@smv22114: Well our last argue was about her son, I disagreed about how to educate him, she is over protective and I told her that I wasn’t allow to say anything anymore because she was very often on her son’s side. For exemple he was jumping and running in the middle of the night, so I told him “don’t run and jump please” very nicely, but then she told me not to give him negative words, she told me that it was better to tell him “if you run, you will wake up the people living downstairs”, and then she told me that I don’t actively praise him or give him good comments, which is wrong, but that wasn’t really a fight, we were just talking, but then the next day her son didn’t behave well in the supermarket, he was pushing the kart around and running, so I told him a few times to be careful because he could run over someone with the kart, my wife said nothing to him until we got home, he was a bit naughty and didnt want to go to bed, so she started counting and her son understood that he was gonna be in trouble if he wasn’t getting ready to go to bed. The next morning we kind of argue about it, I told her that it was wrong to let him do all those naughty things without clearly telling him not to do it, but then she got really offended, she asked her son to come and then she forced me to tell him about the supermarket thing, I told her that we were arguing and that it was not the right time to talk to him, but she didnt want to listen, she then started talking about how bad her parents were to her by giving her negative words like “dont do this, dont do that”, that she suffered from it and that her son was also suffering from it, so I told her that I was not giving negative words to her son, but only stopping him when he is too naughty, but then she talked about parents again (parents that I hate very much), so I offended and told her not to compare me to them because we are very different. She told me she was not comparing me to them, but then she started once again with her parents story, so I told her that she has a very deep problem with her parents and that the relation between me and her son is not even similar as I am always good to him. She lost control of herself, broke something in the kitchen, was about to throw a glass but then I told her, if you thow that glass, its ove between us, so she stopped herself but slammed the door and then wasn’t letting me go to work by standing in front of me screaming. She then added that it was all my fault because I was verbally abusing me and that she was never like that before.
Most of our fights are about her son, we had other similar fights because I refused to adopt her son and refused to have another baby.
She educated her son alone for 7 years as she left her son’s father (he was cheating), but then she never told her son the truth, he doesnt know who he is and never met him. Last night for exemple her son asked why we don’t look like each other, she simply replied by “you look like me”. I know that he was cheating, but that doesnt give her the right to hide her son the truth and not let him meet his father. She tried to replace his real father by me, which is wrong to my point of view.