Vow renewal??

posted 3 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

I think a simple white dress and a cake are a great idea. I love that you are including  a moment for other same sex couples. 

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

mundaetraversa:  I think it sounds like a great idea.  First of all, you can get as wedding-y as you like.  But I like your idea of dropping the complicated stuff and focusing on the pieces that really mean something as well as the CELEBRATION aspect.

When marriage equality finally goes nation wide, you deserve to celebrate.

Post # 4
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

mundaetraversa:  I think it sounds like a great idea.  First of all, you can get as wedding-y as you like.  But I like your idea of dropping the complicated stuff and focusing on the pieces that really mean something as well as the CELEBRATION aspect.

When marriage equality finally goes nation wide, you deserve to celebrate.

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

mundaetraversa:  I love that idea! Because it’s your renewal and your celebration, you should do whatever feels right to you! So, if you want to wear a white dress, wear it! Likewise with the cake. I certainly don’t think it will be too wedding-y should you choose to go that route. Before you start party planning, I think you and your wife should figure out what you both want from the renewal ceremony, and go from there 🙂 

As for the party, it seems like you’re really angling for a celebration that extends beyond your vow renewal, so why not get your friends involved for the reception? Throw an awesome post-renewal BBQ at the park (my local park rents covered shelters for something like $100/3 hours, and you can BYOB), and make it a potluck!

I just told my FI about this idea, and she loves it, too. We’re planning an August 2015 wedding because she’s English, and we need to wait for her visa to be approved. The day DOMA was struck down was the most incredible day for us, because it meant that we finally had a pathway to being together. (And as of yesterday, we can get legally married in my state!) So while we won’t have the multiple anniversary problems, we do have the same desire to celebrate just how far our country has come in a relatively short while!

Post # 7
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Blushing bee

I love the rainbow cake idea! There are so many possibilities for that. 

I think either a backyard or a restaurant would be fine. I love PP’s idea for a bbq in a park too.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: A very pretty church.

These are just my thoughts, I hope the tone doesn’t come over harsh, it isn’t meant to be:

You’ve had (and I assume paid for!) your proper wedding (the one with all your people, big celebration), married legally (though in a different state) and now, wonderfully will be celebrate that marriage being recognised in your state. This is wonderful, it is a triumph.

However, for your guests- I’d keep it low key and have an equality party afterwards (less couple focussed), I’d probably go rainbow fabulous (because I freaking love rainbows!), but casual. They’ve already ‘done’ your wedding. I enjoy weddings as a rule, but I guess I wouldn’t be desperate to attend several for one couple. It was a while ago but you don’t won’t to bring on a touch of the wedding fatigue (not my invention, a friend of mine has been complaining of it recently).

When did you get married? Could you hold the renewal on one of your anniversaries? Celebrating your marriage being recognised with a vow renewal and having a party would be a fabulous way to celebrate 5 years of marriage.

Rainbow cake is the best!

Depending on how you feel about helium, rainbow balloon archs are pretty awesome (even if it’s just a string of single balloons).

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

mundaetraversa:  Thank you so much!! We are really excited 🙂 

And yes, I am! It was a long time coming. Our plan was always to get married at my alma mater (Northwestern), which has a beautiful campus. We wanted to be able to marry legally in-state because I’ll be sponsoring my fiancée for her visa, and we were so excited when IL became a marriage state!

She’s from Leeds, although we met while she was working in London. My family really loves her and is incredibly supportive, so there was never any question about where we’d live. However, I was worried that my city girl would have a hard time adjusting to rural-ish American suburbia. Luckily, she fell in love with my tiny town, too! Where did you live when you were in the UK?

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

mundaetraversa:  Canterbury is lovely! And yes, Leeds is a really neat city; I think she’s enjoying living there far more than she expected to. She spent a long time in London (went to uni there) and so she really wasn’t sure what to expect when she moved back North. I think she’s been pleasantly surprised. 

You’re so kind to be so interested in our venue- I’ll send you a PM with links to some photos. I don’t want to derail your thread by gushing over our venue (because I could! I’ve been in love with for ten years!)!

Thank you so much 🙂 

 

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

mundaetraversa:  

Giant rainbow vagina cake?! BAHAHAHAHAHAHA  You slay me.

Get as wedding like as you want. My husband and I eloped when we married nearly four years ago. Our vow renewal next year will be just like an intimate and elegant wedding. Cake, dress, ceremony, sit down dinner……THE WORKS. 

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