posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
52 posts
Worker bee

I feel your pain. Ours were due 4/12 and we are still missing at least 25% of them. We’ve had people write in other people’s names (even though the invites were addressed to specific people), others who were unable to figure out that they just needed to pop the RSVP back into an (pre-stamped, pre-addressed!) envelope, among other things. It’s mostly making me so upset because it’s his friends that are the stragglers. He’s even asked them if they got the RSVP and  they’ve casually said, “yeah, I’ll let you know.” I’ve been a pretty laid back bride so far (no wedding party, no seating plan, just trying to relax and be excited about marrying my best friend and celebrating with everyone), but people’s rudeness and/or complete lack of awareness is very grating! 

I would definitely say something to the bridal party ASAP and start texting or calling about 2 days after, if you still haven’t heard from others (and that’s being generous). You just tell them that you need a final head count for the caterer/venue and hope they have enough common sense to understand that. And also, as with us, I’m going to assume that some of the people from across the country who still haven’t RSVP’d will not be attending.

Good luck, and congratulations on your special day! 🙂

Post # 4
94 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

JL4SM:  ugh I know!! We just sent out our invites in March- we invited 224 people and so far only 30 rsvps have been recieved. I wish they would hurry up lol! Our deadline is not until June so tons of time but still, I feel your pain Girl!!

Post # 5
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle

This is why im just asking them to call. Hoping they will mark on the calender and call us as soon as they get the RSVP..

If people havnt RSVP’d by the date i will be calling them that night.. My wedding by then would be three and a half years in the making.. so if they dont remember then ill invite more of my friends.. (trying to keep costs down as we are paying for everything ourselves so family is priority but if they arnt coming ill invite more friends..)

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