Weddingbee boards

So I've been lurking these boards for a while and wanted to post.  I'm 32 and my boyfriend will be 37.  Never been married.  Want to be married to him.  Been dating with ups and downs for almost 9 months and YES, so what?....I know he is the one for me.  He is talking about buying a house and asked me to move in with him.  I told him no not without at least being engaged first.  I'm an old fashioned girl I guess :-)  Anyways I'm peeved about him buying a house without me.  When I do move in I don't like the idea of moving in on his territory.  I thought that was something husband and wife do together but I'm not going to let him know that .  I just smile and nod and tell him how great it is when it comes up.  I hate that I have to do that.  I know he adores me madly but marriage talk just refuses to come up.  Arrgggghhhhh....he's the shy quiet type so I'm being patient.  Guess I'm just venting.  Thanks for listening ladies....*sigh*

My boyfriend was shocked when I told him I didn't believe in living together.  He thought that was the next step.  He was kind of upset but got over it.  Last week we were talking about it and I know he heard me because he mentioned it and said something about engagement but I just ignored it and changed the subject.  I don't want to have to bring it up so talking to him about it is not in the cards right now.  If a year goes by I'm not giving him an ultimatum.  I will simply say I want more and if he doesn't know what that means then I will have to move on.  Marriage is important to me and I want to be with someone who feels the same.  Living together is nice and all but it's ended badly for me in the past.

It will happen! You could try our usual approach of not talking about anything wedding and psyching them out into proposing! There is no RIGHT way to buy property. I bought my house and my BF moved in and now it is our house. Eventually we will buy a house together once we get married. Just remember to live your life your own way. You don't have to always do everything by the book because the book isn't always the right way....Good luck!

My BF owns his own condo now and we've discussed the living situation... I don't want to move in until we're engaged... but I'm essentially living there anyways while paying rent at my own place.  :/  I also feel uncomfortable with the thought that nothing purchased is "ours".  I'm pretty sure I'd end up moving into the condo and possibly sharing the mortgage after engagement, or we'd end up moving to another property already within one of our families. 

I'm not too excited about that because I want to eventually have my OWN home, not a place his family or my family have had.  I want my own memories and the freedom to renovate without outside opinion. 

We're a little different though, we've been talking about marriage from the beginning.  I don't think he realized HOW important it was to me until the last few months though...