Waiting and ring stress

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
Member
3112 posts
Sugar bee

@SweetyBee:  Either way, it sounds like he’s being dishonest with you.  I would have an open discussion, because hiding things is no way to start your lives together!

Post # 7
Member
167 posts
Blushing bee

Hmmm…. what does the first ring look like? That is really tough. What makes you 100 per cent sure the ring was for you?

 

Is the ring still there? Has he returned it?

 

Does he seem like the type to throw you off?

 

So many questions!

Post # 9
Member
457 posts
Helper bee

@SweetyBee:  he could be second guessing his action of buying a different ring!!! Have you thought to casually mention liking this newer style in a round about way? To help ease his mind?! ahh so exciting 🙂 best of luck! (Keep us posted!!!)

Post # 11
Member
515 posts
Busy bee

@SweetyBee:  it sounds like he is second guessing his ring choice 🙁 maybe pin a few solitares on pinterest and show it to him? just casually mention that you have been thinking a lot since your last talk about rings, and you really think you would want a solitare 🙂 he could just need the reassurance. either way, it sounds like you wont be waiting for too much longer, and it’s really nice to hear about a guy that is so worried about what his gf wants in a ring 🙂 very sweet.

Post # 12
Member
457 posts
Helper bee

@SweetyBee:  that’s a great idea!!! Perhaps even online or watching tv if you see one pop up… “Gee honey that ring is amazing…etc”… And maybe then he will have more confidence for your trip!! Chances are if he bought it that long ago he can’t exchange/return anyway!!! 🙂

Post # 13
Member
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@SweetyBee:  I totally think he’s tying to throw you off his scent! (And I definitely don’t think hiding an e-ring is anything to worry about!)

Post # 14
Member
167 posts
Blushing bee

@SweetyBee:  Sounds divine! Def sounds like he’s second guessing himself though> I agree with trying to make gentle hints about solitaires. Do you know someone who has one that you can tell him “OH I love Sarah’s ring…”

Post # 15
Member
167 posts
Blushing bee

@ceebree:  I seriously do not think hiding an engagement ring is anything to worry about

Post # 16
Member
866 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

He’s probaby just trying to throw you off a bit. By setting the ring shopping date after Europe he thinks he’s throwing you off the scent. I knew my FI had ordered my ring (he too is a bad secret keeper) but kept telling me it wasn’t in yet etc. i had no reason not to believe him because we were so open about all of the planning/designing of it. The day he purposed he even sent me a text saying how anxious he was getting about it not being in yet. He got me good, I was so surprised!! i know it’s soooo hard but try to just ride it out and let him surprise you. If he really did change his mind about the ring he got you that’s ok because 1. It means he cares enough about your wants to make them a priority and 2. You already saw it so you can work with him to pick out something similar and he will feel great he was right all along! Good luck and enjoy it!!! 

Leave a comment


Sent weekly. You may unsubscribe at any time.

Find Amazing Vendors