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DH & I are both into it, but we don't look at it w/out one another. And even if we did, I don't think either of us would care. It is such a non-issue for us.

@FlutterbyBee: But your views are your views. If that's how you feel then there's nothing wrong with that. At least your SO understands and respects your wishes.

I only like good porn, ones with a plot and not too much silly acting :)  Him, too, but I have no idea if he watches it alone and I don't care.  I watch alone sometimes and I'm sure he doesn't care.  And we also watch together sometimes if we feel like it ;)

I would also not classify it as a bad habit.  A bad habit is one that is unhealthy or has negative consequences, like smoking.  Over indulging in any habit, whether it be gambling, watching porn or model train making is negative, but I don't think any of those activites on their own are bad since they aren't hurting anyone :)

@luckyprincess: I didn't know good porn with a plot and not terrible acting existed!!

Porn's not an issue for us. We don't usually watch together unless we saw one that's really weird or funny and want to share. :)

@jayce:

Lol - yes, it exists I swear, but don't get your hopes up.  The plot is just a bit better, its more romantic than trashtastic and the acting is still pretty bad.  The trick is, find a porn by a female director - huge difference!

@teampike:

Lol!  Yes, I agree that I'm looking there, too.  It's a new view for us :P

@Miss Tattoo:

Sometimes we'll play a game where we'll just select one randomly from satellite and then we'll act out the action together.... one tip: don't choose a compilation porn unless you're in good shape and can change it up quickly, lol!

I go back and forth on it. One one hand, people are being objectified. However, if someone freely chooses porn (not related supporting a drug habit, survivor of sexual abuse, being forced by a parnter to perform, etc.) as their profession, then I don't have a problem. This is the feminist in me: if a woman wants to do porn, more power to her vs. no!! women are more than sex-objects!

I'm no expert, but it still seems that the industry is still dominated by men? So it's men creating the "stories", directing, producing, etc. so there aren't a lot of women in positions of power in the industry.

FH likes it and I know he has twinges when he feels like he is not being a good feminist-man because he enjoys watching it. But duh, he's human, so of course it's natural to be enticed by naked people having sex. Plus, even though porn seems so mainstream, it really still is taboo.

I'm really not a fan, personally.  But FI has been watching it probably since puberty, so that's not really going to change.  He actually told me that he generally watches porn featuring girls with my "body type," to try to make me feel better!  Umm, thanks??

At the end of the day, what he does in his free time is fine as long as it doesn't affect our relationship.  If he was spending large amounts of money, lying, or adjusting his views on our relationship to match what he watches, then I'd have a problem.  As long as none of that is happening, it's really not a big deal.

Neither my FI or I look at it.

My FI has a story about the exact day he completely stopped looking at porn.  He went to NYC with a group of friends 6 years ago and he was the only 18 year old.  They convinced him to go into one of the porn shops to buy them magazines, so he thought it would be funny to buy some "shocking" ones.  He asked the clerk to give him the worst ones the shop sold and apparently, he was so disgusted he walked right out without purchasing anything.  He hasn't looked at any porn since.

I haven't had to deal with it, but I think it would bother me if he looked at it.  I'm pretty much 100% positive I'd manifest it into my body being inadequate and form a complex.  But, that's just me and my self-esteem (which I'm working on!).

I have watched it before, and it's ok.. I used it before I had ever been sexually active with a guy.  I haven't seen it for several years though

I knew that fi did it when we first starting dating b/c I saw that he had visited a website.  For some reason, it really bothered me.  I am pretty self concious so I felt like when he views it, I am not good enough for him or he thinks the girls in the videos are better looking, or have better bodies.  I just get extremely jealous even though it's just a video, and it's not like he's cheating-cheating, but I feel it is a form of cheating.  I am just weird I guess but I get weirded out knowing he is looking at other girls and not me!  He knows I don't like it and feel that way, so he said he wouldn't do it again (this was like over a year ago), so I'm not sure if he has since or not.  As long as I don't find out!

Ive suggested watching it a few times and my husband always says no. I am not going to force him into it :).

It's a non-issue in our household :)