Post # 1
First time poster looking for thoughts on a virtual baby shower.I know someone who is having a virtual baby shower. She lives far away from family and friends and is unable to travel for more traditional shower. She is sending out invites with like a cutesy poem and registry information and a small soap favor.. so my question is, would you find this tacky?
Post # 2
polkadotpanda: If she is hosting this shower for herself, yes. Showers are hosted for you by someone else.
I have been to a “virtual” bridal shower of sorts for a bride who moved a long distance away before the wedding .We all wanted to shower her with gifts so we gathered at her MOH’s home and she skyped in to the shower. The MOH opened the gifts in her stead.
Post # 3
- Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA
I think sending out registry information with the invite is tacky, always. But I’m pretty sure I’m in the minority on that one. As for the virtual aspect: adorable. I love the idea, I love how considerate it is for guests who can’t afford to travel. I’d be happy to “attend” one myself!
Post # 4
Hmm, it’s an interesting, creative idea. I don’t necessarily find the medium “tacky.” I think that whether or not this ends up being tacky or not will be all in the execusion. (I know I lose Bee points for using the word tacky – sue me.)
First of all – you shouldn’t host your own shower. So that’s a non-starter regardless of the medium.
If it’s well done and gets at the heart of the event – quality time together, bonding with a group of supportive women, celebration of a happy event – then I don’t see anything tacky about it. Also, if people are going to be sending gifts, they should feel they get something in return whether that be a fun event, good food, warm and fuzzies, or whatever.
If it comes off as nothing but a cheap gift grab, then clearly that’s tacky.
Post # 5
Technically her mom is hosting except it’s not like everyone gets together to celebrate. It’s literally if you want to buy us something here’s the registry information and here’s a favor. At no point will there a gathering of any kind.
Post # 6
Yeah, she just wants presents. Two thumbs down.
Post # 7
It’s in poor taste. It’s just an excuse to get people to buy her gifts.
Post # 8
Someone I know did this and her sister blasted the web page on Facebook. I thought it was tacky since the website basically was their registry, a guest book and a place to take votes in baby’s birth date.
Post # 9
polkadotpanda: yep it’s tacky just because it defeats one of the purposes of showers, that you gather and give the brides tips and advice. I mean, not like we really do it, but you know what I mean. It just comes off as gift grabby.
Post # 10
When I got pregnant we lived in a city that was several hours away from most of our family and friends, and then halfway through the pregnancy we moved to a city that was a long way away. All the female relatives were clamoring for a baby shower. Someone on each side of the family ended up organizing a virtual shower through Skype/Google Hangouts. They were low-key but really nice – a chance to hang out with special people and share in the excitement. It also allowed people to be a part of the event who otherwise wouldn’t have been able to.
The hostesses of each event did hold an actual, physical get-together with food, games, decorations, etc. for the people in their area, and then we and the other far-flung guests joined via Skype or Google. It worked out really well! A few people mailed gifts to us ahead of time, and we opened them on-camera. Others brought gifts to the hostess’ place, she opened them on our behalf and got them to us later. We were very touched that people put together such nice events for us when we were far away.
Post # 11
I dont think its tacky- although it would be nice to have some sort of get together. My friends wife if pregnant and they live in the mid west. His family and friends are on the east coast. So my friends mom is hosting a wrap and pack party. She invited the east coast friends and family and asked them to bring a present they want to send to the expecting parents. At the party she will provide appetizers and drinks, and wrapping supplies. Everyone will come and wrap their presents and pack them into boxes to ship across country.
Post # 12
polkadotpanda: I don’t think it is.
Possibly because my family is so spread out we have had virtual xmas mornings etc. I think it is a nice way to include people who couldn’t physically be there.
Post # 13
- Wedding: June 2010 - parent's backyard
yeah, I do think it’s tacky no matter who is hosting it. when my friends from out of town have a baby, I do send a gift. but I like to feel like it was my idea and not pressured into doing it.
Post # 14
Without the get together I definitely think it’s in poor taste – to me it just feels gift grabby.
However, if you’re part of a culture where baby-showers are norm (I’m not), and you find yourself in a situation where you’re far away from all the people that want to celebrate you, I think Skype is an excellent solution. Whenever I’m in Canada for Christmas and my family is in Sweden we open up our gifts together – using Skype on the big screen in the living room. It’s not the same of course, but it at least gives you a sense of connection and it’s great to see their reactions to their presents!
Post # 15
I was going to say if you were all getting together to do a Skype shower that would not be tacky. We just did that for one of my really good friends who currently lives in Japan.
But, after reading your update this is very gift grabby and very much in poor taste.