I waited! (And felt like the only one, too). I'm married now (yay!), but both my husband and I were virgins when we got married. So... I have a whopping 8 1/2 months of "experience" now, and 28 years of waiting before that, so if you have any questions at all, ask away! And hang in there -- it's so, so worth it.
Nope - we've both been waiting too. Looking forward to the wedding night and honeymoon....
side note - I went to the gyn for a checkup and to talk about birth control stuff recently and she was literally shocked that I was 28 and still a virgin in this day and age. She was nice about it - but I could really tell she was shocked that I had chosen to wait.
my FH and i are waiting...he's a virgin but I'm not (we like to say i'm born again since i haven't had sex in 4 years)...we're both extremely excited for the wedding day...we're getting married in the morning, the reception will be over at 4pm...we thought about planning something for everyone that night but figured we had lots of practicing to do :) so we decided against it...the funny thing is that i think i'm more nervous about it then he is....
i think it's extremely admirable that people can wait until their married, its a hard thing to do...don't worry, you're not the only one!
My FH and I are not virgins but we have decided to abstain from sex until our wedding in June 2009. It has been difficult but it the end it will be way worth it.
I admire people who have waited until marriage to have sex. I think it makes everything that much more exciting and special. Good for you!
I hope this isn't too TMI to post but just FYI, having sex when you're not used to it can cause you to start your "time of the month" almost immediately. So just be prepared and pack some extra feminine products even if you don't think you'll need them.
We're waiting too, and we're actually waiting for our first kiss as well. That one has been really hard, especially because there are even fewer people like that out there to support you.
WOW!! i forgot that i posted this and forgot to check if there were any responses till this morning!! How incouraging that there are other gals out there just like me!! meelahj, our situation is just like yours... and i feel the same way.. i am pretty sure i am more nervous about it than he is... haha
I'm married now, but we waited too. And we did what meelahj described for our wedding day. The reception was over by 4pm and we were in our hotel room by 5. It was great. So glad we did it that way, because we were sooo tired and passed out by 8!
We are waiting, too! One of us has (a long time ago), and the other hasn't, but I really don't think it is an issue.
I am super excited, but one of my friends waited and said it took her a LONG time to enjoy. I hope that isn't true for me, bc I can't wait for my honeymoon! I also had a Dr freak me out a bit about it. (I no longer see her due to other issues such as repeatedly testing the V* for STDs and never spending time to address my issues, ended up being allergy related, but she told me I should never use c******s when I start...Isn't that scary advice? Maybe I don't know enough, but that would be dangerous advice in a more promiscuous person's hands...) So, I probably just need to talk to my new Dr about any "embarassing" honeymoon questions. (bc there is NO way I'm talking to my mom!!!)
december: i went to a wedding where it was the couple's first kiss ever for both of them. the bride gave a really cute squeal after the kiss. that wedding was the most beautiful moment of my life so far, i think. good luck! :)
Neither FI or I are, but I just wanted to add in - and I'm sure this is waaaaaayyy TMI, so, sorry! Be careful of UTI's (urinary tract infections). I'm sure your doctors have said something about this, but one of the things I do is to make sure that I always go to the bathroom after sex - it helps get all of the "stuff" out of there. Maybe I'm a freak but I always "clean" myself afterwards because I've had problems with yeast infections. Drinking cranberry juice and eating yogurt also helps with both of these problems.
I think it does take a while to learn how to "fully" enjoy sex, but that doesn't mean that you won't enjoy it at all. It's just that women almost have to figure out the phsyical feeling needed to "take it to the end". Where as guys automaticly "finish". Just look at it this way, it will only get better in the years to come!
Similar to some of the other posters' stories, neither of us are virgins but we both saw the value of enewing our committment to chastity until marriage. So while we've both had sex before, sex with each other will be a brand new and wonderful experience that we're eagerly anticipating.
So I know this may be a long shot... but are there any brides on here actually waiting for marriage to have sex? or am i the only one??
just curious...
hope to talk to you if you're out there!
posted by lvemySmith 12 posts 5 months agoI am too! It always seems like I'm the only one!
posted by navybride 33 posts 5 months agoI waited! (And felt like the only one, too). I'm married now (yay!), but both my husband and I were virgins when we got married. So... I have a whopping 8 1/2 months of "experience" now, and 28 years of waiting before that, so if you have any questions at all, ask away! And hang in there -- it's so, so worth it.
posted by KNW 21 posts 5 months agoWe're waiting, so you're not quite the only one :)
posted by missbean 131 posts 5 months agoNope - we've both been waiting too. Looking forward to the wedding night and honeymoon....
side note - I went to the gyn for a checkup and to talk about birth control stuff recently and she was literally shocked that I was 28 and still a virgin in this day and age. She was nice about it - but I could really tell she was shocked that I had chosen to wait.
posted by sourceofjoy 12 posts 5 months agomy FH and i are waiting...he's a virgin but I'm not (we like to say i'm born again since i haven't had sex in 4 years)...we're both extremely excited for the wedding day...we're getting married in the morning, the reception will be over at 4pm...we thought about planning something for everyone that night but figured we had lots of practicing to do :) so we decided against it...the funny thing is that i think i'm more nervous about it then he is....
i think it's extremely admirable that people can wait until their married, its a hard thing to do...don't worry, you're not the only one!
posted by meelahj 116 posts 5 months agoMy FH and I are not virgins but we have decided to abstain from sex until our wedding in June 2009. It has been difficult but it the end it will be way worth it.
I admire people who have waited until marriage to have sex. I think it makes everything that much more exciting and special. Good for you!
posted by mel15brk 16 posts 5 months agoI hope this isn't too TMI to post but just FYI, having sex when you're not used to it can cause you to start your "time of the month" almost immediately. So just be prepared and pack some extra feminine products even if you don't think you'll need them.
posted by snmcdowell 467 posts 5 months agoWe're waiting too, and we're actually waiting for our first kiss as well. That one has been really hard, especially because there are even fewer people like that out there to support you.
posted by December 69 posts 5 months agoWOW!! i forgot that i posted this and forgot to check if there were any responses till this morning!! How incouraging that there are other gals out there just like me!! meelahj, our situation is just like yours... and i feel the same way.. i am pretty sure i am more nervous about it than he is... haha
great to hear from all of you!!
posted by lvemySmith 12 posts 5 months agoI'm married now, but we waited too. And we did what meelahj described for our wedding day. The reception was over by 4pm and we were in our hotel room by 5. It was great. So glad we did it that way, because we were sooo tired and passed out by 8!
posted by allibug 4 posts 5 months agoWe are waiting, too! One of us has (a long time ago), and the other hasn't, but I really don't think it is an issue.
I am super excited, but one of my friends waited and said it took her a LONG time to enjoy. I hope that isn't true for me, bc I can't wait for my honeymoon! I also had a Dr freak me out a bit about it. (I no longer see her due to other issues such as repeatedly testing the V* for STDs and never spending time to address my issues, ended up being allergy related, but she told me I should never use c******s when I start...Isn't that scary advice? Maybe I don't know enough, but that would be dangerous advice in a more promiscuous person's hands...) So, I probably just need to talk to my new Dr about any "embarassing" honeymoon questions. (bc there is NO way I'm talking to my mom!!!)
Congrats to all you ladies!
posted by cannotwait 214 posts 5 months agoWe're waiting.
posted by elizzard87 16 posts 5 months agoNeither of us were virgins, but we abstained until we were married. It was definitely worth it.
posted by knudsonwedding 194 posts 5 months agodecember: i went to a wedding where it was the couple's first kiss ever for both of them. the bride gave a really cute squeal after the kiss. that wedding was the most beautiful moment of my life so far, i think. good luck! :)
posted by melodicsighs1 86 posts 5 months agoNeither FI or I are, but I just wanted to add in - and I'm sure this is waaaaaayyy TMI, so, sorry! Be careful of UTI's (urinary tract infections). I'm sure your doctors have said something about this, but one of the things I do is to make sure that I always go to the bathroom after sex - it helps get all of the "stuff" out of there. Maybe I'm a freak but I always "clean" myself afterwards because I've had problems with yeast infections. Drinking cranberry juice and eating yogurt also helps with both of these problems.
Good luck, take it slow and enjoy!
posted by jma19 364 posts 5 months agoHere's a good post for virgins tying the knot:
http://talesfromthecrib.blogspot.com/2006/04/speaking-girl-to-girl-mormon-honeymoon.html
Some of the things mentioned are specific to LDS (Mormon) brides, but most of it is applicable to everybody.
Enjoy!
posted by elizzard87 16 posts 5 months agoFiance and I are both virgins and both waiting for the wedding night....we are pretty nervous though!!!!!
posted by MissTeaberry 69 posts 5 months agocannotwait:
I think it does take a while to learn how to "fully" enjoy sex, but that doesn't mean that you won't enjoy it at all. It's just that women almost have to figure out the phsyical feeling needed to "take it to the end". Where as guys automaticly "finish". Just look at it this way, it will only get better in the years to come!
posted by Candi1024 304 posts 5 months agoSimilar to some of the other posters' stories, neither of us are virgins but we both saw the value of enewing our committment to chastity until marriage. So while we've both had sex before, sex with each other will be a brand new and wonderful experience that we're eagerly anticipating.
posted by ErinSea 129 posts 5 months ago