Waiting (advice)

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

That’s really rough. Aside from “just announce without the ring” not sure what to tell you… so sorry dear!

I’m glad you KNOW it’s coming, though. Waiting was so much harder for me when I had no idea when/IF it was even going to happen. In the meantime, keep in mind that you would love if all these other people were excited for you… so be excited for them 🙂 Rejoice with them now and they should rejoice with you later.

But for those of us who know… YAY!! And we’re so happy for you both!

Post # 4
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2057 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia

You will get your glow!! 🙂 Don’t compare yourself to others — that sets you up for sadness and disappointment.

Enjoy this unofficial engagement phase before the crazy wedding planning happens! Looking back, I was happy I took a while before I announced it to others other than my best friend and mother. Everyone else didn’t find out until a few weeks later. No pressure with questions like, “When is the date?” “Am I getting an invite?” “Can I be your bridesmaid?”

Now.. it’s like.. I hate it when people see me as a bride. I’m a person! Goodness grief!

ETA: Pre-congrats are in order!! Very exciting!! 😀 😀

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@ohhbitty:  I’m in a similar situation as you are… waiting for an official engagement although we are engaged. Do not announce it. I mentioned it to 3 people and left it there. In the mean time, I started getting the prices for venues, dresses, etc. I even bought my shoes!! Occupy your time with the preliminary planning.

I get where you feel as if your thunder is being stolen. I know a guy who has been with 3 women for the duration of my relationship and he is now getting married in December. Another who has been dating for even less time, got engaged a few weeks ago. I feel as if people should be excited for me too but it is just not time as yet.

Our time will come. I’m looking at them like it is a learning experience. 

Post # 6
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243 posts
Helper bee

Yeah, I wasnt officially proposed to yet, but we ordered the ring and when it comes hes gonna ask….I hate knowing and having people ask me, oh whens he gonna propose, did he do it yet and having to say no even though I know in a few weeks it will 🙁 but honestly, you will see him in less than a month, thats so exciting! Id try to focus on other things right now and those next few weeks will fly by!

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee

@ohhbitty:  I know that this is not a good feeling.

Have you thought about delaying your annoucement a bit even after you get the ring so that you can have the thunder to yourself?

I know that my FBIL bought a ring for his GF and was set to propose.  His older brother popped the question to his GF first and basically stole the propposal thunder.  In response, the FBIL just decided to wait to propose, and I’m sure it’s going to happen any day now.  I know waiting sucks…but I think it would be nice to just have a moment that is all yours.

Good Luck!

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