Vow Renewal – Catholic Convalidation Ceremony

posted 2 years ago in Vow Renewals
Post # 2
2798 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

The only question I can answer is about the priest marrying you. Priests marrying/preforming a ceremony out of their home parish is entirely dependent on the parish that you are getting married at and if the local priest believes that you have a relationship that warrents it. For example, the parish priest where I got married is pretty laid back, and the priest who married us was my uncle. That was pretty easy to get the go ahead for. It would be harder if the priest is not a family member. I have heard stories about people wanting to be married by the priest they both were close to in college who intruduced them that was turned down by the local priest. The established relationship is important.

Post # 3
1566 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014


1. You will have to go through all of the same marriage preparation as a couple getting married for the first time, since this is your first time in the eyes of the Church.

2. The parish that you do your marriage prep at should be the one that you are having the convalidation at, and will give you a chance to establish a relationship with your local priest.

3. I don’t see any reason why your hometown priest couldn’t be involved as a second witness just as visiting priests are involved in weddings even when the main priest is from the church you’re in.

4. Yes, your family can come and participate, if you want them to. Your priest should be glad that your convalidation is supported by your family.

5. I see no reason why you can’t celebrate having your marriage recognized by the Church!

Post # 4
6448 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t have nitty gritty details about logistics, but my future in-laws had a convalidation ceremony many years ago. Their original wedding took place outside the church without official approval. FFIL is Catholic, and FMIL is Protestant. It was only later that FFIL learned that technically the church didn’t recognize the marriage because of the location. Per FI, the priest thought it was unnecessary for them to do it since they had been married for so long already, but they did it anyway. 

Post # 5
2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I’m wondering how you had a priest officiate your wedding – I’ve never known a priest who would perform a ceremony outside the church since the church won’t recognize it.

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