Wait. Do we have to buy our friends something for their wedding anniversary?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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3654 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I think it’s fine just to wish them a happy anniversary.  I don’t give a crap about friends’ anniversaries, and don’t even expect them to acknowledge mine.

Post # 4
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1478 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think it is nice to ackowledge someone’s anniversary, but buy them a gift? No, the only anniversary gift I ever bought was for my parents for their 30th. I think anniversaries are personal and for only the husband and wife to share.

Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

@TaurianDoll:  I agree with you, but I’m not really that much into gift giving for every little occasion, simply because once you set the precedent it becomes an expectation, lol. 

I used to keep up with so many people’s birthdays, anniversaries, etc., and with all the holidays gift giving just got ridiculous.  So now I don’t even send out Christmas cards any more.  I think just wishing them Happy Anniversary is perfectly fine.  But you might not want to go by me, haha.  🙂

Post # 6
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3223 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I don’t even remember my friends’ anniversaries! I thought this is something that is personal to the couple save for the milestones (ie 25 years). 

If your FI would like to do something, perhaps a nice card? Or even an email would suffice, in my opinion. 

Post # 7
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1274 posts
Bumble bee

Get them a card or just a phone call from to wish them a happy anniversary. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. 

 

Our friends that are married always seem surprised that we remembered their anniversaries. But we just shoot them a quick text or a call on that day. No big pomp and circumstance or anything. 

EDIT: my writing is atrocious today “from to” – wth. I meant a call FROM you TO wish them…geez.

Post # 8
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9697 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@TaurianDoll:  An anniversary is very private and about the two people involved. I would never expect my friends to even acknowledge mine – it is up to FI to do that. If it was a big anniversary and they were having a party, I would bring a bottle of wine or something but to me, that is reserved for family. My siblings and I will have an anniversary party for my parents but I feel that is different than a friend.

Post # 9
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@TaurianDoll:  ….If it were me I would send them something REALLY inappropriate and funny…otherwise, no.

Post # 10
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Buzzing Beekeeper

@Sunfire:  LOL, I don’t send xmas cards anymore either. I have 4 siblings, 3 of whom have multiple kids. That is enough people to keep up with as it is!

Post # 11
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13419 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2011

I send cards to our close friends on their wedding anniversaries. 🙂

Post # 12
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7005 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Nope. I know my parents go out with their group of friends for people’s anniversary but they all still pay for themselves.

I’ll usually acknowledge it by sending them a text or calling them and asking if they have special plans. I would only bring a (small) gift if they had a party.

Post # 13
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5664 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

No you definitely don’t need to do anything except say happy anniversary, it’s a date for them to celebrate together, not anyone else.

Post # 14
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839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2008

@TaurianDoll:  If you happen upon a Walmart or a Dollar Tree or something and find a card $2 or under, grab one.

Other than that, a Happy Anniversary is fine. Shoot, I don’t usually do THAT unless someone happens to be right in my face AND I remember.

Post # 15
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9149 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

@TaurianDoll:  No.  In fact, it’s a bit odd to do more than wish them a happy anniversary or send them a card.  My stepmother hated that my grandparents always wanted to take her and my dad out to dinner for their anniversary.  My stepmother always felt that an anniversary is a private celebration for the couple only, unless it’s a big anniversary like the 25th or 50th.

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

Where I’m from, you gets cards and gifts from all your family and close friends for an anniversary. My parents got gifts from siblings, children, parents, friends and work colleagues.

So I don’t find it odd at all.

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