Post # 1
FI and I are very interested in writing our own vows. We realize that in the Catholic church, we would need to recite traditional vows (which we are 100% OK with). My question is, during that special time in the service where the bride and groom get to do something special…that’s how the priest described it….could we write something special to one another and recite it? I had heard of a couple doing this recently, but they were in a more liberal church, and I was wondering if anyone else has been allowed to do this.
We thought about putting our vows in the programs but felt it would be more special if we could say them to each other before we were married (we don’t really want to do this at the rehearsal dinner or reception…but I suppose we could).
Input/past experiences appreciated! Thanks!
Post # 3
You need to talk to the priest who will perform the ceremony. It will be completely up to him whether he’ll allow it or not.
Post # 4
I’ve heard about people doing this after saying the traditional vows.
Post # 5
We had a chance to do this, but then we decided to go traditional and say our words to one another in more informal terms at the reception speech. We did our own prayers of the faithful and I felt like that was a great way for to express some things that we wanted to say during the ceremony, and add our voice.
Post # 6
So, my computer hates me right now and won’t let me view this website, but I know they have information about writing your own vows in a Catholic mass.
Hopefully it will work for you.
Post # 7
@ILuvDance17: Thanks for the site! Actually, I had found that a while ago, and it had me confused since I had seen a couple recite their own vows in the church. I am very excited to say traditional vows as I think they are special and beautiful in their own way. However, a friend recently married in the church and their priest encouraged them to write their own vows to say after the traditional ones. I thought it would be a nice gesture, especially since FI is not Catholic/Christian and wants to express how he feels in his own words. I was wondering if anyone else had been given that option, or if that was a very odd circumstance.
I think I’ll have to get up the guts to ask my priest about this. He’s a pretty traditional guy, so I’m assuming the answer will be no, but I guess I won’t know until I ask! From the response I’m getting, I think it probably won’t happen, but that’s fine…all that matters is that we’re married :).