Post # 1
My husband and I got married in a roman catholic church. We are considering renewing our vows for our 6th anniversary. I’m not actually sure if the church allow you to renew your vows, does anyone know if they do? If not we could always do a blessing. I know the vows don’t expire but we got married very young and had a tough few years getting our house and paying off debt etc and now after the birth of our first baby things seem to be on the up and we ar emore in love than ever, it would be nice to mark this as a sort of fresh start. What are your opinions of this? Do you think 6 years is not long enough to renew? I know they are more common for 25th or 50th etc but I just thought it would be nice. I’m not looking to recreate the wedding day, just a small church ceremony and maybe a little celebration after for close friends and family maybe a garden party or a sit down meal. I want it to be an intimate affair, the actual opposite of our wedding.
Post # 3
As you said, vows do not expire, so Catholics do not have a “vow renewal”; but we do have Reaffirmation of Marriage Vows. The Reaffirmation Ceremony is customarily done for 25th and 50th anniversaries:
“I (Name) reaffirm my marriage vow of (25, 50) years ago, and rededicate myself in the same spirit that I once took you (Name), for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, till death do us part.”
I don’t know if a priest would do it for a 6th anniversary, but it does not hurt to ask your parish priest. I’ve seen anniversary blessings being given at various times, and also wedding anniversary Mass Intentions. The priest might suggest this if it’s more appropriate.
Post # 4
would you feel comfortable having just a celebration of your marriage outside of the church? your vows are still valid and you don’t have to have any sort of religious person there, but maybe you could personally renew your vows at a quiet place in a park? or have a dinner with your closest friends and toast one another?
Post # 5
Hmm no I don’t think I would bother if it wasn’t religious, and it seems a bit silly saying my vows of 6 years lol. I wonder if this is the same everywhere, do no parishes allow vow renewals at all then?
Post # 6
@loopy_lou:the Reaffirmation of Vows is basically the Catholic vow renewal. I’m pretty sure a priest will let you do it for any anniversary (although it is more common for big ones), but you might have to pay a fee for use of the church, etc. I know a couple that did it for 5 years (they never had a big wedding, so they used their 5 yr anniversary as a big celebration).