Post # 1
My fiance is Vietnamese (I, the bride, am not), and we are having a traditional Dam Hoi ceremony at my parent’s home this summer. I have asked FH’s mother how to prepare our home for this (food, decoration, etc.), but she said it is rude for her to dictate what my family should do and we should do whatever we want (sweet, but not helpful haha). I know all about the cermonies, gifts, etc. but am wondering what/how much food I should provide? Also, does anyone know where I can purchase things like the candles we light, the red banner with a dragon/phoenix, etc.? Any other helpful tidbits are greatly appreciated! Thanks bees 🙂
Post # 2
gg620: I don’t know if you’ve already have your engagment ceremony yet but I am going through the same thing right now. The dragon/phoenix is brought over by the groom side of the family. For the bride, you can have a light lunch for the guests.
Post # 3
Aw your future mother in law is sweet! I’m full Vietnamese and my FI is half Korean, half Caucasian. My mother literally prepared everything for my FI and his family to bring over. All they had to do was bring the offerings and gifts over. If you have a Chinatown or Asian market around where you live, try there. They may have a few things for you to use. Also try looking online…lightinthebox.com or weddicts.com. They’re based out of China and Singapore and they should have tea ceremony/asian wedding stuff. Food wise…just get something you can serve to a lot of people like fried rice…pan fried noodles…egg rolls. For more American food, like sandwiches, pasta, salad. It’s a party! 🙂
We just had our engagement party last year and we’re about to have our Vietnamese tea ceremony for our wedding in 3 months. If you have other questions, let me know!