one couple that has this arrangment, and it works out really well.
Post # 6
Hate to tell you this, but my friend’s ex-husband was seriously the same way. He lived and breathed them. You would not believe how MAD he would get if he could not play his video games. He even took a portable one on their honeymoon, and sat on the beach and played it. No joke.
I don’t know what to tell you to do about it, but I would seriously suggest some kind of intervention/counseling if you can find some. That is, if he will agree to it. The fact of the matter is, when it becomes more of an obsession or an addiction than an enjoyable hobby, they need help.
Best of luck to you!
Post # 7
I actually tried talking to my FI about this yesterday. It sucks. I get up at 4 to go to work and he can be up and still playing. We have opposite schedules but it’s like that’s all he does in his free time. He’s turned down my advances because he was to into the game before. I can’t begin to tell you how many arguments we’ve had about it, but Im guessing I’m just gonna have to deal. IT may change when we move back closer to home in March.
Post # 8
- Wedding: July 2010 - Anela Garden Chapel & Japanese Cultural Center, Honolulu
hmm. that’s tough. if there weren’t kids involved I’d say try playing the games with him so it’d be both your hobbies..but parenting should come first, and he needs to grow up and face certain responsibilities before playing. Discussion and time limitations perhaps?
Post # 9
I do sometimes play but I really suck at them so it not fun. Plus after 2 hours my eyes about to fall out. He can literally play for 8-13 hrs a day. The kids do enjoy watching him play and will do that for awhile. Well today when I was mad it was because he was saying he was sick. Yet he hopped on the Xbox, ( Call of Duty ) and after he saw the mad look he went and laid in the bed. I mean I feel like my mom lecturing if your sick your too sick for games, lol..
Ohhh If I put a parental lock on the game I don’t think I’d have a workable computer left after he finished.
Post # 10
Wow that is pretty bad. I think he needs a job or something so that he isn’t up all hours of the night playing video games! I hope that you can figure something out so that he is only on there certain times and not all the time.
Post # 11
- Wedding: June 2010 - Indiana Memorial Union
I’d honestly work out a schedule. I fortunately play a game that lends itself to scheduling group activities, so my fiance knows on Tuesdays and Thursdays between 8 and 12, I’m playing. It’s relaxing, it’s enjoyable, and I still function like an adult.
You’re absolutely right he shouldn’t be playing for 8 straight hours. But sometimes he needs to realize that himself. That generally takes a grand existential realization about the nature of gaming.. so I’d instead work out a schedule with him.
Post # 12
If I am home, he doesn’t play. When I walk in the door, he immediately will ask if he can get to a save point and then turns it off. He plays on his own time. If I am watching a show he doesn’t like he will ask if he can go play in the other room.
Its one of my pet peeves too and I really don’t want it to get out of control.
Post # 13
my fi plays tetris on his phone- all the time even if we are watching a movie!! It makes me crazy!
Post # 14
I hate video games. We don’t own any and how thankful I am that we don’t. My FI has no interest in them thank God! He would rather read which is way more up my alley!
Post # 15
My b/f use to do this too. I didn’t really help since I’m kind of a video game nut too (but i am more of a bite person, I usually get bored after about an hour or two and move on, where as b/f can play for hours on end) and I sort of fuel his habit by buying him video games… b/c I always love finding deals on video game and it doesn’t help that my brother works for a video game company usually gives us video games on the cheap for our b-days and holidays.
that being said. try talking to him about it. ^_^
i got upset once because it was cutting into us time and kind of ruining my daily routine, i put up with it for a while but you know enough is enough. we talked about it and he agreed that he can only stay up till 3 am when we have nothing to do the next day (our weekends are packed and we have to wake early on those days too). That worked out pretty great.
Post # 16
Hugs to you! I know what you are going through. Fortunately for me, Fi has figured out all by himself that he doesn’t want to live that kind of life anymore. It used to make me so angry. But then we learned he has an anxiety disorder and playing the game helped keep his mind focused on off of other stuff. He’s now seeing a dr and is on anti-anxiety meds. He has little interest in the game anymore. Maybe the video game playing is actually because of another problem? I agree…talk to him 😉