Post # 1
We got married a week befor my husband deployed. It wasnt a planned thing, he got a surprise pass the week before he left and we decided to go for it. I had to fly to Texas to get married and none of our families were there.
We want to do an vow renewal next year so our families can be apart of a “real wedding”. I’ve started to plan it but sometime i think ijm being silly for doing this. Has anyone else done this and do you guys think this is a terrible idea?
Post # 3
Not a terrible idea at all. If you and your Darling Husband really want the “wedding experience” so to speak, go for it! There are lots of brides on the boards who have done the same thing. Search around, you’ll find lots of information. Good luck!
Post # 4
I don’t think this is silly at all.
I’m going to do the same thing as you: get married before deployment and then have the ceremony next year. The bees are very supportive on this topic! 🙂
Post # 5
I agree, it’s not silly at all! Being a military SO myself, I know plenty of other military couples who have done this. It definitely is not uncommon to have a courthouse wedding then plan the BIG day further down the road. With deployments and training, it can sometimes be very difficult to plan everything all at once.
Post # 6
it’s a great idea. Nothing wrong with having a formal ceremony. Some people may not understand but the people who care the most for you will be excited to celebrate a share in your special day. congrats to you 🙂
Post # 7
Go for it!!! I say forget all the etiquitte stuff and do what you want to do!! Enjoy the day and the experience!
Post # 8
- Wedding: November 2012 - Country Club
This isn’t silly at all. We have been planning a wedding for next October since January. He just got orders and in order for me to go with him we are getting married this Friday. We are still going to have our wedding next year. Everyone should understand why you want to do this and support you!
Post # 9
I know when I got married it wasn’t the wedding that I wanted. My Mother-In-Law ended up taking over the wedding and wouldn’t let me have my 2 cents. I am hoping that in a few years my husband and I will renew our vows and have a wedding that I really want. I wanted a small informal destination wedding with very few guests. So now I am just going to wait until my daughter is old enought to be a flower girl. 🙂
Post # 10
This is what my husband and I are doing. We just got married in September and now everyone knows, but are having a vow renewal back home in Michigan once he gets out of the miltiary. This way our friends and family can celebrate with us!
Post # 11
I’m doing the same thing!
My husband and I got engaged in March- then found out he’s deploying this Dec. so we got married in July. He is stationed in Florida.. both of our families are from California. So it was just the two of us. More for the legal aspect.
Now I’m planning a wedding to celebrate with friends and family and really bring our families together. At first I felt a little silly being a married “bride”.. but my friends and family are SO excited to be able to be a part of it and help plan. Everyone wants us to do it!
I’m probably going to word the ceremony as a vow renewal… but I’m still having bridesmaids and treating the rest as a normal wedding.
Do what you want. Your friends and family will be excited to be a part of it… and they will understand why you’re doing it this way. We have to work around the military- it’s not always easy.
Post # 11
I am having a destination vow renewal in November 2014. I have had the same feelings of it being ‘silly’ sometimes. We are celebrating 20 years together, but we’ve only been married 9. We did have a big wedding the first time, I guess that’s why this feels silly. But it’s a huge milestone for us, and we are proud of our teenage love being true love. It’s very rare.
Our wedding didn’t quite go as planned. I was so young and didn’t understand all the details and was heavily influenced by relatives on what our day was going To be. This time, small ceremony on the beach, and dinner for 12 at a top notch restaurant overlooking the ocean.
i I think more couples should be celebrating their milestones with a vow renewal. I want to do it every 10 years now. And of course, the big white dress!!
i see this thread was started 2 years ago. Would any of you be kind enough to share photos or stories?