- 4 years ago
I read a lot of posts of brides, saying that they want a vow renewel after 5 years (which I never heard of before) or that they want a big ceremony, because they couldn’t afford a big celebration first.
However, my vision of the perfect wedding might seem unsual to some. I already had my big wedding with 200 guests, sit-down dinner, band, vienesse, etc. It was very upscale and I DID love the day. Husbands parents insisted on inviting so many people (and they also paid for most) and in their family you pretty much have to have a humongous wedding. And yes yes I do appreciate this, but sometimes I feel like this wasn’t really “me”. I didn’t know 60% of the people there and it was also a very stressful day, because people never leave you alone and you can’t actually enjoy being married. It was not the intimate celebration of love, i had hoped for.
I always envisioned myself getting married at the beach, with only me and my husband, even as a child! I always dreamed about a sunset beach wedding and then dinner and party (wherever we are). I was never a person for big celebrations and always found big weddings boring. I don’t like being the centre of attention and find so many things about weddings pretentious. I am also diappointed with this whole money making wedding industry, which tells you all the things you supposedly need to have.
Anyway, the whole point is-are there any other brides out there who feel similar? I feel ungrateful when I talk about this and I really don’t want to offend anyone, who likes big weddings, but I want a small re-do. BTW, my husband is in for the idea, so this is not a If-question, just wanted to know what other brides in similar situations did.
We will probably have a renewal after one year at the beach, but nothing is set in stone yet:)