Post # 1
For reasons uncertain and unimportant, we didn’t get any video of our wedding ceremony three weeks ago. I’m okay with not being able to see the video (I hate myself on camera, anyway.) The problem is that apparently my husband wasn’t really in the moment during our wedding. He was counting on watching the video to remember the ceremony. I’m not sure why, but this really bothers me. For all the hassle and expense that was this wedding (a wedding which he wanted, not me,) he doesn’t even remember our ceremony! He feels bad already about the loss of the video, so I can’t really say any of this to him. Nothing can be changed now.
Please remind yourselves and your fiances to really be in the moment during the ceremony. That’s what it’s all about, not the color of your tablecloths or what the centerpieces look like. It doesn’t even matter what you look like, but the words that you exchange with your spouse — that’s what matters. I’m happy that I remember it, and I’m really sad that my husband doesn’t.
Post # 3
Oh no… that sounds really sad. And if your husband already feels bad about it, you can’t even really tell him how badly you feel… 🙁
Maybe some day, you guys could do a vow renewal and relive the experience? 🙂
Post # 4
Shame JennC, I’m really sorry to hear that. Did you write your own vows or did you do traditional vows? Much like Mr. Bee suggested, why not try to recapture/relive the exchange of those vows?
You could organize a candlelit, romantic dinner at home, get dressed up, set out some lovely flowers on the dinner table … whatever you want to make it super special. Then at some point in the evening stand face to face, hold hands, look into each others’ eyes, and exchange your vows again. The bonus is that you can get away with saying more intimate, personal things this time that wouldn’t have made it into the ceremony.
You’re absolutely right — at the end of the day the tablecloths and centerpieces are all frills. The wedding is about the words and promises that you exchange. So do it in a very focused, private way and I’ll bet that’s something that neither of you will ever forget!