Post # 1
My mom wanted a day-of coordinator and she’s happy with it but so far, I don’t see the big deal.
We’ve got an event coordinator through the venue and I understand the timelines and am organizing everything myself. What exactly is she going to be doing?
Telling us where to go? I know where to go. She needs all the contracts and wants to be CC’d on all the emails to our florist, bakery, etc so she’s in the know, which is great but what exactly is she going to do with all that info? I guess she’s going to make sure it’s executed properly but I can do that. I’m the one with the vision for this thing, not her…..shouldn’t it be ME doing all of that?
So far she’s said she will help set up the tables (guest, cake, memorial) but the florists and the venue are already doing that. I know she can watch the card box and make sure it doesnt’ get stolen but…I don’t know. She even has an assistant.
What did you have your coordinator do for you?
Post # 3
@skippydarling: She is going to give you peace of mind….
for instance, if your vendors don’t show up or are late…or something crazy bad goes down on your day…one of your relatives gets drunk and tries to fight your mom, lol…
It’s good to have a coordinator! As my planner says, “She is there to Be your eyes and ears at the wedding” so you can sit back and relax. I took a huge huge sigh of relief when I booked my wedding planner.
At first I thought it was stupid and now I thank my lucky stars for her.
You will be very happy you have her if something bad happens 🙂
Post # 4
my wedding planner is going to make sure deliveries and everything gets to the venue. so i just have to worry about myself and getting married. she is also the person that can contact people/vendors if something goes wrong
Post # 5
My venue comes with a coordinator who will set up all the tables, decor, get DJ set up etc. but I would never hire one on my own. I just don’t see the point. But then again I have like 12 aunts and 20 female cousins who can also do anything I need them to.
Post # 6
@BrideToBe14: Yes – that will bring some peace of mind. I do have a few colorful cousins that I haven’t seen in a long time and I’m hoping they can handle their drink…if not perhaps she’ll help me out.
I’m also SUPER protective over our champagne glasses and cake topper. I DO NOT want to see them broken or missing. So I guess she would be in charge of making sure that didn’t get messed up.
Post # 7
I was in consistent communication with my coordinator months leading up to the wedding. She also helped me and gave me advice or opinions on potential vendors since she really knows the area and has worked with many people before. She really just helped reinforce a lot of things and gave me peace of mind.
Day of, I was so happy to have her. I didn’t have to think about anything. All I had to worry about was getting ready and that was it! She met with all the vendors and made sure all the details were set up perfectly. I met with her the day before and turned over all of our details, menus, table numbers, escort cards, etc.
Mine did handle all vendor communcation the two weeks leading up to the wedding and she created the timeline and approved it. That was really nice because the last few weeks can get stressful and she was the point of contact.
Post # 8
@skippydarling: More peace of mind and to take care of the headaches so you won;t have to.
I also have some colorful relatives who I would I be worried about, so I would want one so they can complain to the coordinator instead of to me. And complain they will! You gotta love family 🙂
Post # 9
And she’ll help you coordinate the “whole” event, as opposed to each vendor looking at their own piece only. She’ll look at how all the elements fit in together. And as she works at many different venues, she can see things differently than the venue’s event coordinator, who is used to dealing with events at this venue only. Our DOC was brilliant; she helped us during the planning with things we would never have thought of, even little things like how to decorate the bonbonnières. Sometimes you focus on the big thing, and she can bring you back to the details, and vice-versa.
Hope this makes sense and helps. We only had a tiny destination wedding in my home country, and our DOC made the process very easy and stress-free. Even for a control freak like me!
Post # 10
My in laws did most of the planning because it was in CA, and we live out of state. I wish I had a day of coordinator. I was stressed out on my wedding day because there were so many details overlooked and I didn’t know what was going on. Favors were forgotten and left at a aunt’s house an hour away that the aunt went back to get (I felt bad and didn’t care about retrieving them because I wanted her to enjoy the wedding but she went anyway). FIL coming up to me to ask me about technical difficulties about the slideshow on my computer. The emceeup coming to me and asking me the names of the groom and bridal party… I was stressed, let’s just say I didn’t enjoy my wedding that much.
Post # 11
@skippydarling: Yeah she can do all of that for you:) Great idea! I am also going to have my planner collect all the frames and things I want to keep after my wedding, so we don’t have to worry about them:)