Post # 1
Need to vent!!!
I hardly know what to do anymore I’ve been waiting so long for the next chapter to start!!!! It’s been over 6 years that I’ve known this person, but it is true that I’ve broken up with him several times, which is why he says he won’t/can’t. And yet he still wants to talk and be friends. Right now I don’t even think we’re “dating” anymore. He always used to say “dating” and it always bothered me because after several years, isn’t it more than just dating by then?!?! Haha
Now I have to keep it from my mother that I’m still talking to him, because she’s angry with me saying that he’s always been manipulating me and only talks to me out of “his convenience” because I always pick up the phone and talk to him or call him to talk, as well. She says that he has cheated on me and will go so far as to call me names to try to get through to me. But he’s not a bad guy. I mean, he loves me, and he says he always will, and that it’s hurt him every time I’ve said that I don’t want to be in a relationship with him anymore or that I don’t want to talk to him anymore, out of spite or resentment or whatever it is that causes me to act harshly. I know I shouldn’t do/act/say those things………………………..
I don’t know what I’m looking for.. If you want you can flame me or criticize my terrible behavior.. It’s not like I haven’t heard all of it from my mother..
Anyway, thanks for letting me vent! Any words of wisdom or advice would be appreciated.
***Blessings to you***
Post # 3
Honestly I don’t really know what to say. It sounds to me (and this is only from one post so obviously I don’t know a lot about your relationship), that your relationship could be toxic for you both and marriage is something that you should stay far far away from right now.
Good luck with whatever you decide to do!
Post # 4
I agree with the PP, sounds a little toxic however I don’t know the whole story but what I do know is I was in a simular situation. We wer together for 5 years and even engaged and I thought things would be better if we were and had a plan for the future, but things just contined. We had a big fight one day and I had enough so I broke off the engagement, and havnt had contact with him since then…That was 3 years ago and now I couldn’t be happier. I have the best SO ever and I couldnt imagine life being any better than having him.
Good Luck, I wish you the best.
Post # 5
@lepetitebee: If you haven’t figured out where you both are in terms of your future together, then maybe you should. It doesn’t hurt to ask him where he sees you two going. Afterall, it’s normal to wonder where things are headed. I don’t see anything wrong with talking about it.
Maybe your mom is protective over you. Or maybe she’s right. Hard to judge from my side. Sorry :
Post # 6
I wouldn’t be thinking about marriage with someone you’ve broken up with several times (although I don’t know the last time you broke up). If you had an on again off again relationship, you should have ATLEAST 2 solid years w/o breaking up before getting engaged. Even though it’s been over 6 years, that does not make a good marriage.
Post # 7
Uh, wow, you really shouldn’t be marrying this guy or even in a “relationship” with him. Break it off for good – you two are no good for each other.
Post # 8
Not saying I take my mothers advice about much (or anything), but if she’s willing to have altercations with her daughter over this guy, maybe there is some truth to her words. I’d try to look at it from an outsiders perspective: if you saw one of your friends in that relationship, *then* would you agree it’s healthy?