- 5 years ago
Hello All You Lovely Bees!
So, I’ve been reading posts and adding in my two cents here and there – and one of the most common things that I have come across is this scenario:
“My SO and I have been together for XX years. We love one another, can’t live without one another, and know that He/She is THE ONE. We have been toying/playing/talking about/dreaming about/fantasizing about the day when we will get married. BUT (there’s always a “but,”) He/She says that He/She wants to wait – that He/She loves me, but that He/She wants to wait/have a long engagement/want to live together for XX years before we get engaged/etc…What’s the big deal?” (Granted, I’m sure that my small re-cap of the events that I have been reading about is nothing compared to the real situations with back-stories, but you get the idea.)
That being said, something that confuses me about all of this is: If you know that you want to get married, and you know that you don’t want to spend the rest of your life with anyone else but Him/Her, then why do you get the “itch in your feet” to get engaged/married/etc to Him/Her ASAP?
Now, I was guilty of this in the past, in my past relationship. I loved my SO to the Moon and back and would have done anything for him. I knew that I wanted us to get married and have babies and a house with a white-picked fence and a dog. I knew that I wanted all of that with my SO. BUT (there it is again!) I couldn’t stand the thought of having to wait around for it. After all, we had been together for XX years…. (see the pattern?)
Are we really just being greedy, Bees? Are we, as the Lovely Bumbles that we are, forgetting that the waiting process can be just as sweet as the Nectar of Wedded Bliss? Or has society trained us to look for the “next step,” from our SOs that proves to us that we truly are wanted and loved in this world? Do we constantly look for that next step to make sure that our SOs are viable/successful mates?
As always, I’m just here supporting you Lovely Ladies and Gents, and providing you with a small spot of my Inspirational Tea.