Post # 1
We’re meeting with our officiant tomorrow and I wanted to talk about vows. I dont know how traditional I want to go with "I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part." I do like something of that version…but Im not sure. What are your vows and what are some of your favorite you have heard or seen written down? I was on TheKnot.com and came across some Hindu vows…they do a seven steps of marriage and I like the 4th step, "While taking the fourth vow, the married couple pledges to acquire knowledge, happiness and harmony by mutual love, respect, understanding and faith. And the 7th step…"When the bride and the groom take the seventh and the last vow, they promise that they would be true and loyal to each other and would remain companions and best of friends for the lifetime." But how would you go about saying these in your vows? Im not saying this is what we will say but I like them! What do you like?
Post # 3
I want tradition. THE vows. Nothing changed or watered down. I want the vows to be the same ones my grandparents said 70 years ago and my parents said almost 44 years ago when they married.
And I don’t want a long sermon either. it will be significant, eloquent, heart-felt, and traditional. And all in 20 minutes or less.
Post # 4
My fiance offiated a wedding where he said the part, "to have and to hold", and instead of repeating it, the couple said it in their own words. I think the bride said to that one, "To spoon with you on the couch." 🙂 It was really cute!
Post # 5
I like the Hindu seven steps! It sounds really meaningful, and if you can find a way to tailor those steps into your vows, it would be lovely.
The most memorable vows (in fact, the only vows I can remember) I have ever heard? My friend and her husband wrote down ten promises to each other on paper. Each person sealed his or her promises in an envelope and gave it to the other person. During the ceremony, the bride read out the groom’s promises, and vice versa. Some of them were serious, and some were funny. I don’t remember the actual promises they made, but I remember it being incredibly touching and sweet.
Post # 6
"______, I promise to be faithful, supportive, and loyal and to give you my companionship and love throughout all the changes of our life. I vow to bring you happiness, and I will treasure you as my companion. I will celebrate the joys of life with you. I promise to support your dreams, and walk beside you offering courage and strength through all endeavors. From this day forward, I will be proud to be your wife/husband and your best friend."….LOVE THIS ONE!
Post # 7
Aww Bubbly I like that idea…and even if we dont read them out loud during the ceremony…maybe at the reception or just something to give each other on the honeymoon!! I love it! 🙂
Post # 8
Thanks, D.Marie – I never thought of doing this at the reception or during the honeymoon. That’s a great idea! What I loved about it was the reaction of the bride and groom as they read out the other person’s promises.
Post # 9
OK so I just talked to the fiance and we are going with this…
"______, I promise to be faithful, supportive, and loyal and to give you my companionship and love throughout all the changes of our life. I vow to bring you happiness, and I will treasure you as my companion. I will celebrate the joys of life with you. I promise to support your dreams, and walk beside you offering courage and strength through all endeavors. From this day forward, I will be proud to be your wife/husband and your best friend. I, ___, take you, ___, for my lawful wife/husband, to have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and health, until death do us part."
I LOVE IT and Cant wait to say these words to each other and be married in front of all our family members and friends! 🙂
Post # 10
I love the ideas here! I am (cough) supposed to be writing my own vows as we speak and this was the perfect starting point!
Post # 11
Aww Im so glad Erin…good luck writing them. Check out theknot.com for more!
Post # 12
We "wrote" our own (read mixed a bunch of ones we found online plus little bits of us):
I choose you, Michelle/Adam to be no other than yourself; loving what I know of you, and trusting what I do not yet know. I will respect you as an individual, partner, and equal. I promise to laugh with you when times are good, and endure with you when they are bad. I will always adore, honor, and encourage you. You are my best friend and I will love you always.
Today I join my life to yours as your friend, your lover, and your confidant. Let me be the shoulder you lean on, the rock on which you rest, the companion of your life. With you I will walk my path from this day forward. With this ring, I thee wed.
Post # 13
Aww Mdarrah I love them!! So sweet and real! Congrats!
Post # 14
Here are the vows my new husband and I used. We borrowed a few different lines from different vows we’d seen online and combined them all together:
I GROOM take you BRIDE /
for your warm heart and strength/
through love, laughter, and tears/
I promise to take you as you are/ and to accept whom you become./
I will honor our differences/
and make your plans and dreams as important to me as my own./
I promise to work for our relationship/
and to stand by your side as we face challenges together.
I promise to love, honor, and encourage you/
all the days of my life./
I take you as my wife.
Post # 15
these are the vows my husband and I exchanged. I also took snippets from other ones I found and just kind of changed things around
I "husband", take you "wife" to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love. I will trust you and respect you, laugh with you and cry with you, love you unconditionally and support you through good times and bad I will stand faithfully by your side during times of abundance, and times of need. I give you my hand, my heart, and my love, from this day forward for as long as we both shall live.
from our ring exchange
""Wife", With this ring, I give you a symbol of my promise that from this day forward, I will devote my love to you. You shall not walk alone for I shall always be beside you. May my heart be your shelter And my arms be your home. I feel so honored to call you my wife. I feel so pleased to call you mine."
Post # 16
mdarrah — I recognize part of your vows from Andrew Sullivan’s blog post about his own! I love the message of taking your partner for who they are and trusting in who they will become in the future, since we all change.