Post # 1
haha is that sad? I’m sure the end result will be different than what I envision (seeing as I haven’t gotten FI’s opinion on anything because I was only waiting).. But I was waiting so long that I already know everything I want. lol I just need a date and a venue then I can tie up all of the loose ends.
Did this happen to anyone else?
Post # 3
I was actually never one to envision my future wedding. I guess I was raised around too many boys as a child considering I am the only girl. But I do admit I have thought about it a lot more since I met my J. Now that we are engaged, my head is spinning with ideas, but I have no idea where to start! It’s going to be a blast. I cannot wait to get started.
Post # 4
I had the venue and the actual date picked out before the official proposal but he was in on it. I really wanted to get married on my grandparent’s anniversary. I had dreamed up a lot of the details also….I think everybody starts imagining things when they know “its” coming 🙂
Post # 5
I’m engaged without being “officially” engaged (My boyfriend and I discuss the future as “after we’re married”, we’ve already chosen a date, and overall we know we’re getting hitched, but we haven’t told anyone we’re engaged since he does not consider us “official” until he gets the ring and proposes “properly”) so I’ve already thought about and planned a lot.
We already decided together on what venue we wanted and I have lot of ideas for how I want the wedding to feel. I’ve even started thinking about what our invitations will look like lol.
Post # 6
For me it was not like that, in the sense that I was not planning my wedding prior to getting engaged. Then again, I never really pictured my wedding when I was a kid, and had little interest for any wedding related stuff (magazines, dresses) until getting engaged, while I know for many women it’s different. So I don’t think it’s strange, but don’t plan too much! It’s lots of fun to figure things out with your FI when the times right!
Post # 7
I was a bride that didn’t believe in even getting married. lol That all changed; but because of it, I never even thought about the wedding other than “If I ever get married, it’ll be on a beach”. And lucky for me, FI agreed. lol
Things will definitely change. But, its cool you have all that done. It’ll definitely help. But, you’re absolutely right … things will definitely change. lolol
Post # 8
I’ve been obsessed with weddings since I was a little kid, I used to watch TLC’s A Wedding Story daily (and I was like 10!)… For a long time I thought I wanted to be a wedding planner, so it’s kind of hard to turn off the ideas. lol
My FI is so laid back about all of the details of it all, so I’m worried he won’t give me ANY input. lol I mean, the guy can barely decide what he’s going to eat for lunch without my opinion (even though half the time he doesn’t listen). Oh the adventures of wedding planning! haha
Post # 9
I don’t think J cares much about the plans either. He told me that I’m on my own at one point. But I think he will give in because he knows how excited I am. I actually brought up the fact that we should start looking at venues and such. His response was “already?!” I told him that we should look at some and get prices and figure out a guesstimate number of guests. I know I have awhile, but I like to be prepared!
Post # 10
I found it funny though how as soon as I got engaged and had to plan for real it was surprisingly easy to let go of the “dream” wedding ideas. I’m not getting letterpress invitations, a carolina herrera gown with la perla lingerie, and individual cakes and bottles of champagne for each guest, and I’m totally cool with that!
@o0olibelulao0o I was the exact same way! My friends would get so sick of me always wanting to watch that show as soon as we got home from school everyday! I’ve been buying Martha Stewart Weddings magazines for almost 10 years. That’s insane!
Post # 11
@o0olibelulao0o: I am currently waiting for him to propose, but also planning! I really cannot help myself. I am having a bad time at the moment, as I am away from my boyfriend a lot, but planning and envisioning our wedding is helping me to get through this tough time.
Post # 12
its happened to me. the mister and i actually are planning on going over the details and ideas i picked out during his next visit!
Post # 13
Haha, I do the exact same thing! I dress shop online (so much so that I already have it narrowed down to a handful of dresses that I would want to try on), I put together guest lists, I weighed the pros and cons and decided I want to DIY our paper goods, so ond and so forth. However for me I consider this beneficial (as opposed to crazy :P), as I am THE MOST fickle person you will ever meet. I figure I’ll get all the fickle-ness out of the way now so that whenever the day comes to actually plan my wedding, I’ll know generally what I want, instead of trying to be fickle at the same time as actually having to make decisions!
Post # 14
not me- I am waiting to plan when I am actually engaged for that full experience.
Post # 15
I totally have planned probably like 90% of everything.. LoL. I’m sure that things will get changed.. it’s more like “dream planning” right now. I know that he has chosen a ring & that the proposal will be sometime between now and the end of June. We also hope to have a short engagement.. 10mo at the most, hopefully. So I feel like getting an idea of what I want now will help in the long run.
Post # 16
I don’t think it’s weird either. I’ve got almost everything planned already too, and my SO is in on everything . . . we basically don’t know our photographer or caterer yet, but we have ideas.
I think it’s smart to plan *some* things early so that when the actual engagement happens, you can enjoy your betrothal to its fullest without being stressed with every detail of planning. Besides, having the internet as a medium for research and planning makes this much easier than it was, say, ten years ago, so I don’t think us ladies in-waiting can help ourselves. ^_^