Post # 1
So my husband and I got married in May, but it was just us present (and witnesses).
We would like to have a “real” / “big” wedding with reception next summer. We got married quickly for insurance purposes, etc.
So, I know it’s technically a vow renewal, but are there certain “rules?”
We don’t want gifts nor do we expect them. We just want to dress up and have a big old fun fancy time 🙂
Post # 3
@aquaelle: Despite what some sourpuss Bees will tell you, beware of the bee that really gets upset when people call it a wedding, there are no rules.
Call it a wedding, wear your white dress, invite people just as it was a wedding. Make no mention of gifts but register if you want! There are no rules. Just two people reciting vows in front of the people they love – sounds like a wedding to me!
Post # 4
Call it a reception, a vow renewal, a party, that’s great! Just don’t call it a wedding because you’re already married, and it seems a bit shady to many people (including possibly your guests) to try to have a wedding when you wed a long time ago. That doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to celebrate, have a gorgeous dress, the whole nine yards. But calling it a wedding when your wedding was a while ago is like throwing a graduation party 8 months after you graduated. If you call it what it is, I’m sure it will turn out wonderfully!
Post # 5
I attended a beautiful vow renewal of a couple who married privately several months prior to their scheduled wedding date, and they still had a ceremony and reception with their family and friends on the originally scheduled date.
There were bridesmaids, groomsmen, a flower girl, etc. The major differences were that everyone in attendance knew that the couple was already married, and the pastor (my DH), publicly led the couple through a renewal of the vows they had made a few months prior.
Post # 5
My husband and I are renewing our vows for our fifth anniversary.
Our celebration will be just like a wedding.
We are referring to our event as a vow renewal because we are already married.
Post # 6
There are NO RULES, this is YOUR life and your money, so you can celebrate any way YOU want! If people don’t know you’re already married you can call it a wedding- or hell if they do know just call it “the wedding we never had” instead of a vow renewal. If people don’t want to support you they can just stay home! I’ve got no tolerance for the snark on these boards about legal wedding vs. marriage celebration, life is too short for all that negativity.