Vows: Do you have to repeat after officiant or…?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

What kind of wedding are you having?  Who is your officant?   Some churches/religious weddings will ask for you to do things a certain way.  If you are having a non-religious wedding where you are designing your own, you can do what ever you want. 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I also intend to take out the whole “repeat after me” stuff. But, we aren’t getting married in a church, so we have 100% flexibility. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2014 - 11/15/14-Vineyard

Yup. I agree. If it’s a church, court or justice of the peace, I think you have to follow thiers. If it’s non religious officiant, I think you can do what you want, just ask them. 

We just went over our ceremony with our officiant and we are having 3 types, first are mad lib vows given in the programs, we are going to pull out a couple completed ones each, to read out loud for fun. Then we have our own vows to say to each other and ending with the “Official” statements we say our I do’s to at the end by the officiant. 

 

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

 

laschai:  At this point, then, look for an officient and location that will allow you to do what you want.  Your questions on how you prefer to do things for your wedding can and should be apart of your interviews with the oficient you pick for your wedding.  

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

laschai:  You can do whatever you want!

Post # 8
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687 posts
Busy bee

We had a secular wedding and wrote our vows.  Our officiant had them printed, and gave us our copy to read when the time was right.  It worked for us 🙂

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

We had a christian wedding, but weren’t married inside a church. We wanted a pastor from a local church to officiate – I wrote our entire ceremony and he was more than happy to comply. We read our vows to each other and ony repeated after the pastor when we exchanged rings. I’m sure you’d be able to find an officiate who is willing to work with you. 

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