Post # 1
Here it is we married 5 years ago june 13th it was a quick civil service no family or anything just us. Now five years later we decided to celebrate big our 5 year, one thing led to another and now we are having a vow renewal ceremony all out semi formal event.
Here is were the issues my hubby and I both live in NY and so does my family we are close nit and I have a lot of Gay friends because I have a Gay brother so its just one great beautiful group package we come together and my hubby gets along well with everyone. His family lives all over the states none here in NY. Our families after 5 years still have not met 🙁 I have met them and I get along with them just fine. I feel its important I invite them because they are after my family too. The issue I am having is that they really are not very gay friendly. I mean my inlaw has a gay brother and she is so in denial about it that they are sorta astrage. Oh and the crazy ultra religious wierdo aunt is so much worst not even my huuby wants to invite her but we have to because its his moms sister. I dont want them to come to our event and ruin it by being uncomfirtable and out of place. Another issue is my mother does not speak English but she understand for the most part so there is that wall to climb too. I feel stressed and like maybe planning this was not such a great idea. Am I a bad person because I dont want to care about them and just enjoy our memorable day with my husband? I cant change his family they come with him as package and so does mine. What can I do can I even talk to them about this? My hubby says his parent are going to be super pissed if they cant make our event and the miss out on our ceremony.
Post # 3
I say invite everyone. If DH’s family wants to be uncomfortable, it’s their loss. You might just let your brother know ahead of time so he is prepared if someone tries to make a fool of themselves, but given you say that everyone is “just one great beautiful group package” I think your family and DH will be having a grand old time, and DH’s family can join in the fun if they want. No one will care if they sit on the sidelines, like I said–their loss!!
Post # 4
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Invite everyone and let things fall as they may. It’s one thing to be uncomfortable and another thing to physically fight with each other. A little discomfort is common at wedding where families and friends don’t know each other very well and may not necessarily agree with each other’s lifestyle choices, be they gay or straight. If the issue is that they may physically fight, I wouldn’t invite anybody prone to throwing the first punch.
Post # 5
Oh wow, I would invite them. Since you have so many concerns, call the ones that you feel will “act up” and let them know what to expect. If you don’t want to call them directly, call the one in your family that you know will spread the word. For sure they’ll get the message. From there, you can let them decide if not being around homosexuals is more important than being apart of your vow renewal. My two brother’s are the only family members on my side attending my wedding because I’m in an interracial relationship. Let the chips fall where they may. If they’re going to let another’s difference keep them away from showing their love to you and your husband, oh well. The show will go on successfully without them!
Post # 6
invite everyone! it would be really rude to not invite his family because you think they may not get along with your friends.
people have different point of views on everything
but they love you, and your husband and i am sure they would not do anything to ruin your day