Post # 1
I sent our invitations out around 3 weeks ago, with our RSVP return date as April 23 – a whole month before our wedding, simply due to the fact that MIL is helping with a couple of guests and she basically has a long process to be able to do that.
This is not really a vent, just more of a feeling impatient story – because every bride is excited about their RSVPs rolling in!
So far we have 19/85 back in our hands – none from our Bridal party! A lot of people seem to be confused about our RSVP postcards (which were pre-stamped!) some people have called me and said “okay so do I just give you this in person”, putting them in an envelope and sending them back, attaching another stamp to them.
we also sent out sve the date’s in September/October, so it’s not like people haven’t had time to think about this.
Perhaps a little impatient, but any bride to be knows the feeling.
Post # 2
I feel your pain. Ours were due 4/12 and we are still missing at least 25% of them. We’ve had people write in other people’s names (even though the invites were addressed to specific people), others who were unable to figure out that they just needed to pop the RSVP back into an (pre-stamped, pre-addressed!) envelope, among other things. It’s mostly making me so upset because it’s his friends that are the stragglers. He’s even asked them if they got the RSVP and they’ve casually said, “yeah, I’ll let you know.” I’ve been a pretty laid back bride so far (no wedding party, no seating plan, just trying to relax and be excited about marrying my best friend and celebrating with everyone), but people’s rudeness and/or complete lack of awareness is very grating!
I would definitely say something to the bridal party ASAP and start texting or calling about 2 days after, if you still haven’t heard from others (and that’s being generous). You just tell them that you need a final head count for the caterer/venue and hope they have enough common sense to understand that. And also, as with us, I’m going to assume that some of the people from across the country who still haven’t RSVP’d will not be attending.
Good luck, and congratulations on your special day! 🙂
Post # 3
DoYouLikeGuacamole: Thank you, congratulations to you, too!<br /><br />It really sucks that people seem uninterested. This is more than likely the biggest event we’ll ever be hosting in our lives, and it’d be great if people appreciated the effort we’re going to in order to make it a great night for everyone. Send. Back. The. Fricken. RSVP. Already.<br /><br />So far we’re up to something like 34 adults coming, 4 who aren’t and then a couple of kids. None of our bridal party have actually sent it back – best man and his FI ‘lost’ theirs, maid of honour (who is otherwise perfect!) told me over text that her partner wouldn’t be going, so it was then that I made super sure she had no dietary requirements, and the other 2 groomsmen… nope, haven’t received theirs, either. My sister’s (BM #2) RSVP was sent back with my mum’s, and my cousin (BM #3) – her family is yet to RSVP even though they’re definitely coming. Only 1/6 families from FIs dad’s side have responded – and they’re constantly talking about the wedding and how excited they are. Send. Back. The. Fricken. RSVP. Already.
Post # 4
JL4SM: ugh I know!! We just sent out our invites in March- we invited 224 people and so far only 30 rsvps have been recieved. I wish they would hurry up lol! Our deadline is not until June so tons of time but still, I feel your pain Girl!!
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2016 - Our Castle
This is why im just asking them to call. Hoping they will mark on the calender and call us as soon as they get the RSVP..
If people havnt RSVP’d by the date i will be calling them that night.. My wedding by then would be three and a half years in the making.. so if they dont remember then ill invite more of my friends.. (trying to keep costs down as we are paying for everything ourselves so family is priority but if they arnt coming ill invite more friends..)