Waiting and Saving….

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
5207 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@FutureMrsJefferson:  You don’t have to spend all your money on the wedding. Remember this: do not give in to the mentality of keeping up with the trends or other people’s expectations. You’ll see a lot of beautiful, lavish weddings here on the Bee but you don’t have to emulate them. If you ask many of these ladies they’ll tell you there were things they regret splurging on. 

Post # 5
7997 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

Yup… that’s why we’re having a tiny wedding and only spending like $2,000 on it. It isn’t a rule that you have to spend a ton on a wedding. You can marry for $200 if you want… it just won’t be fancy.

Post # 6
1018 posts
Bumble bee

@FutureMrsJefferson:  I started saving too (still a waiting bee) until I realized I needed to save for other things instead (new car for example). So I put more towards that and less towards the wedding.

We both want a very small intimate wedding but that seems to be adding up too! Especially if you want a talented photographer, sheesh!

I made a spreadsheet on what we’ll absolutely NEED that day, then what is IMPORTANT (like want but don’t need but don’t mind splurging on) then anything left over gets cut or diy’d or gets the cheap version haha I just hate the thought of buying things like center pieces or something…bleh

so NEED: the marriage license, obvy, rings, venua (free), and an officiant. The officiant we have chosen will do it for free 🙂 (family friend)

Those are things in our mind that we need in order to get married.

Then what is important:

Immediate family and being able to feed them, good photography, a nice vacation/honeymoon.

Everything esle is a “want” like flowers, tailored suit for him, white dress for me, and any decor. Not necessary to be married but nice to have 🙂

Post # 7
2419 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Aquaria:  + 1

You can have a beautiful wedding and the down payment on a house. The two are not necessarily mutually exclusive.

Post # 8
802 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest

I feel you. I seriously get soooo nervous when I think about it. My hope is our parents might contribute a little bit each, we can save a little bit, and then we’ll also have a stag and doe (common practice around here). I do not want to spend more than $10,000 on a wedding. And even THAT makes me feel ill. 

I had been saving too, but we’re buying a house now (first) and all of my savings are going to that. 

Post # 10
2052 posts
Buzzing bee

YEP!!  I opened an account seperate from my emergency savings account and titled it ‘Wedding AND House’.

SO and I do NOT want to have our day be on credit nor do we want to throw money away.  Our biggest expense will be feeding everyone and paying for their drinks.  We have some creative drink ideas…SO wants to have some *fancy* kegs as we can get premium beer for 1.00 a serving, then I was thinking of making DIY pilsner glasses for example.  This is just the beer idea lol…doesn’t cover the wine/liquor.

It is not our intention to use this completely on one day though.  I do think it’s smart to save for it….just in case you do have some area of the wedding that you want to splurge.  I like the idea of mentally attaching ‘house’ to this because we don’t have one…and SO and I also want to have a specific $ amount in savings before we have a child as well.


Post # 11
35 posts

Ugh, this makes me anxious, too. We’re pre engaged, but we’ve already started saving. Last year when we started talking rings and timelines, I pointed out that weddings are insanely expensive. We opened a joint brokerage account and have socked away a couple thousand already. Even though we’re planning on making some very cost-conscious measures (bringing our own cheap food and booze, no fancy invitations, preowned dress, etc.), I don’t think there’s any way we can get out of spending around $15k-20k. Stuff in our area is just EXPENSIVE. I’d be perfectly happy with a city hall ceremony then a nice dinner and an afterparty, but my SO definitely wants the whole Saturday night shindig. I’m hoping that once we actually get into planning, we’ll be able to find more areas to cut costs and keep things closer to the $15k side of things.

Post # 12
243 posts
Helper bee

Im going to make my wedding as small as I can (on my side, im not inviting more than 30 people)..and Im going to DIY whatever I can, such as invitations. Theres no way Im spending 30+ grand for one day

Post # 13
3077 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

Another soon to be engaged bee who started saving about 9 months ago. We actually started just saving for our honeymoon. We have our MAX savings for the wedding already in an account, 10k, but I’m still like you, the thought of using it ALL on the wedding makes me ill. I’m hoping we can leave the honeymoon account alone & use the 10k for the wedding plus the honeymoon. It’ll be tight doing that though.

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