Post # 1
Waiting to announce the proposal and make it official until we get the ring. Both of our families are very traditional in that aspect.. but I can’t help but notice all these people I know (cousins, old best friend, high school friends etc) are getting engaged and I’m still sitting here very impatiently.
My FI/ S/O? Idk which to use at this point ordered the ring what feels like forever ago!! Thing is we’re a Navy couple and I wont see him until November 21st. I am bursting at the seams Bee’s!
I like honestly feel myself getting angry when seeing other couples announcing etc. Like I feel like their stealing my thunder.. when I dont even HAVE any thunder yet. How terrible am I being? Looking for some advice on how to chill the heck out over here because I hate being so crazy.. 🙁
ETA: Please don’t advise me to just announce without the ring because we have agreed that isn’t how we want it done.
Post # 3
That’s really rough. Aside from “just announce without the ring” not sure what to tell you… so sorry dear!
I’m glad you KNOW it’s coming, though. Waiting was so much harder for me when I had no idea when/IF it was even going to happen. In the meantime, keep in mind that you would love if all these other people were excited for you… so be excited for them 🙂 Rejoice with them now and they should rejoice with you later.
But for those of us who know… YAY!! And we’re so happy for you both!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2014 - British Columbia
You will get your glow!! 🙂 Don’t compare yourself to others — that sets you up for sadness and disappointment.
Enjoy this unofficial engagement phase before the crazy wedding planning happens! Looking back, I was happy I took a while before I announced it to others other than my best friend and mother. Everyone else didn’t find out until a few weeks later. No pressure with questions like, “When is the date?” “Am I getting an invite?” “Can I be your bridesmaid?”
Now.. it’s like.. I hate it when people see me as a bride. I’m a person! Goodness grief!
ETA: Pre-congrats are in order!! Very exciting!! 😀 😀
Post # 5
@ohhbitty: I’m in a similar situation as you are… waiting for an official engagement although we are engaged. Do not announce it. I mentioned it to 3 people and left it there. In the mean time, I started getting the prices for venues, dresses, etc. I even bought my shoes!! Occupy your time with the preliminary planning.
I get where you feel as if your thunder is being stolen. I know a guy who has been with 3 women for the duration of my relationship and he is now getting married in December. Another who has been dating for even less time, got engaged a few weeks ago. I feel as if people should be excited for me too but it is just not time as yet.
Our time will come. I’m looking at them like it is a learning experience.
Post # 6
Yeah, I wasnt officially proposed to yet, but we ordered the ring and when it comes hes gonna ask….I hate knowing and having people ask me, oh whens he gonna propose, did he do it yet and having to say no even though I know in a few weeks it will 🙁 but honestly, you will see him in less than a month, thats so exciting! Id try to focus on other things right now and those next few weeks will fly by!
Post # 7
@ohhbitty: I know that this is not a good feeling.
Have you thought about delaying your annoucement a bit even after you get the ring so that you can have the thunder to yourself?
I know that my FBIL bought a ring for his GF and was set to propose. His older brother popped the question to his GF first and basically stole the propposal thunder. In response, the FBIL just decided to wait to propose, and I’m sure it’s going to happen any day now. I know waiting sucks…but I think it would be nice to just have a moment that is all yours.
Post # 8
@Benni: You’re so right, I do need to just be happy for everyone now so that in return they will be later. I’m acting immaturely.. its just really hard to suck it up.. haha
Thank you though!
@Cynderbug: We’re having a very intimate wedding ceremony, just our immediate families and no big reception. My request. I feel like a wedding is between two people. We will however hold a big reception a few months later and do a big vow renewal once he’s out of the service.. so not much to plan now and enjoy.. other than following you bee’s on here haha I didn’t think about the hounding I’m about to endure though.. so yeah maybe I should see this as a blessing.. by the time I get my spotlight everyone is going to be SO over weddings I wont be bombarded… hahaha
@tiff-tiff-tiff: Its really irritating though isnt it? You seem to be handling it a lot better than I am. Last night a coworker posted her engagement pics and I went through the roof with rage. (Hes a reserve and they did military style photos: Mind you my s/o is deploying and I ACTUALLY don’t get to spend time with him.. not saying the reserves aren’t real but for some reason I was outraged at the idea of their autumn/military STDs when I dont even want military style STDs…..I’m being crazy.)
Long rant, anyway what I’m saying is you’re right I need to look at it as a learning experience on what I want to do/not do etc.. but I can’t help but feel bratty and jealous. 🙁
@nikkidrew90: ughhhh that’s the worst.. I’ve had 4 people in the last month ask me if we were thinking about marriage and if I think he’s going to propose and I’m so annoyed because I want to be like HE DID!!! alskdfjalskj but I just smile and say.. “We’ll see what happens..”
@veryberry13: Not really a possibility seeing as s/o will probably deploy come January 🙁 and I won’t know when to expect him home. I’ll be announcing sometime by December I’m sure but I can’t delay it past then because of deployment and s/o has made it VERY clear he is not deploying without snatching me up first.. haha