(Closed) w00t! Finally decided on a date, but…

posted 6 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
40 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

@cassleer:  Couple of responses for you!


1.) I think picking a meaningful day is sooo special.  My guy and I have picked our 5 year dating anniversary to be our future wedding date, and I think days that mean something to you will make your day even more memorable.


2.) There is definitely a way to ask people to back off if they’re offering suggestions that you just really don’t enjoy.  Try “Wow, that would be really pretty, but I think for my wedding, I want to go with this instead.  I think it’ll match ____ better.”  You can always use something that’s already set in stone as an excuse, like “Well, an soft white dress will match my color scheme better than ivory,” or something.  It’s YOUR day, and the only other person who’s opinion matters as much is your FH–remember that.  🙂


3.) If you’re getting a lot of ideas that you don’t know what to do with, jot them down in a notebook labelled “Idea Book.”  Then you can say, “I’ll give that some consideration when I look at the rest of the planning stuff.”  And then you legitimately can look into ideas that you like.


4.) You don’t have to have any bridesmaids/MOH/groomsmen/BM.  Don’t feel bogged down by tradition if it doesn’t fit you or your situation.


Don’t worry too much–the most important thing is that you’re getting married to someone you love, and, if you let the decisions come from the two of you, it’s going to be an amazingly special day!

Post # 4
4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

You do not need to have any attendants, flower girl or ring bearer. You can just have you and FH there. Just beause you have a twin doesn’t mean she has to be in the wedding party or really involved. (Though hopefully she’ll come around).

It’s lovely to get suggestions, feel free to use or to disregard as needed.

I like theme of Winter Wonderland, you could really do a lot of beautiful decorations with that. Personally I’d love your food ideas, sounds great!


Post # 7
40 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

@cassleer:  Even if you need a witness, you can always ask someone who is present.  It doesn’t necessarily have to be a BM/MOH.  🙂


Also, a tip I have found literally in the past few days, is that if you are getting a lot of ideas, you can jot them down on post-it notes, and then that way you don’t clutter your idea book with any notes you don’t want.  I’m going to take out stock in post-its, it seems!  hahah.


Good luck planning!  🙂

Post # 9
190 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Sticky notes are the best! I have an enormous wedding binder and a lot of people giving input on what we “want” for our wedding. I’ve taken to saying “thanks for the suggestion! I’ll talk it over with FI!” and doing whatever we want anyway. It’s YOUR and FI’s wedding – do what YOU want!

Post # 10
3357 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I think every bride really needs to remember that the only person that will be really excited about your wedding day will be you. Feeling all gypped because other people don’t seem to be interested really is so pointless.

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