Post # 1
Just a week ago, I was so excited about an upcoming date that the proposal may be on, but tonight I’m feeling like it’s not going to happen any time soon.
I just have to keep telling myself to not bring it up (I’ve let a few hints slip today… oops) and it will happen when it will happen!
How are the other waiting bees holding up?
Post # 3
@Exie: I’m sorry to hear you are feeling that way 🙁 I can sympathise.
A few weeks ago SO randomly wanted to take me to the beach where we had one of our first dates, and my mum kept saying that she thought he would propose. I haven’t been expecting a proposal until at least October, but my mum’s questioning started getting me excited.
I’m doing okay now, I know SO is going to ask this year and I’m not in a rush, but I did feel silly and disappointed that I got my hopes up the last time.
Post # 4
@sunshinewish15: I’ve never had my hopes up about a date until now. I’d love it to be that date, but now I’m trying to ground myself and not get over-excited. It’s hard!
I know what you mean though. I don’t necessarily know it’s going to happen this year, but definitely before March next year, but most likely this year. There’s no rush for me either. I’m still studying, so we’re not getting married until after that anyway.
Post # 5
I’ve been feeling a bit sad about it recently, SO said it’ll probably happen by the end of the year but he didn’t want to promise just in case. I know he’s been thinking about it more since me moved in together 6 weeks ago and I definitely don’t expect super fast miracles! But still, to me there’s not much of this year left.
I’m feeling sad and ‘don’t care’ about it at the same time, probably because I’ve got a lot going on at work. Baaaa.
Post # 6
Waiting is so hard!! It’s hard not to get our hopes up and its hard to not be disappointed. Try not to think about it (easier said than done and advice I’m struggling with)!!
it will all be worth it in the end!
Post # 7
I’ve been not doing well. Especially considering it was my 5 year anniversary this weekend and we went out and celebrated. When I got to work on Monday, one of my coworkers kept staring at my empty ring finger and smirking as she asked me how my weekend was going. I am starting to not like her just because she can’t control her expressions. She didn’t say anything but she can never hide what she is thinking. It just made me so sad and mad all at the same time. On a positive note, we had an awesome time this weekend and got to go out on Friday and Saturday. We really just had sucha good weekend and I didn’t bring up marriage although I really really wanted to do so.
Post # 8
I’ve been doing great! It’ll happen within the next 2-3 months, so I’m pretty calm I guess. I think it helps to just focus on other things, planning, family, friends, etc.
Every once in a while I’ll update my friends with any “good” news, but otherwise I just spend my time enjoying my relationship. The more you concentrate on what hasn’t happened yet, the more you’ll be miserable. We all know it’s coming, some soon and some a little later. Just be patient and enjoy your SO.
Don’t suck the fun out of your life by worrying about something that you know WILL happen!
Post # 9
Everyone I know had me convinced my SO was going to buy me a ring in Turkey/Germany while he was out of the country working. Now, I know that isn’t necessarily feasible, but I got really excited.
Although, I do believe he may have gone ring shopping on Friday 🙂
Post # 10
I am SO glad I found this board. Waiting is the best-worst thing ever. My boyfriend and I have been together 6 years. We’ve know for a long time we wanted to get married, but we got together so young (I was 19 and he was 20, both in college) that it hasn’t been a real possibility until this past year. I know he has the ring now (or at least has paid and has to pick it up), and it is making me crazy! He wants to move forward with planning and even wants to put a deposit down on a venue because there is only one date available for next October (which is when we both would like it to be). I’m so torn because it’s almost like you can’t openly celebrate it, and we will have set the date for goodness sake- that is a big deal to me!
It’s like it consumes you, and you’re just waiting. Everything he does makes you wonder if its coming. Every.single.thing.
I know I’m so lucky to have the man of my dreams wanting to marry me, but I am having such a hard time with this waiting thing! So happy I found a place I can vent and relate and read your stories, it keeps me from opening my mouth when I shouldn’t out of frustration!
Post # 11
I guess I never really thought about getting engaged so much until we went ring shopping, which was 3 months ago. And since 2 weeks after that, he’s been telling me he definitely has enough for a ring. I think my impatience also plays a role – I suck at waiting! Haha.
@LittleWigeon: I’m a bit the same. He’s made hints that it will happen this year, but not promises. I do want it to be a surprise, but I’d like it to happen soon too!
@sillybilly88: I know 🙂 I’m usually good with waiting – I know I’ve got plenty of time, but I feel silly getting my hopes up when it’s probably my own imagination that’s made up the situation!
@bluefrog33: Oh, that coworker sucks. I hate smug people like that. But I’m very glad you had such a good weekend. Happy 5th anniversary!
@Nika2013: That’s good to hear 🙂 And that is what I try to think of when I get disappointed – it will happen some time, so I may as well enjoy the time between then and now.
@arsing89: Aw, ring shopping is exciting! Congratulations!
@sunflowersweet610: Oh, I know! Waiting is definitely the best-worst thing. I was also young when SO and I started dating – he was almost 17 and I was 18, so I was just out of school.
But wow, that’s so great that you’ve got a potential date! So exciting!
Post # 12
I ended up “bringing it up” only a few hours before he proposed. I still feel crappy about that.
Post # 13
I am glad this is a recent thread because I have been wanting to VENT!
My college roomate and her FI chose a Sept 2014 date. My little sis from my sorority and her FI chose a July 2014 date.
i have had my heart set on a late Aug 2014 wedding. It will be my grandparents 56th wedding anniversary which i think is incredibly romantic and nostalgic. Now that the month before and the month after are taken, I am secretly PANICKING!!!!! What if someone elae close to me gets engaged and announces their date in Aug 2014? I wont have the heart to make my wedding the same month! 🙁 I blame my SO because I dont know what is taking so long
Post # 14
@Exie: We are both Aussies and studying! It’s nice to see other bees from Australia 🙂 when you think about it, March is really only 6 months away so if it’s before then that time will fly!
Post # 15
@Bubbles42: Aw no! I’m likely to do the same haha. It’s in the past now though, and you’re an engaged bee! Congratulations!
@ArizonaGirl: I feel you. The same month won’t matter! Though I’ll keep you in my thoughts and hope he pops that questions ASAP!
@sunshinewish15: Oh, cool! I don’t see many Australians on weddingbee. When you put it that way, it makes it sound much better!
Today we were at the shopping centre and I couldn’t help but to ask to look at rings. But everytime I went to one shop, he’d keep telling me that the place I tried on rings a few months back would be way better which makes me think he’s either bought or intends to buy from that jewellers!
Post # 16
@Exie: thanks. Not gunna lie, “waiting ” was hard as fuck. And it was only four months from the month he said (drunkenly) that he was likely to propose in.