Post # 1
I have been waiting for my boyfriend to propose to me for the past 3 months and it is killing me 🙁 I m in no rush to marry, but being in this “limbo state” is killing me….. We’ve talked about marriage and know we want to spend our lives together and he even said a proposal is long overdo but the waiting game is making me crazy! I don’t have many close friends (the ones I have are single and I feel bad sharing my excitement with them) so I have been bottling up this excitement for months!
Its exciting but making me feel miserable at the same time 🙁 I can’t concentrate on anything – thoughts of rings and proposals have consumed my mind ( which is unhealthy) and I either end up coping by lashing out at people or eating 🙁 Both of which are unhealthy and I need to stop.
SO far I have been trying on rings to console myself – but the jewelers recognize me now so I have to stop ! lol
How do others cope?
Post # 3
@sesame: Pinterest and Weddingbee lol that’s my prescription! Welcome to the waiting club. Also, when I get crazy anxious about waiting, I use that to jump start my “fit into the gown” diet and exercise lol it may not work all the time, but it’s good to focus on good things like working on crafts or ideas for the wedding that you’ll have to do down the road but you have the time for now 🙂
Post # 4
Find a hobby, join the gym, bake, clean, cartwheel… do whatever you can to keep yourself busy. The more attention you give to thoughts of an engagement/wedding, the worse you’ll feel and the crazier you’ll become. Come here to vent when the temptation to try on rings gets to you, and hopefully you’ll have a ring on your finger in the near future.
Post # 5
@sesame: personally, i just work on my beauty regime and keep my nails neat, if he’s going to pop the question, your hands will be photographed lots. want them to be perfect. also, this one is a give in but white teeth. you’ll be smiling lots and want your best side showing lol. and, for me at least, i’m growing my hair, i want shoulder length hair for my big day so the stylists have something to work with lol
Post # 6
Thank you so much for you input! I am back at the gym which has eased my nerves 🙂
I’m also going take this as an excure to pamper myself and take care of my nails, teeth, etc to be prepped for when “it” happens.
Reading these boards for the past few days has made me feel less crazy seeing that other girls share the same thoughts while waiting I see that it is perfectly normal to feel this way and will start trying to enjoying it rather than get too anxious.
Post # 7
@sesame: the gym helps, i promise! i’ve been waiting since june when we bought my ring, but we still have all those conversations about the future, and wedding planning, etc. so i know exactly how you feel! but going to the gym and making jewelry (favorite crafty hobby!) definitely keep my mind off the waiting game!
Post # 8
@sesame: It’s really hard to wait. Are you living togther by any chance? I think soemtimes if you reside with one another, the guys kind of get too relaxed and used to you being there. Its technically like being married without the ring etc. Do you think maybe he is saving up for the ring?
Post # 9
thank you misBfuturemrsB.
@pitbull2514 *sigh* we both still live at home with our parents…… I think he just wants to make sure we are making the right decision.
Reading these message boards has really helped … seeing that other bees are going through the same feelings makes me feel normal. Anytime I feel sad I’m not planning my own wedding I just go through the forums and live vicariously through the other bees!
Post # 10