Post # 1
I always wanted a summer wedding but then I decided too late and went with the date me and my guy first went out Nov 3, and it’s on a Saturday. I am still working out on a theme and feeling a little lost and sad since I feeling the people who want to help are making it into their dream weeding and the people who I want to help (mostly family) are not in there to help or have said they will help. (but they do live 4 hours away) I do have some people who will be there to help and I will love them and embrace it.
The ones who are currently “giving me suggestions” I am writing them down but will end up doing something similar and in different colors or ideas. Some of the ideas are wonderful and others I just want to face palm.
Neither do I or my guy have our mothers, but I do have a lot of support with his family and some people here. I can get help from my pop but he lives 4 hours away and we only have one car.
My biggest problem I am having right now is do I really need to have a maid of honor and best man. I really don’t have friends and hate to say it I don’t want my twin sister as a maid of honor. I have a lot of problems with my twin I don’t need or want to get into. (I told her I decided I picked a date etc.. and she just ignored me and went on about a stupid video game. She also hasn’t shown any interest at all.)
I am having a small wedding (if I can help it) The food is going to be buffet style (Mexican and BBQ) and I am looking at theme of a winter wonderland. Thanks and I am glad I found this site.
Post # 3
@cassleer: Couple of responses for you!
1.) I think picking a meaningful day is sooo special. My guy and I have picked our 5 year dating anniversary to be our future wedding date, and I think days that mean something to you will make your day even more memorable.
2.) There is definitely a way to ask people to back off if they’re offering suggestions that you just really don’t enjoy. Try “Wow, that would be really pretty, but I think for my wedding, I want to go with this instead. I think it’ll match ____ better.” You can always use something that’s already set in stone as an excuse, like “Well, an soft white dress will match my color scheme better than ivory,” or something. It’s YOUR day, and the only other person who’s opinion matters as much is your FH–remember that. 🙂
3.) If you’re getting a lot of ideas that you don’t know what to do with, jot them down in a notebook labelled “Idea Book.” Then you can say, “I’ll give that some consideration when I look at the rest of the planning stuff.” And then you legitimately can look into ideas that you like.
4.) You don’t have to have any bridesmaids/MOH/groomsmen/BM. Don’t feel bogged down by tradition if it doesn’t fit you or your situation.
Don’t worry too much–the most important thing is that you’re getting married to someone you love, and, if you let the decisions come from the two of you, it’s going to be an amazingly special day!
Post # 4
You do not need to have any attendants, flower girl or ring bearer. You can just have you and FH there. Just beause you have a twin doesn’t mean she has to be in the wedding party or really involved. (Though hopefully she’ll come around).
It’s lovely to get suggestions, feel free to use or to disregard as needed.
I like theme of Winter Wonderland, you could really do a lot of beautiful decorations with that. Personally I’d love your food ideas, sounds great!
Post # 5
@sassyshoeskate: Thanks. I have my idea book by my side and I am working hard on making sure I write everything down. I have been nice to listen to what they have to offer but in the end I know it will be mine and my guys decision. And tradition is not my thing. The people who are suggesting stuff are saying I need to have the maid of honor ect.. but I wanted to make sure. They were saying I was needing them to be witness to our union.. So will put there blah blah to the side and go on planning.
Post # 6
@kerensa: Yea me being a twin is hard and I hate that for so long I had to make plans for the both of us and this is my special day and I want to keep it that way. I hope my sis can come around and help me but if she doesn’t It wont be the first time. Thanks for the advice that I don’t need to have all the other tradition maid of honor.. etc. That is a cost I don’t want to have.
And yes Mexican and BBQ is my favorite. I could eat it every day but I am trying to lose weight lol.
Post # 7
@cassleer: Even if you need a witness, you can always ask someone who is present. It doesn’t necessarily have to be a BM/MOH. 🙂
Also, a tip I have found literally in the past few days, is that if you are getting a lot of ideas, you can jot them down on post-it notes, and then that way you don’t clutter your idea book with any notes you don’t want. I’m going to take out stock in post-its, it seems! hahah.
Good luck planning! 🙂
Post # 8
@sassyshoeskate: thanks for the sticky note idea. I will go get some funky ones when I get a chance.
Post # 9
Sticky notes are the best! I have an enormous wedding binder and a lot of people giving input on what we “want” for our wedding. I’ve taken to saying “thanks for the suggestion! I’ll talk it over with FI!” and doing whatever we want anyway. It’s YOUR and FI’s wedding – do what YOU want!
Post # 10
I think every bride really needs to remember that the only person that will be really excited about your wedding day will be you. Feeling all gypped because other people don’t seem to be interested really is so pointless.