Virgin soon to be newlywed..clueless about birth control..advice?

posted 3 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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7075 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

You will need to call and make an appointment for an exam. I personally would not recommend the shot, as it makes some people feel terrible and then you’re stuck for 3 months. There are many, many options for birth control pills. Your doctor will be able to suggest what he or she feels is most appropriate.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2004

@katiecat08:  I second not getting the shot. I know a few girls who gained a ton of weight. Call and make an appointment. Your doctor will give you a few options 🙂

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@katiecat08:  yes, you need to schedule an appointment with either your regular doctor or a gyno. I know that mine won’t prescribe any birth control without doing a routine exam and pap. I have been on the pill for almost ten years and I love it. There are many options and doses and your doc will help figure it out. I take mine every morning when I first get up and I’ve never had a pregnancy scare. It also helps regulate your periods in many cases. I find it’s a lot less hassle than some of the other options out there. 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

Definitely talk to a physician. They’ll likely do a pelvic exam, pap smear, etc and then talk to you about your options for birth control. I’ve been on the pill for 10 years and had no problems since switching to my current pill which was the third one I tried, sometimes it takes awhile to find one that doesn’t give you unwanted side effects. My first one was fine for a few years then I started spotting between periods, missing periods, etc…switched…the new one made me break out like crazy…switched again…perfect.

You do usually want to give your body three months to fully adapt to any type of hormonal birth control. If you’re not quite at that mark or worried, then use a back up method like condoms too. I did have a friend who started the pill right before getting married – got pregnant – miscarried – started the pill again – got pregnant – had a baby. Because she was never on the pill long enough initially for it to be fully effective.

Best advice is to just talk to a doctor to see what’s right for you.

 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would not recommend ANY sort of insertable/injectible/ingestible type of birth control before your wedding.  You don’t know how your body will react and I would NOT take that chance.  It could cause you to gain weight, break out, become emotional, who knows!  (All normal reactions, btw).

I’ve been on bc since I was 16 (I’m now 30) and so much as changing brands even years into taking it, has caused reactions.  I’ve only ever been on the pill, though.

In regards to comsumating your marriage, go with a condom and speak to your doctor AFTER your wedding about what permanent measures are best for you Wink

 

Good luck!!!

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

There are many options.  People can have side effects (a few of them serious) from birth control.  Your best bet is to schedule an appointment soon and go in and talk with your doctor.  If your doctor’s office has a Nurse practitioner, an appointment with her may be a better choice.  While it’s stereotypical, she may be more willing to sit and take the time to answer your questions than some doctors are. 

You can do some reading, maybe even start on Wiikpedia, on Birth control pills (BCP) Also known as oral contraceptives, Depo-provera (shot), Intra-uterine (IUD), condoms, and Natural Family Planning.  Many consider NFP to be the least reaiable method.

Every method has some failure rate (pretty low – some lower than others) when used correctly, however many people dont use methods absolutely correctly – like skipping pills or not taking them at the same time every day and that increases the failure rate. So, take into consideration how upset you’d be if it failed and you were pregnant sooner than you’d prefer. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@katiecat08:  I also vote against the shot, I know a lot of people who had bad reactions to depo.  BUT, make an appointment with your doctor, s/he’ll give you an exam, talk about options, what you need what’s important to you etc etc and determine what the best option for you is.

 

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Ms_Purple:  that’s not true as far as I know…most pills are considered fully effective within a week or so of starting them.

Post # 11
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Busy bee

If you don’t have a gyno, Planned Parenthood will also get you all set up. 

Personally, I am not interested in anything hormonal, no pills, no shots, not even an IUD with a low dose. Not because anything is wrong with hormonal solutions, but because I am so ridiculously happy in my life right now, I don’t want anything that could shake me up emotionally. 

We’re doing condoms presently, and I will be having an copper IUD inserted. I considered a cervix cap as another non hormonal option, but just haven’t gone in that direction.

Please keep in mind, no birth control is perfect. All of them have historically had pregnancies occur anyways. Do maKe sure you consider before becoming sexually active what to do in case of an oopsie baby.

Post # 12
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

As others have said, you need to make an appointment with your Dr. or find a gyno to set up an appointment. You can talk to them about what might be best for you, and they will have to be the ones to give you BCP or the IUD anyway.

I was on BCP for 16 years and it was a lifesaver for me (I had really bad periods when I was young) and I didn’t have any major problems with it (no accidental pregnancies either).  Other than that the only other thing I would use would be a copper IUD.  Sometimes it takes a few tries or switches to find something that works best for you.

I would look into getting something 3-4 months before, just in case you have any reaction or need to switch to something else you have the time before your honeymoon to do so and to get used to it.  Though I think BCP only takes one full month of use to be effective.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

:S I’m sure OP is not the only one; I have to say, I find it troubling that there are grown women in one of the most developed countries in the world who are clueless about birth control.  This needs to change!

OP, you need to make an appointment with your doctor as soon as you can.  (S)He will help you determine what’s right for you.  If you don’t get migraines, I think the pill or the NuvaRing would be a great choice for you – but talk to a pro first.  Congratulations! 🙂

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

@Westwood: I more so meant three months to let your body adapt fully. I was always told by my doctor to try each pill for at least three months. I know the way I said it implied it might not be effective until three months but I was never told it was effective that early either (at one week) and know people who got pregnant in their first month of taking it. So just if OP is worried about that possibility she should use a back up. I know plenty of people who have been on the pill long term who still use a back up just in case because they really want the extra protection. I did not mean to imply you have to wait three months for it to be at all effective.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

Another resource – check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Wechsler. Whatever you ultimately decide on re. birth control, it’s great for demystifying things, helping you understand your own cycles and learn what’s normal for you.

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