(Closed) Waiting and worried he’ll be disappointed with the package!

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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1988 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I don’t think he’ll see any of that, he’ll look at you and think you are beautiful- please don’t worry about this!  Women can be way too critical of themselves and he won’t notice your “dimply butt” which I’m sure is not as dimply as you think it is.

Post # 4
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7431 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

Trust me, I am a size 12 and my husband thinks I am hot, cottage cheese butt and jiggly thighs. He loves you, and knows you are real.  He will think you are beautiful, no worries about that. We all have our hang ups, I bet he is worried about the same thing, maybe not to the same degree, but its definitely in the back of his mind. 

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Does he love you? Are you getting married to him? Answers are yes so I really wouldn’t worry. 

I am a plus size woman and my hubby can’t get enough of me, lol and I have the butt the tummy etc. 

Post # 7
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I wouldn’t worry about if you are “perfect enough” and VS models etc. 

He proposed ..he thinks the world of you! Commited to you and no one else. 

Trust him and not what the world would have you feed on. Like the other posters have said he’s wondering similar things about himself most likely.

What would you say if he was? I’m sure you would console him and tell him he’s wonderful and gorgeous! It’s just a little negative thought that needs to be dusted away. 

As for you not thinking highly of yourself enough to NOT wear pretty panties. Tsk. Beautiful woman! 

This poem comes to mind: 

“You are a child of the universe, no less than the trees and the stars. You have a right to be here” -desiderata

Go get yourself some pretty things!! That’s one way to FEEL it. Treat yourself the way you’d like to be treated and seen. Mmm? You are a jewel that will be joining your husband and become one. Wrap yourself up and “present” yourself to him when the time comes!

Good Luck. ๐Ÿ™‚ 

Post # 8
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i think it would be very smart if you had a conversation with your FI about this… I’m sure he has some worries as well.. Men tend to worry about their bodies just as much as women… and then of course there are the “performance” worries.  If you both bring everything out into the open, it will make it that much easier to know what the other is expecting on the wedding night and honeymoon… and you can enjoy one another and the new intimacy you will be sharing with one another. 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

As much as I hate to make generalizations like this, the vast majority of guys are just not that detail oriented when it comes to women’s bodies. If a guy, especially one who loves you madly and, in this case, has just married you, sees you naked, let me tell you: he will not see dimples. He will see a gorgeous, sexy lady, and he’ll just be amazed that you’re his wife.

If you can, just tell him you’re a little worried about this. I don’t know anything about his communication style, but I bet he’ll have some very reassuring things to say. He might feel a little insecure about the whole thing, too.

Post # 10
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

You are gorgeous and your decsion to wait for each other just oozes beauty! Sounds like your FI isn’t the type of guy whos watching porn or drooling over VS underwear ads (hence the waiting for marriage). So he probably has no real baseline for a real woman ๐Ÿ™‚

Just imagine that he may feel the same way! Will she think I’m “big” enough? (another stupid societal unrealistic demand) Do I look like a super ripped athlete? will I please her?

It will be a lovely and perfect night, and a wonderful future. Be confident in yourself!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I wouldn’t worry about it at all!! Trust me, guys don’t care about that stuff as much as it seems like they would.. It’s unrealistic to think that even those airbrushed girls don’t have cellulite or non-toned areas in real life.. You are beautiful, and your FI loves you just the way you are, I’m sure he wouldn’t have you any other way!! So be confident and know that you being a “real” woman is more beautiful than any airbrushing in any magazine ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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285 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

OK I read that part correctly about him being a virgin, right? His first time, and FINALLY getting to see a naked woman…honey you could be Two Ton Tillie and not have anything to worry about. 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

Trust me, guys don’t focus on the same things we do. The last thing he’ll be thinking about is a bit of cellulite. There are things about my body that bug me, but 99% of the time if I mention them to DH, he’ll give me the “what the heck are you talking about?” look and tell me I’m beautiful.

Post # 14
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627 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

The fact is, you are beautiful and your future husband thinks he won the lotto no matter what you do on your wedding night. 

But you are not going to be able to REALLY enjoy your wedding night unless YOU feel good about yourself. I would invest in some pretty lingerie and maybe if you are in the wedding suite the night before the wedding, design a lighting scheme thats dimmer, more romantic (no one looks good in full light).

Also, make sure you have yourself a little drink near the end of the reception. Not like, get drunk, just like half a glass of wine. It will help you relax.

Once again, he will love you no matter what you do, this is all for you to feel as comfortable as you can. We are women, we have hang-ups. The fact is, 90% of the time, these are things that no one else ever takes note of.

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