Post # 1
I’m attempting to have a Vietnamese tea ceremony at our rehearsal dinner. I have my ao dai ordered and that’s about it. I know that I would like to decorate the menus and invitations in pink to match my ao dai but what about other decorations? What am I "supposed" to have? I’ve only seen some pics online and but to be honest, I have no idea where to get the stuff to decorate! I don’t want to go overboard or anything. I’d just like to know the few key decorations I should have. Is a double happiness symbol one of them? My fiance is Vietnamese and we are having the tea ceremony to honor his parents. I’ve never been to a Vietnamese wedding so I don’t really know what’s ettiquette. Thank you ladies for your help. My Future Mother-In-Law will love you (and me) for making this part of our celebration memorable for her.
Post # 3
Red, dragon to represent the male, pheonix for the woman. I’ve seen the double happiness Chinese symbol displayed at some weddings. LOTS of red and gold! To be honest, I’ve seen a lot of tackiness. Stick with red velvet and gold detailing. Make sure there’s a nice tea set and the big red taper candles with a symbol of the dragon on one and a pheonix on the other. I hope that helps a little. I can send you a picture of my brother’s wedding set up if you private message me your email address. Good luck! And I bet your fiance’s parents are really going to appreciate it!
Post # 4
hi – wondering if you’ve made any decissions about how to incorporate vietnamese traditions into your rehersal dinner… I’m in the same situation, my fiance is vietnamese and i am not, and i’d love to incorporate some of these traditions somehow to help his mom and family feel more comfortable. none of them have ever been to an "american wedding" and they seem very nervous about what is going to happen. I’ve only been to 1 very small vietnamese wedding so i don’t have much idea about that either. any ideas/suggestions would be helpful thanks!!
Post # 5
I’m Chinese not Vietnamese so I’m not sure what the variances will be. I think if you are not going full fledge Chinese/Vietnamese you don’t have to go crazy with the decorations. I am simply going to have two chairs (with a red cover over it, I guess dragon and pheonix would be preferable and rent from Chinatown, NYC. But if they look cheesy I’m just going with red chair covers) I will have two pillows w/double happiness pillowcovers for the Fiance (who’s American) & I to kneel on. Typically you kneel down for your parents and grandparents and that’s it. But I think anyone that you want to show greater respect for, feel free to kneel for them too. Like we will definitely be kneeling down to my two older brothers. A nice tea set (I’m just hoping to find a nice red & gold trim set, nothing too ornate) with a tray to hold the teapot and tea cups. Make sure you have more than 2 cups so that your Maid/Matron of Honor can help you refill cups so that the ceremony goes faster. And typically there is someone there announcing each person you are giving tea to and the relationship.
And lastly, I would just say ask your Fiance, s/he should know if not they should ask their parents. I think every family is a little different as to how strictly they want to follow the traditions.
P.S. If you don’t have a Chinatown near you… http://www.chinabridal.com has some stuff you can check out. Can’t vouch for their quality though.