Virtual baby shower?

posted 2 years ago in Babies
Post # 2
42166 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

polkadotpanda:  If she is hosting this shower for herself, yes. Showers are hosted for you by someone else.

I have been to a “virtual” bridal shower of sorts for a bride who moved a long distance away before the wedding .We all wanted to shower her with gifts so we gathered at her MOH’s home and she skyped in to the shower. The MOH opened the gifts in her stead.

Post # 3
1236 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

I think sending out registry information with the invite is tacky, always. But I’m pretty sure I’m in the minority on that one. As for the virtual aspect: adorable. I love the idea, I love how considerate it is for guests who can’t afford to travel. I’d be happy to “attend” one myself!

Post # 4
5162 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

Hmm, it’s an interesting, creative idea.  I don’t necessarily find the medium “tacky.”  I think that whether or not this ends up being tacky or not will be all in the execusion.  (I know I lose Bee points for using the word tacky – sue me.)

First of all – you shouldn’t host your own shower.  So that’s a non-starter regardless of the medium.

If it’s well done and gets at the heart of the event – quality time together, bonding with a group of supportive women, celebration of a happy event – then I don’t see anything tacky about it.  Also, if people are going to be sending gifts, they should feel they get something in return whether that be a fun event, good food, warm and fuzzies, or whatever. 

If it comes off as nothing but a cheap gift grab, then clearly that’s tacky.

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Post # 6
3668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Yeah, she just wants presents. Two thumbs down.

Post # 7
1902 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

It’s in poor taste.  It’s just an excuse to get people to buy her gifts.

Post # 8
11668 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Someone I know did this and her sister blasted the web page on Facebook. I thought it was tacky since the website basically was their registry, a guest book and a place to take votes in baby’s birth date. 

Post # 9
357 posts
Helper bee

polkadotpanda:  yep it’s tacky just because it defeats one of the purposes of showers, that you gather and give the brides tips and advice. I mean, not like we really do it, but you know what I mean. It just comes off as gift grabby.

Post # 10
3677 posts
Sugar bee

When I got pregnant we lived in a city that was several hours away from most of our family and friends, and then halfway through the pregnancy we moved to a city that was a long way away. All the female relatives were clamoring for a baby shower. Someone on each side of the family ended up organizing a virtual shower through Skype/Google Hangouts. They were low-key but really nice – a chance to hang out with special people and share in the excitement. It also allowed people to be a part of the event who otherwise wouldn’t have been able to.

The hostesses of each event did hold an actual, physical get-together with food, games, decorations, etc. for the people in their area, and then we and the other far-flung guests joined via Skype or Google. It worked out really well! A few people mailed gifts to us ahead of time, and we opened them on-camera. Others brought gifts to the hostess’ place, she opened them on our behalf and got them to us later. We were very touched that people put together such nice events for us when we were far away.

Post # 11
1526 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I dont think its tacky- although it would be nice to have some sort of get together. My friends wife if pregnant and they live in the mid west. His family and friends are on the east coast. So my friends mom is hosting a wrap and pack party. She invited the east coast friends and family and asked them to bring a present they want to send to the expecting parents. At the party she will provide appetizers and drinks, and wrapping supplies. Everyone will come and wrap their presents and pack them into boxes to ship across country.

Post # 12
2114 posts
Buzzing bee

polkadotpanda:  I don’t think it is.

Possibly because my family is so spread out we have had virtual xmas mornings etc. I think it is a nice way to include people who couldn’t physically be there. 

Post # 13
1443 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard

yeah, I do think it’s tacky no matter who is hosting it. when my friends from out of town have a baby, I do send a gift. but I like to feel like it was my idea and not pressured into doing it. 

Post # 14
3047 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Without the get together I definitely think it’s in poor taste – to me it just feels gift grabby.

However, if you’re part of a culture where baby-showers are norm (I’m not), and you find yourself in a situation where you’re far away from all the people that want to celebrate you, I think Skype is an excellent solution. Whenever I’m in Canada for Christmas and my family is in Sweden we open up our gifts together – using Skype on the big screen in the living room. It’s not the same of course, but it at least gives you a sense of connection and it’s great to see their reactions to their presents!

Post # 15
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I was going to say if you were all getting together to do a Skype shower that would not be tacky. We just did that for one of my really good friends who currently lives in Japan.

But, after reading your update this is very gift grabby and very much in poor taste.

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