Post # 1
Hello everyone 🙂
I was wondering if anyone has an engagement ring or wedding band that completely doesn’t match their every day style. Have you had any regrets or feel that sometimes it doesn’t “go” with your personality?
I guess you could say I’m a “rocker girl”. I love my loud, angry music. I guess sometimes I dress the part, but in a modern adult way, that doesn’t scare people off 😉 I don’t have much nice jewelry, but when I go out I do love bigger, meta, chunky costume jewelry.
My predicament is that as my SO and I keep shopping for the perfect engagement ring, I find myself loving vintage styles and diamonds. I love emerald cuts, but am recently lusting over round old European cuts. I love the flash they give off, and how detailed and intricate vintage settings are. This setting makes me drool:
Not that I feel my engagement ring needs to perfectly match my personality or my style…I’m more worried that in time I may regret that I didn’t go with something that is more “me” and it may look silly for me to wear something vintage-ish when that’s something I’ve never gravitated towards before. Has anyone had this dilemma of falling in love with an engagement ring or wedding band that doesn’t match their personality or style? Regrets or none? And am I stupid for even worrying about it?
Post # 3
@HoldFastHope: While that ring is pretty antique looking – I believe it has a rockstar glam with it as well. I thought you were going to post something that had the flat edwardian style shape – lol.
PS you can also do your wedding band in black diamonds or something to glam it up too 🙂
Post # 4
I wouldn’t say my engagement ring is different to my usual style, because it is a very simple design in a white metal like most of my jewellery, and I went for diamonds instead of coloured stones, again because I like the simplicity of all white.
But, when I went ring shopping and the sales lady asked me “classic or modern”, I said “modern”. I thought I wanted something simple but with a modern, up to date twist. I ended up hating every single ring she showed me from the “modern” selection (for me personally anyway). I got her to show me the “classic” tray and I loved all of them, lol. I ended up choosing a ring which isn’t vintage but is art deco inspired.
I didn’t want a “vintage” ring in terms of what I was thinking of when I went shopping, but that is the style that made my heart sing – and I think ultimately you have to go for that rather than the label of which “trend” it belongs to.
I’d say keep looking around at different styles to make sure it’s not just a “crush”. But if you keep coming back to the same ring, then that’s probably the one 🙂
Post # 5
@HoldFastHope: Wow, I just clicked on the link and the ring you like is not that different in style from mine, lol! Not an old european with a halo but it has a round centre with pear shape sides. Here’s a pic if you’re interested:
For what it’s worth, I think the one you have your eye on is gorgeous – but I suppose I am biased! 😉
Post # 6
@HoldFastHope: i LOVE antique engagement rings. i research them and love them to death. i really do. (you can take a look at a project i did where i matched antique engagement rings with vintage photos of couples in love). so, i thought when i got engaged i would want an antique engagement ring. so, when it DID happen, my e-ring was an antique family heirloom. everyone said it ‘fit me so well becuase of my love for antique rings’…and i thought it did for awhile. now i am looking for a new e-ring because it just doesn’t fit ME like i thought i would (i’m not vintage-y by any means).
anyway, the ring you chose is beautiful because it does hold a lot of antique qualities but looks modern as well. great choice!
Post # 7
I guess I should mention that mine happened the exact opposite. I didn’t really have a say in my ring because he did it all on his own. I thought I would for sure get an antique because I love antique jewelry and for birthdays and Christmases – its what Fiance had gotten me.
When he proposed it was a 3 stone. At first I was upset – but since then I found out all the work he did to find a ring that he thought was ‘me’. Now I love it and wouldn’t change it out for the world. I am eyeing a few weddingbands to help vintage it up a bit – b ut all in all its not the actual jewelry that matters, its the question he asked and our future together.
EDIT: I am not a cheesy chick…but that sounded over the top lol
Post # 8
I think that is super stunningly pretty! I don’t actually even think it’s that vintage-y.
I also ended up with a vintage looking ring. I don’t consider myself a total vintage girl by any means. I like to think I have more classic taste, but my ring is not all modern.
I’ve had my ring for almost two years now though, and I don’t regret it at all. I still LOVE my ring. I say go for what you want! Even if your taste changes slightly over time, you’re still going to love your ring, simply because what it stands for. ; )
Post # 9
i don’t think the ring you chose could really clash with anything. it is not super detailed or milgrained or with fancy swirls on it or anything. it is pretty simple and beautiful and i think it would suit any ‘look’
Post # 10
@missebelle: I love this!!! I’m also a big fan of antique e rings.. 🙂
You probably know this website but this is my favorite:
Post # 11
@regisaurus: yes! so gorgeous!
Post # 12
@suburbian: hmm, I guess I never looked at it as rockstar glam. I like that! 😉 And yes! Black diamonds will somehow be included in the wedding band. I love the contrast of black and white.
Post # 13
Gorgeous!!! It is very similar to the one I found. Mind if I ask if you know the specs on your center stone? Another thing that worries be about looking at this setting online is because it has a 5.08ct diamond in it…where as my e-ring would have closer to a 1.30-1.40 round stone. I hope its just as pretty with a stone half the size. Unfortunately we would have to purchase the setting online and that scares me a little.
I was the same way when my SO and I first started shopping. I always thought I wanted something modern and non-traditional. Whenever we went into a jeweler and I told them I was looking for something “not bridal looking”, I always got that tilted-head-wtf-face from them. But every time I looked at something very different and modern, I’d totally have that crush phase (not to mention everything that was considered modern was really pushing the budget!). I’d love it for a few days, look back, and be like “eh…its ok…” Once I opened my mind to more traditional styles, I really started to see how beautiful and timeless more simple and vintage settings can be.
Hoping this setting isn’t just a crush as well. My SO doesn’t like it much, he says “its ok…”, but I want him to love it like I love it. Sometimes I wish I never got involved in this process! 😉
Thanks for the help!
Post # 14
@missebelle: Ugh…that made my heart melt…for the rings and for all the love 🙂 Thanks for sharing! And best of luck on your hunt for your perfect ring!
Post # 15
@regisaurus: That site seems preposterously over priced. 18 Grand for a replica e-ring? Ummm…Brilliant Earth has a beautiful selection and won’t make you sell your island just to buy one.
Post # 16
@suburbian: haha! not cheesy…its the truth! I know no matter what I get I will love it because of the meaning behind it. But because it has such a huge meaning and I’m SO excited to finally be marrying him (its been 8 years! Lets do this! 😉 ) that I want him to be just as excited as I am about the ring. And I think by trying to make me and him happy at the same time I’m getting a little crazy…like wondering if a ring is too vintage for me o.O haha. But you are right…gotta keep the big picture in mind!