(Closed) waiting and waiting and waiting

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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1069 posts
Bumble bee

Honestly I don’t really know what to say. It sounds to me (and this is only from one post so obviously I don’t know a lot about your relationship), that your relationship could be toxic for you both and marriage is something that you should stay far far away from right now.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

Post # 4
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91 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I agree with the PP, sounds a little toxic however I don’t know the whole story but what I do know is I was in a simular situation. We wer together for 5 years and  even engaged and I thought things would be better if we were and had a plan for the future, but things just contined. We had a big fight one day and I had enough so I broke off the engagement, and havnt had contact with him since then…That was 3 years ago and now I couldn’t be happier. I have the best SO ever and I couldnt imagine life being any better than having him. 

 

Good Luck, I wish you the best.

Post # 5
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231 posts
Helper bee

@lepetitebee:  If you haven’t figured out where you both are in terms of your future together, then maybe you should. It doesn’t hurt to ask him where he sees you two going. Afterall, it’s normal to wonder where things are headed. I don’t see anything wrong with talking about it.

 

Maybe your mom is protective over you. Or maybe she’s right. Hard to judge from my side. Sorry :

Post # 6
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1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I wouldn’t be thinking about marriage with someone you’ve broken up with several times (although I don’t know the last time you broke up). If you had an on again off again relationship, you should have ATLEAST 2 solid years w/o breaking up before getting engaged. Even though it’s been over 6 years, that does not make a good marriage.

Post # 7
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1880 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Uh, wow, you really shouldn’t be marrying this guy or even in a “relationship” with him. Break it off for good – you two are no good for each other.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@memo:  +1

 

Not saying I take my mothers advice about much (or anything), but if she’s willing to have altercations with her daughter over this guy, maybe there is some truth to her words. I’d try to look at it from an outsiders perspective: if you saw one of your friends in that relationship, *then* would you agree it’s healthy?

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