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@flownmuse: They're ruthless! I started a thread about how I was planning my wedding before having a ring. They replied with snarky comments and basically ridiculed me for doing so. And they did the same thing to other posters.
Then I read this big long introductory post about how a new poster is supposed to "lurk" for 2 weeks before replying, posting, starting a thread, ANYthing! They said they don't encourage anyone to plan their wedding before they're engaged (makes sense) but within that, they basically excused everyone's verbal attacks by calling them "bluntly stated opinions."
The subtitle of the "Not Engaged Yet" board is "Have a dress picked out? Have flowers picked out? No ring? Welcome!" Their intro post is hardly welcoming.
Plus, all the regulars of the message board are either engaged or married already...something doesn't line up here.
Hi everyone.
My name is Darlene, I am 46 years old, and live with an amazing man named Mark.
I am hoping to be engaged soon, we have picked out the ring I'll be getting and my boyfriend is the greatest person on this earth. He is everything I've ever wanted. I only had to wait 40 years + for him to show up...lol
I live in Massachusetts, I have a daughter who is 26, who is also soon to be engaged, and I couldn't be happier with her boyfriend. Everyone wants a good man for their daughter, I think she's got one.
I am hoping Weddingbee helps me w/ the planning of things, gives me ideas for both my daughter and I when the big day arrives and brings me closer to all of you.
Find me on facebook too if you want to add me as your friend, all you newly proposed to ladies. My name is Darlene Oliveira
enter my name and email: Darleneapd@yahoo.com
Hugs, D 
Goood evening! Well, morning?
I dont know how many of you bee's stay up too terribly late, but I am so very fortunate to be attending a college that is Mon-Thurs so I am enjoying a night of whatever I want, since I dont get much of that with all this new school work business! : )
Let me start out by saying that I am so completely excited to be a part of weddingbee, I have been looking daily, alright sometimes a couple of times a day, and I have noticed the huge support group that are the Bees. AND I LOVE IT! I just couldnt help myself, I wanted to be a part of it.
My name is Amanda, I am a 22yr old Business Admin student currently residing in Arizona, but I am a Texas resident. I'll miss the day I have to change my residency so I can take advantage of in state tuition. Regardless, my huney is 27 years young, and handsome as can be. I met him online, on a video game some bee's might absolutely despise (as it can be known for ruining relationships) well, this game was the aboslute best thing to ever happen to me. My huney was introduced to me by a mutual friend, who said we would be perfect together. We enjoyed each others company, but it never seemed to spark into more than that for years, we just werent at the same stages in life. Long story short, one day he got hurt on the job (he is in law enforcement) and he was pretty down, we had just started talking again, going back and forth. Just to fill you in: He lived in California at the time and I lived in good ol' Texas. I made sure to be there for him, as often as he needed me as much as I could be through the phone or via skype. We pretty much formed a ridiculously strong bond from this. So, after he got better we decided that we just had to meet up. So early January 2011 he came to meet me, and we fell in love! He was silly shy, and me being the outgoing personality I am happened to be very forward about my intentions. I even faintly remember asking him, if he was going to "ask me out already" with a goofy girlish grin on my face and he did, twice. Thats a whole 'nother story, but we celebrate both the 8th and 9th of January as our anniverary. He's just lovely! : )
I am just way too excited, I keep writing and this is just supposed to be a short intro! I havent even gotten to the part where I moved 1200 miles to live with him! So with all of that, I will leave you with one more thing.. I've decided to join the bee's because a couple of weeks ago my huney told me that a ring was in my future, and even went as far as to tell me there will be on on my finger by the end of the year! Wooo! He's even putting together a wonderful weekend away in San Diego so we can go ring shopping! (One of the jeweler's there sells the designer I LOVE!)
I am so looking forward to my time with you wonderful ladies! I hope you all have a super great friday!
Hey everyone - greetings from snowy UK
I just wrote a really long indepth introduction ... I think my computer got bored with it and decided to delete it... probably for the best!
In essence:
I'm 26, SO 29, together 6.5 years, living together 4 years. Cannot wait to marry him, though I think I'll be waiting some time as though we've been halfheartedly ring shopping for about a year (whole heartedly in my case!) I don't think he has anything planned. He's quite easy to read, so i guess i'll know when it will happen... feeling like i'm becoming a bit of a crazy lady having to wait so long.
Glad to join you all :)
Good morning, Bees!
My SO and I are both seniors in college. He's currently on a co-op rotation this semester, has an internship this summer, and finishes his co-op next semester. I'm double majoring in accounting and finance and will graduate this December. We're in a LDR (really short-distance relationship since we're only an hour and a half apart), but last semester we lived together, and we see each other every weekend.
SO and I also have a dog together (an adorable but sometimes annoying sheltie pup). We've been dating for almost a year. I realize that's a lot shorter than most Bees, and we've moved a lot faster than everyone else, but when it feels right it feels right. We won't get engaged until he graduates (May 2013), but we've discussed it and would already be engaged if it weren't for school. We're both ready, so I'm officially waiting.
I've been reading this website for at least a month, and everyone here is so supportive and nice! I'm looking forward to waiting with all of you!
Hello Hive!
I've been reading the Blogs for about a year, and casually lurking the Boards for a couple of months but only just recently brave enough to join.
I'm 27, my SO is 44. We've been together about 2.5yrs, after meeting through workmates at pub trivia (we both work for the same organisation, but it's pretty big & we're in different depts - I'd worked there nearly 2yrs before I met him, we'd never crossed paths!)
SO has been married before & has 2 teenage kids, who are great & I love like my own. If you'd told me a few years ago that this would be my family, I'd have never believed you!
We're not officially engaged yet - we've been discussing it for nearly a year & verbally throwing wedding ideas around for about 3mths, but I still feel like I'll jinx it without the ring! The ring is coming however - it's being paid off as we speak, and sneaky SO tells me he has a date in mind.... my bday is in March, so I'm thinking it's then, but he does like to keep me guessing.
So yeah, that's me - finally coming out of the shadows to say hi. See you around!
Hi everyone!
I have been lurking around the boards for a few months, and I finally decided to join. I joined The Knot a few months ago, but I could never get into the boards over there. I tried to get into their version of the waiting board, many of the women are already married, or engaged, and pretty rude to a lot of new people who try to post on the board.
I started browsing the world of wedding websites a few months ago, when SO & I started talking seriously about getting engaged/married. I'm 22 and SO is 30, we have been dating a little over 2 years. We have been living together almost 2 years, and we have a dog named Wrigley together. We met in a pretty traditional way, sort of, in a bar. In college, I went to a bar with a fake ID with some friends, when I saw my now SO, I told my friends that I thought he was gorgeous. So of course they went over and told him, he begrudgingly came over. He saw me, and drunkenly blurted out he was happy that I was cute. The rest is history, and we have been together for a little over 2 years. Now most of his friends, many of whom are married, call us the "married couple".
One of SO's good friends is getting married in October, and he was asked to be a groomsman. It came up one day that he planned on us being engaged by the time we go back for his friend's wedding. We have been shopping online for rings together, because he has said he wants me to pick out what I like because I'm "the one who has to wear it forever". We've been to a coupld jewelers as well to look at what we thought we might like. We've pretty much decided on getting moissonite, and I have picked out three settings that I like, the rest I am leaving up to him. So now I'm officially just playing the waiting game!
Hi all!
I found this site about two weeks ago on my hunt for information on moissanite e-rings. At first I felt really silly lurking on a wedding board since my left ring finger is so SO bare, but I found this "waiting" board and now feel right at home!
Im 23, my SO is 24, and we've been together for 7 years (high school sweethearts!). I'm in my final year of a doctorate of psychology and SO has just started full time work last month. We went ring shopping Aug 2011, and I found the perfect ring - so I'm now waiting very impatiently for the proposal!!
Everyone around us has been getting engaged for the last year and it's driving me a little crazy! All our friends - us included - always thought we'd be the first, but unfortunate circumstances have meant that, 7 years later, I am still calling SO 'boyfriend' instead of 'fiance' or 'husband'. Blargh.
We have talked alot about getting married - I'm not the most subtle girl in the world - and we have even set a tentative date (Dec 2013). So the logical part of my brain knows a proposal must be on its way this year. That doesn't make the waiting less hard though!! I have to make a conscious effort not to talk about e-rings, wedding plans, etc, because SO wants it to all be a surprise. I told him we could talk about it 24/7 and the moment he proposes I will still be shocked that its actually happened.
Nice to be with like-minded ladies! :)
Hey! I'm 24 and have been dating my SO for 2 years and 5 months. Initial plans were for him to get his fathers ring from his mother and he planned to propose to me last Valentines day (in 2011) but it's not after Valentines day in 2012 and no ring. His mother did lose the ring though so he may be saving for a new one, or hoping to save for a new one. I've planned a lot of the wedding already. We have discussed marriage but the last we discussed was after school was done. In my mind it's planned to be a fall wedding under the sunset, outdoors waterfront (already have the location, will take time to save the money for the place but if you saw it, you would know there's no other option) the flowers the decorations, about 75% of the wedding is planned so far, just need the ring to finish the other 25% ;p
Well I'm 27, BF is 31. We have 2 dogs and a cat. We've been together for 2 years, 4 months, and have been living together for a year and a half.
I work in customer service and am also a part time student. BF is an accountant. We've talked about getting engaged and he's gone ring shopping, but apparently I keep saying things that keep pushing the engagement back. Apparently when he went ring shopping, he had a few picked out and was just trying to make the final decision when I mentioned something about wanting to help pick out the ring. Which apparently made him second guess his ring choices and because of school/Christmas, we just never got out ring shopping. Then just after Christmas I had an anxiety attack and said a bunch of stuff like I'm not good enough for him and I think we should break up and stupid stuff like that. Which made him unsure as to whether he wants to get engaged right away. A few weeks after my anxiety attack I asked for an 'update' on where he thinks things are going and he basically told me he was thinking of proposing at Christmas, but because of all the other stuff going on, he couldn't work it out logistically, between my exams/papers, then we went on a trip then all the Christmas stuff. But then after my anxiety attack, he just wasn't so sure anymore....
I have to be honest that when I saw the waiting board- I thought it was a different kind of waiting, so I avoided. I'm glad that I was wrong because I feel like I have somewhere to go now!
Both myself and my SO are 27 - we have been together for five and a half years and have lived together (along with our one-eyed cat) for four years. I've known he was the one I was going to marry for years, but I really got the wedding bug last year as friends and family around me started getting hitched. I predict to only be waiting for a few more months.
I found this site three days ago and (I kid you not) have had a hard time turning off my computer to A) go to bed, B) go to work and C) get work done while at work. Pretty sure I've spent a good 20 hours on the site in the past three days. I'm hooked.
I'm 31, SO is 24.
Which usually gets a poor reaction from people but maybe not on here! Y'all seem so nice.
I work for a library and SO is a Civil Engineer - we have a timeline (initiated by him) which has made me so entirely wild I almost can't control myself.
I haven't told anyone at all because I'm a very private person so these boards are a godsend, seriously.
Hello Bees! I just joined WB and am seriously LOVING these boards, all the ring porn and of course the supportive members. I'm waiting not-so-patiently for SO to propose, and these boards are seriously saving me from having a break down!
A little about us - I'm 25, and SO is turning 30 next month. We met 4 years ago through mutual friends and eventually ended up working together, but didn't start dating until about 2 years ago. We're both only children, so we seem an unlikely pair but he is truly my best friend. We've lived together for a year now and have a super cute Yorkie/Bichon pup named Reggie, whom you can see in my avatar pic. 
We do have a lovely vacation to Playa del Carmen planned for SO's birthday in April, and he keeps making comments that have my spidey sense tingling about a proposal...Like how he wants to upgrade our room for a couple of nights and take a few day trips to visit the cenotes and swim with dolphils (which I've been dying to do forever) in Xel'ha. I don't want to get myself too excited, because I don't want to trip to be ruined if I just imagined all of this and he doesn't propose afterall. But I have my fingers crossed! Hopefully I'll have some ring pics for you soon!
Hi Bees,
I am a waiting bee who has been stalking all of the boards, and posting a little. I haven't done any serious planning, but I've been here and pinning on Pinterest so when the time finally comes, I'll be ready. : )
A little about SO and me. We are both 21 years old. We met about 3 years ago through mutual friends at the beach. We hit it off immediately, but we had some misunderstanding that lead us not to get together until December 2009. We've been happily dating for a little over 2 years, and he is seriously my other half. He's the most generous, loving, supportive, and funny man I have ever known. There is no doubt in my mind that we will spen dour lives together.
Right now, I am in school to become a teacher (PreK-4), and he is in AIT training with the Army National Guard as a helicopter mechanic. Timing and finances are not lineing up for us to get married just yet so I am being quite patient. I am content with drooling over rings and dress for now.
But, believe me, once we're standing on our own two feet, I'm going to be looking for that ring. : )
Hi bees!
I am brand new in the hive although I've been lurking for many months now. :) My boyfriend and I are in an SDR while I'm in medical school...hopefully an engagement will be coming in a year or two, but we don't want to get married until I'm done.
I'm looking forward to meeting you on the boards!
ktf
Hi, bees!
I am also new to the hive but I have lurked and used this board for several other people's weddings. I am a waiting bee but last week I accidentally found out that he bought the ring! He is unaware of this, though. We have discussed rings and the type of ring that I like but it is still somewhat unreal to thing I may be engaged soon.
My bf and I have been together for almost 5 years. We have been through alot together and as a result I feel like I have found my best friend. I truly believe that we bring out the best in each other. I have never met someone who cares about me and makes me feel so special. We are complete opposites and I absolutely love it.
Oh so a little about me! I am 23 years old and I work full time as a sexual assault and domestic violence crisis advocate. I absolutely love my job. I am currently a full time student as well. My bf has been so understand with both my crazy schedule and my stressed out mood swings. He reminds me all the time how proud he is of me for balancing everything.
He works at a pain management center as a phlebotomist. His official title is confusing so I just say he does phlebotomy. Prior to that he was a server...that is how we met. Now five years later we are working of getting a french bulldog and looking at houses. However, before that hopefully we will be planning a wedding!
Hi All! i'm so happy that i found this great little community. i think i've definitely become a nagger to my BF because i don't have very many girlfriends, but i still want to talk about our wedding/engagement/etc.
anyways, i am a graduate student studying virology (24yo), and my bf(also 24) works at a pharmaceutical company doing environmental control lab work. he works night shift, which really has been a challenge adjusting to but i think we've finally hit our stride with it. we met as lab partners in undergrad almost 3 years ago now! we were just friends for about a year before he finally asked me out (i had a HUGE crush on him as soon as i met him and until he asked) and we've been dating ever since! it'll be 2 years in July. we first started talking about getting engaged a year ago, but he didn't have a job/money so it wasn't a feasible option. he has saved up plenty of money since he started working, so now i'm (im)patiently waiting. i just know that he's the one, so i can't wait to get engaged and start planning our wedding. we want a 2 year long engagement or so, although i sometimes think a year would be plenty long enough. i guess it depends on when he asks! hahaha
i've really enjoyed lurking and reading everyone's posts. everyone hear seems so supportive, so i'm happy to be a part of the community!
Hello Ladies! I just joined WB today and I'm loving it already. I kept googling "waiting for a ring" and this board came up!
I'm 28, he's 35 and we've been together 6.5 years. We don't currently live together, but we did live together for a year or so prior to 2010. I'm waiting for the ring, and I'm really hoping that this is the year! Nice to meet you all!
Guess I could add a little intro, as long as I'm getting started!
I'm 26 and am a grad student studying geophysics. My BF is also a grad student. We've been together for about 2.5 years and have been talking about marriage for about the last six months. We met on a camping trip, and hit it off so well that a bunch of people on the trip thought that we were already dating instead of just meeting for the first time! He's a great guy, and I can't wait to see what the next years bring for us.
I'm also so happy to be here!
@yrret107: I'm new to the site, wasn't sure if by clicking reply that it would post on this board, or if it is a direct reply to the origional writer of this topic?
Ha, oh, figured it out :)
I'm new to the site, and after reading through several reader's comments, I feel like everyone is so accomplished and that perhaps I should really 'make a name for myself' so to speak, before trying to get married with my man.
Basically my boyfriend Mike and I have been together 2 1/2 years, we live 45 min away from each other and its often hard to see each other. Not only would I love the thought of becoming engaged with him, but, to also have a place of our own. I'm 21 and he's 26. Gosh, after reading through everyone else's post I now feel slightley inadequate but, at least now, a bit more driven lol
I attend Miramar college where I'm studying to get my associates as a Paralegal, but, am realistically interested in working in the hospitality industry. I work a part time job while I go to school. Mike's trying to get into border patrol. :)
Since we began dating, when he asked me to be his steady serious girlfriend I always felt that if we were going to be that serious that it was a step towards a further serious commitment and together we set a five year timeline. Pretty much that, if by year five he had not proposed or we were not taking steps to establish a future together other then dating, then we should rethink our exclusivity or seriousness ;).
Although he has a few years to go, I'm so happy that I found this site because I no longer have to have verbal diarrea around him about the prospect of getting married. Poor man said he'd started to feel pressured and basically, I found this site out of the blue. I'm so happy that I found people who are like minded that I would be able to share my 'guilty hobby', instead of buggin the man unessarily with my girly hopes and dreams. :)
Hi Everyone,
I joined a couple days ago after relating to so many posts on the 'waiting' board. It is wonderful that I am not the only one! A little background - I am 23 and my SO is 25. We have been together for just over 4 years. We live together and own a ferret together as well. I am currently in grad school but also work full time as a geologist. We have had multiple marriage talks but it seems like I am going to be forever waiting!
Hi, y'all! I have been a lurker for several months and finally decided to join in the fun. I have been with my BF a little under a year. While it might seem premature to be thinking marriage so soon, know that I am almost 33 and my BF is 29, and we have definitely already talked about kids, which we both want. So in the words of Marisa Tomei (am I dating myself?) "my biological clock is ticking like this..." And I am originally from jersey, so I can pull off the accent too!
We have talked about marriage in a general sense. We are both sure we are headed in that direction, it is more a matter of timing. Basically, he told me that the proposal range would be in late winter/early spring next year. HOWEVER, he has a pattern of lowering my expectations and then accelerating things when he is comfortable. So, it could happen sooner than that. He also wants to live together before proposing, and although I own my own house, there is a lot of major construction going on. He works from home and there just wouldn't be room for office space for him yet. Hopefully he will move in maybe over the summer.
I have a long list for wedding ideas because I would love to be able to have a short engagement, but that means preparation! So although he would probably freak out a bit if he knew I was debating buffets vs plated receptions, once we get engaged, he will laugh and be grateful for whatever research I have already done.
I love him to bits and he is the best man I have ever known and am so lucky to have him in my life in any way. We both thought we would be 'forever alone' and I think that makes us so very mindful of exactly how lucky we are. I can't wait to share our journey with you and share your journeys, too!
Hi everyone,
I just discovered this site and have been lurking for the last couple of days.
A little bit about us: SO and I have been together for 2 1/2 years. I'm almost 24 and SO is 26. SO is a mechanical engineer and I'm a paralegal. We know this is it (even if we're quite young) and have just started talking about getting engaged/marriage/having children.
We don't live together yet, seeing as his family is conservative and would prefer that we be engaged beforehand.
He has given me a timeline of getting engaged by this fall or come summer 2013. I am secretly hoping for a fall 2015 wedding. I have my date picked out in my head ;)
Now all I have to do is sit here and patiently wait for him to be ready! :)
Hello!
Been lurking for a couple of weeks, and finally decided to take the plunge and register. I'm from Toronto, currently working on a degree in human sexuality. My SO and I recently reconnected; we'd dated very seriously in the past but were too young to settle down at that point so we broke up. 7 years later, we're planning a small DIY wedding. We don't have the ring yet, but hopefully will be getting it this week :D
Hey,
I recently discovered the site, and decided this morning to join.
My SO and I will be celebrating dating 4 yrs in 2 days. I'm 29 and he's 30, we met at work, but are both at different Company's now, and working in a different area of the business.
My SO and I went ring shopping almost a year ago, and still nothing. we've talked a lot about the future, but he says he's waiting to surprise me..which is a little impossible because I can't shut up about our future together; hopefully joining this site will help!
Sam
I am 22 from Cornwall, UK. A music student and trainee teacher. I found my Mr Right but I'm not entirely sure what's happening with regards to popping the question. Trying to take it day by day and hoping and wishing ... :)
I suppose it's time I do this. I've been a lurker for so very long and only made an account recently but yet never posted!
Boyfriend (so tired of calling him that!) and I have been together for almost a 5 and a half years. He's 24 and I'm a year and 3 months older than him at 25, soon to be 26... sigh. We've been living together for the last 2 years when he moved to my state and found a job. We we're previously long distance, but saw each other every weekend by driving the hour and a half to visit each other's place. I was half expecting something last year, when he really started to bring up the marriage talk, but the money was just not there, especially once he was let go from his job. Now, we're moving into a new (MUCH less expensive) place and he has a new higher paying job to go with it. I have mentioned a timeline of liking to be engaged by the end of the year, but would never dream to give him any sort of ultimatum. When we found out we'd be moving to a new place, I talked my head off about saving up for a house until he said he would like to get married before a house, and that with this new place (we talked figures) he wants to save up for a ring I deserve and the wedding we both want, which thankfully neither are crazy expensive.
Needless to say, I'm super excited to move into our new place next month.
Hello Hive :)
BF & I will be together for 4 years this coming December. He is 25 and I just turned 21 in January. We have talked about marriage and I life together and I know that he is my soul mate and the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. No ring yet and man am I ready to be a Fiance,haha. I'm ready for the next step and we have talked about rings very recently but, I don't feel it happening any time soon and I am VERY good at predicting his suprises :)
Needless to say, I am excited to talk with you bees and see what works and doesn't, what better way than to be prepared?
Hi there everyone! My name is Kate, and my boyfriend and I are almost engaged (made the decision, he knows the kind of ring, he asked my dad we are just in the financial saving stage). I am 20 and he is 21. We go to college at a small private catholic college in Boston and it is such a beautiful city to live in. We are planning for a wedding in the summer/fall of 2014 after I graduate.
I am a developmental psychology major planning on grad school and becoming eventually a school psychologist later in life. BF is a bio major but will be going into training and becoming a paramedic/firefighter after school. We are moving into an apartment this coming fall together and I think think think I will have a sparkly ring on my finger by christmas!
As for us, we both grew up fast. My alcholic mother left when I was 10 and I raised my infant brother from that point on while my father worked millions of hours. BF's father was injured at his construction job BF's junior year of high school, lost his job, became depressed and started drinking and BF worked 50 hours a week between his job and under the table labor work to give the money to his mother to help support the family while his father pulled himself back together. It is for these reasons that I think we know what responsibility is and what we are getting ourselves in to.
I am excited to get to know you all over the next couple years as I plan my wedding. :)
**Note: Also posted this in the under 21 intro thread just an fyi :)
Hi Everyone!
I'm so very excited to start posting on here (eek!)... My boyfriend asked me about 3 weeks ago to pick a setting I liked and he would do the rest! We had been talking seriously about getting engaged since Christmas so I was ecstatic when he suggested we go to the jewelry store to look! I'm all about being surprised and didn't want to know anything else so I have no idea when a proposal might be coming (but I'm really hoping it comes in the next month or so as we are going away twice in May and my birthday is also next month!).
A little about us: I'll be 28 next month, my boyfriend will be 31 in June and we've been together almost 2 years. He works in finance and I work in social services but he would totally say that I stalk wedding websites as my part time job as well ;-)
I’m really looking forward to browsing the boards openly now since I’ve been a lurker for the last few months and start getting some great ideas and chatting with you ladies!
Hello & Good Day to all that reside in the 'Hive! Allow me to introduce myself:My name is Miss CoCo, and I am waiting...
As a little background, I (28 - Asst. Sales & Marketing Director @ Custom Homes Firm & Real Estate Agent) have been with my incredible boyfriend (boyfriend?! SO over that word, let's just call him Mr. CoCo from now on - age 31 - Proprietary Brands Rep at Corporate for Big Box Home Improvement Chain) for five years as of this summer. He is my rock, my teammate, and absolutely the love of my life.
In February this year, he randomly mentioned looking at rings so that he could make sure when he gets "down on one knee I'll have something you will love forever" *swoon & cue string orchestra*
We went looking one weekend, and to a trunk show during the middle of the work day a few weeks later.
I have discovered since then, that I have become *obsessed* with marrying him and am the type of person that doesn't do 'waiting' so well. My engagement clock is definitely ticking now. I made the mistake of mentioning to my Mom and a few close girl friends that we started looking, and now the pressure is really on.
I use to think women like the one I have become were crazy. I can even hear myself saying to friends, "Take your time girl, what's the big hurry?" , "Girl please, *neck roll* don't you beg a man to marry you, you have all the time in the world" or "Married?! I don't see that on my iCal, get back to me in 10 years!".Now sometimes, I get a little resentful inside. I can't help but think, knowing he recognizes how much we've grown, how much we've accomplished, how happy and secure we are together - why wouldn't you be 110% focused and committed to honoring me in that way? What is taking you so long? Knowing how important marriage is to me, and to ensuring we have a future together. You know my Daddy wouldn't have this if he were still here, so get on it!
I'm lucky in that we can actually talk about it, without me seeming like I am nagging or pressuring him. He knows I'm just a little impatient, lol. I take security in knowing that we are on the same page and that at this point it isn't IF anymore, but WHEN (+ a few extra dollar signs in the bank $$)I look forward to being a part of this wonderful community, and supporting each other as the time ticks by ever so slowly.
Always,Miss CoCo
MissCoCo, your observation "why wouldn't you be 110% focused and committed to honoring me in that way?" just brought me out of lurking mode! When ever I mention something along those lines to dearest, it comes out much less eloquently--along the lines of "you're getting what you want, so I should have something in return" (ha!)
Anyway, a summary of me and my other half: I'm a 33 year old medical student (took his encouragement for me to follow my dreams), he's a very young 60, retired from the Army now working at a normal job. He has children who are the age that their supposed to be grown (that's a whole different topic!), and I have none. He was married before to a woman who abandonded him and the children and he had to give up his career in order to raise the children, I was previously engaged to a horrid man. We met just as his divorce was finalizing --about a year after my prior engagement broke up--which has now been 7 years.
A few complications have come our way--his children, my parents/family. It's hard to believe I'm the age I am and that I still bow to my parents the way I do, I'm not entirely sure they know the nature of our relationship, but they do know he is my best friend and really appreciate him. His children are still overly dependent on him (one son who's nearly my age lives with him, another son who is older than me lives in another house he owns--both rent-free)
Anyway, we have talked about the kind of wedding we want (us, our priest, two other people in a meaningful-to-us park), he had me go ahead and order a wedding dress (J Crew Sophia), and we have rings (wedding and engagement) picked out--have for about two years now. I'm starting to feel like a fool...and not just a fool in love.
Hey there! So, after some weeks of lurking, I've finally taken the plunge and made a weddingbee account! My boyfriend is twenty-three, and I will be twenty-three in a week or so. The day before my birthday is our fouth anniversary. We met in highschool, and were friends (though I always liked him, even if I wouldn't admit it). We started dating in college (the day before my nineteenth birthday), and have been together ever since. We've lived together for almost three years, and we have one crazy and fluffy kitty.
I'm very excited to have an outlet for all of my premature wedding craziness, and to give my (very understanding) boyfriend a break. We have discussed marriage and engagement at length, and are both very excited for the future. He recently told me he has been putting a lot of thought into when to propose, and that he was thinking sometime after our fifth anniversary. AH!!!!!! It might seem like a long time to some, but we are young, and, although I am excited, I am content to wait, and am in no rush. Other than that, I can't wait to start posting!
Hi everyone! I am a 22 year old college student, soon to be grad, and hopefully soon to be employed in my field!
I met my bf online after having no success just meeting people at random times in my life. We met on New Years day, after talking for a couple months online. We are both the same age, and have been going pretty strong ever since meeting, been together almost over a year an a half now.
We are at the point right now in our relationship of uncertainty. I have no idea where we are going. But we are committed to each other? If that makes any sense. Haven't had the "where are we going" discussion yet. But I am hoping to have that soon.
I'm hoping to get engaged over the next couple of years, don't know when, but I kind of have a timeline in my head about what would be a good time. Just have to discuss it with the Bf.
Anyway, it's nice meeting everyone on here!
@DrMrsCol: Trust me, it comes out of my brain much less eloquently from a primal place in my head, but never out of my mouth that way! I'm glad my comment inspired you to jump on in, here's hoping the wait doesn't make us crazy-(er).
(Or start making analogies about cows and milk in public!)
Hi Bees!
I've been lurking for a couple of months now and finally decided to register! My BF and I are both 27 and have been together for 4.5 years, almost 4 of which we've been living together. We've been focused on building our careers (he owns his own business, I'm climbing the corporate ladder) and getting financially stable. We've talked about marriage and have actually gotten to the point where we've discussed what kind of ring I want. So I know it's only a matter of time, probably within the next two years--but I'm impatient. A lot of my friends were married right out of college so in comparison, it feels liks I've been waiting forever.
I'm trying to not bring it up right now and stay focused on the fact that we have a great relationship and genuinely still enjoy being together. We really are best friends and I know we are absolutely committed to each other, even if there aren't rings on our fingers. If anything, the great part about not getting married right away means that we've already had to deal with a lot of the tough conversations--money, sex, career changes, trust, etc. We definitely still fight about things from time to time, but I feel like we've grown up a lot since we started dating and have learned a lot about how to communicate.
So I'm trying to be positive and keep some perspective on the whole situation, but I'm girly and I love weddings in general anyway so sometimes I need to talk about "someday"! I'm super excited to be a part of this community.
Hi everybody! I have been lurking here for a few months, and am trying to get out of my shell. :)
My bf and I have been together 3 years next month. He's a writer and I'm a designer, so we are both very creative spirits. We met at an improv show, and I knew he was special when I pulled him up to dance and he didn't flinch - even though we were the only people on the dancefloor!
We have been through many ups and downs. My father (who I'm very close to) nearly died of a genetic disease and I quit my job to help my family during that time. I was then diagnosed with the same disease and had to go through treatment. My bf never left my side and always supported all of my decisions, even during the darkest moments. But, we have had more good times than bad and I we make each other laugh and smile everyday! Our goals, beliefs, dreams, etc. are 100% inline. We are a great fit for each other in every way and I can't imagine my life with anyone else.
Being a designer and very picky about details, I had to have some input into my ering. Which was just how my bf wanted it, because he's less into detail than I am. LOL! We designed my ering together and its really a combination of our tastes and personalities. And from the one photo I have seen of it - its beautiful!! Much more perfect than if ould have been if either of us designed it alone. The sides of the ring he designed himslef, and that will be a surprise for me! The jeweler let us know that the ring is complete, and my bf is being very secrative about its arrival! We should get engaged between June and August. I can't wait to be engaged to the most amazing man I know, its hard to keep all these happenings a secrect from my fiends and family much longer!! ESP when everyone keeps asking when we are getting married!
I am sooo excited to be apart of the weddingbee community! Even though I'm almost 30, none of my female friends are married or even in a serious relationship so they can't relate. A few of my male friends (all from our college days) are engaged and getting married, but their SOs don't understand the whole having a 'female friend' thing, so I just leave that alone, LOL! I'm looking forward to sharing with a group of like minded people!
This thread is getting a bit too long so I'm going to have to close it. Here is Part 2 for your enjoyment!
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