Post # 1
Do you guys think its overkill for each of us (bride & groom) to say something personal for our vows and still have the officiant make us say “Do you ______, take ______ to be your husband/wife, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, etc etc”? Or is that redundant?
Post # 3
@SarahG212: I think that would be fine as long as he isn’t repeating anything that you’ve already said to each other.
Post # 4
we did this! i thought it was fine. we just kept our personal vows short!
Post # 5
we wrote our own vows and because it was a jewish wedding, we said something similar but in hebrew. it was not redundant at all.
Post # 6
@SarahG212: We actually just had this conversation with our priest. What we’re going to do is write that section into our vows. In the Episcopal ceremony there are two parts. The “for better for worse, richer or poorer” bit and then a ring exchange where you say “I give you this ring as a symbol, etc.” So we’re going to say our personal part about “I promise to kill all the spiders” or “I promise to not laugh when you wear that tshirt you’ve had since fifth grade” and then the for better for worse part.
Post # 7
In Canada the only regulation legally is that they have to ask the bride and the groom if they each consent, so for us we can do whatever we want as long as we have the ‘do you consent?’ portion in there. So I guess for every Canadian, no matter what you personalize that has to be in there, so I don’t think it’s too much at all to keep it 🙂
Post # 8
We are doing this! Like another poster said, as long as you’re not repeating the things you said in your personal vows I think it’s fine. I feel like it ties the whole thing together as well. We will be pronounced as husband and wife right after the traditional ones 🙂
Post # 9
Thank you so much ladies! This is all very helpful!