Wait or start trying

posted 2 months ago in Pregnancy
  • poll: Start trying or wait?
    Wait until after college and career hunting? : (22 votes)
    71 %
    Start trying while in college? : (6 votes)
    19 %
    Wait until we buy a house? : (3 votes)
    10 %
  • Post # 2
    Member
    647 posts
    Busy bee

    My friend got a new job while 8 months pregnant and my work hired a 6 month pregnant woman, so its possible.

    I would absolutely wait for a little more stability in my life, or at least until I suspect that I will have had a job for 6 months prior to having the baby. That way you get paid maternity leave and other benefits. I mean, what happens when you have to stop working your part time jobs and then heaven forbid you can’t get another job and you’ve got a baby to support? Can you afford to support a baby and you off of just your husband’s salary?

    I don’t think buying a home before a baby is necessary. Babies don’t need nearly as much extra room as an older child.

    Post # 3
    Member
    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2017 - A Historic Inn

    I’d also prefer to wait until things are more stable (start a career). You could even save up some money or make sure you have decent healthcare if you wait until after you start your career. IMO, since you’re renting a home, it won’t really be necessary to buy a house first. Have you made a pro/con list? 

    Post # 4
    Member
    764 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2016

    I think it really depends on your financial situation. Given that you’re working 2 part-time jobs while working towards a BA/BSc, my assumption is that your husband’s salary isn’t sufficiently high to meet all your financial needs alone. For that reason, I would suggest waiting until you’re in a career-job that provides paid maternity leave and health benefits.

    There will be at least a few months where you won’t be able to work and will need time away from school. If you can time the pregnancy so that baby is due in the beginning of summer holidays then you can build in your “mat leave” around you college/internship schedule. 

    It really comes down to finances (can you afford to take unpaid time away/risk losing your part time jobs?) and scheduling (you’ll need 2-3 months away from school/internship/work to get your feet under you). I know some people who have gone back to work/school within weeks of giving birth but these individuals have special circumstances in which those working were self-employed (so could make their own schedules, bring baby to work, and decide how MUCH work they were going to undertake) and ALL of them had immense family support systems in place. Whether it was in the form of free child care on call (all of them relied on this), help with house upkeep, financial assistance, etc. 

    It really comes down to the specifics of your situation on whether it’s manageable or not! 

    Post # 5
    Member
    325 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2016

    If you realistically look at your finances, can you afford to take the unpaid time off–not just to have the baby, but also for the delay in job hunting? My sister timed her baby with her graduation, and it worked out well for them–but if they’d been dependent on her income, it would have been a nightmare. Assuming you’re in the U.S., you usually have to have been working full-time for an employer for a year before you’re eligible for FMLA. There’s no guarantee that would mean any of your maternity leave would be paid, but at least your job would be protected.

    Post # 7
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    7724 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    You have to work a certain amount of hours to qualify for FMLA, and possibly for disability as well.

    Also make sure you factor in the cost of daycare. We pay $260/week…

    Post # 9
    Member
    683 posts
    Busy bee

    H3ather86 :  I would recommend finishing school first or waiting until you are about to graduate before trying.  Having a baby or toddler can be easy or difficult depending on the temperment of the child and parents. Also, pregnancy may or may not be a walk in the park so it’s probably best to be almost finished with school before trying. 

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