Post # 1
So I am a virgin, but Fiance is not. Our first time will be our wedding night, and I am concerned about pain/discomfort. Although Fiance is able to get me aroused, etc, I was wondering if its better to use a lubricant the first time, to make things a bit easier. But I am totally clueless on this topic. Should we use a lubricant? If so, what kind?
Post # 3
Yes. Yes. Yes. YES. It makes life so much easier. Astroglide was my best friend on our Honeymoon. 🙂
Post # 4
Yes, you should. I recommend something simple (no “tingling” or “warming” or anything that could cause burning) with no glycerin or parabens or anything that could potentially cause an issue/reaction. You can always get fancier later, but I think it would be best to play it safe on your honeymoon.
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Post # 5
Yes you should use lube and use it anytime you need, not just after the first time.
I would say do NOT use KY. It’s really not good for the nether regions – but great for back massages. Any time I’ve used KY I’ve ended up with a UTI (never had them before in my life until the first time I used KY and two or three subsequent times until I finally got the clue!)
I was just recommended silicone-based Astroglide and I had positive results.
Post # 6
I recommend coconut oil. It’s natural, it’s good for you, and it works wonders. You can get it online or even at walmart. A jar lasts FOREVER. Also, read up on the forums at ww.Themarriagebed.com and there will be lots of advise for virgin brides. It was really helpful.
Post # 7
@LuluInLove: Just make sure that it’s not going to break down condoms (if you’re using them). Lube is your friend. I honestly cannot have sex comfortably without it.
Post # 8
Many people of varying levels of experience use lubricant. Some people find that it makes sex more comfortable and other people don’t create as much natural lubricant (that’s just how some people are, but for others it can be due to nerves, medication, etc. Allergies meds are a big cause of dryness). If you are using condoms, don’t use an oil based lube. I love Jo lubricants – they have water based and oil based. I find that silicone lubes tend to last longer and not get sticky (KY is common, but I find it’s sticky and tastes weird)