Post # 1
I’ve been feeling a little distanced from my best friend lately. She lives in London and so it is hard to keep in touch (no easy way to call on the phone, and she hates Skype). So I emailed her today to say I missed her and see if something was wrong. She sent a long in depth email outlining all the ways I have let her down as a friend in the past couple years. I want to be angry about this, but she is right! I have been neglectful, oblivious and selfish.
But the worst part is she said that it will be a real financial hardship for her to attend my wedding! I can try to repair some of the emotional damage I’ve done, but I can’t afford to fly her to my wedding, and I think my heart will break if she doesn’t come!
Anyone else have a VIG that might not be able to make it to your wedding? How are you handling it?
Post # 3
My VIG is my grandma! I bit the bullet and bought her plane ticket and she will be staying with my mom, who will feed and entertain her while she visits.
Post # 4
Mine is also my best friend. Since I’ve moved from the states to the Netherlands, I’ve only seen her once when I went home for a visit. She doesn’t make tons of money, but it was really important that she’s a witness at my wedding so I made sure to put her ticket in my budget. I rather not have something else than her not be there.
As for staying in touch, there are some really awesome long distance deals out there. I can call the states from the Netherlands for a whopping 2 cents a minute. My mom bought a deal through skype and for $75 a year she can do the voice over IP unlimited to the Netherlands. So there ARE options out there if you look for them!
Post # 5
My VIG was my best friend from 2500 miles away. I recently moved back to CA (where I grew up and where my Fiance lives….long story), but I spent the past 3 years across the country with the best friends I have ever had! It was very hard to move away, but I felt better knowing these gals were planning to come to my wedding in May. Well, 2 of them bought their plane tickets but the one, my supreme BFF, had an emergency with her newborn that landed the baby in the NICU for over a week. Needless to say, this put a huge strain on their finances, and she called me in tears to tell me she couldn’t come to the wedding. FI knew this was super important to me, so he put aside some money to get her a plane ticket out here…now all of my girls are on the same flight and will be here 3 weeks from today!