Post # 1
FI just wrote to me and said “Today is Best Lady and her husband’s anniversery what can we do for them? I know I should have said this earlier.”
FYI, Best Lady is his best friend and also in the wedding. I met her once and never met her husband. I didn’t go to her wedding. It was before FI and I even met. And it was super small – something like 12 people.
By the way he phrased it, I felt this sense of urgency to send them an Edible Arrangement or something then I had to stop myself because I’m not sure if this is normal. I’ve NEVER bought anything for any of my friends for their wedding anniversary. The only people I really do anything for are my parents.
I simply say “Happy Anniversary” and keep it movin. Is that fine?
Post # 3
I think it’s fine just to wish them a happy anniversary. I don’t give a crap about friends’ anniversaries, and don’t even expect them to acknowledge mine.
Post # 4
I think it is nice to ackowledge someone’s anniversary, but buy them a gift? No, the only anniversary gift I ever bought was for my parents for their 30th. I think anniversaries are personal and for only the husband and wife to share.
Post # 5
@TaurianDoll: I agree with you, but I’m not really that much into gift giving for every little occasion, simply because once you set the precedent it becomes an expectation, lol.
I used to keep up with so many people’s birthdays, anniversaries, etc., and with all the holidays gift giving just got ridiculous. So now I don’t even send out Christmas cards any more. I think just wishing them Happy Anniversary is perfectly fine. But you might not want to go by me, haha. 🙂
Post # 6
I don’t even remember my friends’ anniversaries! I thought this is something that is personal to the couple save for the milestones (ie 25 years).
If your FI would like to do something, perhaps a nice card? Or even an email would suffice, in my opinion.
Post # 7
Get them a card or just a phone call from to wish them a happy anniversary. I wouldn’t worry too much about it.
Our friends that are married always seem surprised that we remembered their anniversaries. But we just shoot them a quick text or a call on that day. No big pomp and circumstance or anything.
EDIT: my writing is atrocious today “from to” – wth. I meant a call FROM you TO wish them…geez.
Post # 8
@TaurianDoll: An anniversary is very private and about the two people involved. I would never expect my friends to even acknowledge mine – it is up to FI to do that. If it was a big anniversary and they were having a party, I would bring a bottle of wine or something but to me, that is reserved for family. My siblings and I will have an anniversary party for my parents but I feel that is different than a friend.
Post # 9
@TaurianDoll: ….If it were me I would send them something REALLY inappropriate and funny…otherwise, no.
Post # 10
@Sunfire: LOL, I don’t send xmas cards anymore either. I have 4 siblings, 3 of whom have multiple kids. That is enough people to keep up with as it is!
Post # 11
I send cards to our close friends on their wedding anniversaries. 🙂
Post # 12
Nope. I know my parents go out with their group of friends for people’s anniversary but they all still pay for themselves.
I’ll usually acknowledge it by sending them a text or calling them and asking if they have special plans. I would only bring a (small) gift if they had a party.
Post # 13
No you definitely don’t need to do anything except say happy anniversary, it’s a date for them to celebrate together, not anyone else.
Post # 14
@TaurianDoll: If you happen upon a Walmart or a Dollar Tree or something and find a card $2 or under, grab one.
Other than that, a Happy Anniversary is fine. Shoot, I don’t usually do THAT unless someone happens to be right in my face AND I remember.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
@TaurianDoll: No. In fact, it’s a bit odd to do more than wish them a happy anniversary or send them a card. My stepmother hated that my grandparents always wanted to take her and my dad out to dinner for their anniversary. My stepmother always felt that an anniversary is a private celebration for the couple only, unless it’s a big anniversary like the 25th or 50th.
Post # 16
Where I’m from, you gets cards and gifts from all your family and close friends for an anniversary. My parents got gifts from siblings, children, parents, friends and work colleagues.
So I don’t find it odd at all.