Waiting bee confused about timeline….

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
212 posts
Helper bee

I would take your SO at face value. Who knows, maybe he talked to his mom awhile ago and has since decided that he is ready and just didn’t share that with her. The state of your relationship and its future is between the two of you – not his family. If he was open to telling you that he wasn’t ready before and you haven’t been pressuring him, then I would take his readiness now as a welcome sign that yes, it is coming soon!


Post # 4
1715 posts
Bumble bee

Have his mother and cousins actually told you why they think he’s not ready, or are they just saying “I don’t think he’s ready”? Do you have any reason to think he’s not ready for marriage?

This is not their decision, and they have limited involvement in this. If your boyfriend is going to propose, he’ll propose. If he feels he’s ready, that’s what matters because that’s what he’s going to go by. 

Unless his mother and cousins have given you actual reasons for why they think he’s not ready, what they’re saying can be dismissed. 

Post # 6
7896 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

“He told me that he is tired of our relationship being where it is and wants to move ahead to marriage”

Dont listen to anybody but him! Hes proposing, bellenola. Mothers and cousins be damned! 

Post # 7
771 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

@bellenola:  it’s sounds like he is ready but please do not get your hopes up. I was devastated when fiancé said he was waiting for something small in mail…(ring?) Then it was we HAD to open presents before leaving on Christmas Day ( we are adults and there was no reason we couldn’t wait until night unless…(ring?)… Then it was a small jewelry box (ring?). I cried (unknown to him) in the bathroom when I opened diamond EARRINGS!!! Normally a lovely gift.. But so heartbreaking when you are waiting and spin clues to match…good luck! I just think you should not expect it and be pleasantly surprised- which is def easier said than done:)

Post # 9
720 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Moms are always going to worry. I’m sure if you asked my mom if she thought I was ready to get married, she’d say no – she still sees me as her baby and I’m sure your SO’s mom does too. I would take what he says as fact and not worry about other people’s opinions. He is certainly old enough to make this decision on his own and it sounds like he already has. 

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