Waiting Bees are you considering a Destination Wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: Are you considering a destination wedding?
    Concidering is an understatement, I am HAVING a destination wedding? : (18 votes)
    31 %
    Most Likely : (15 votes)
    26 %
    I have never concidered it, I would have to learn more : (4 votes)
    7 %
    Heck NO! Im getting married at home : (17 votes)
    29 %
    I would need to consult with a professional to see if it is a good fit for me. : (4 votes)
    7 %
  • Post # 3
    64 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    What a beautiful place to get married. My fiance and I thought about getting married in Bora Bora, but I was too sad over the thought that my family wouldn’t be able to afford, and attend. Instead we’re having a destination wedding in a city 7 hours away. I’m not sure if that’s still considered a destination wedding, per se, but the San Francisco scene is much different than the Inland Empire.

    Post # 4
    1535 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2015

    We want a destination wedding! We’re actually starting planning. We want to have the wedding in Hilton Head Island, SC (we’re in Toronto)next summer, and he wants to propose this summer. So, we want to have everything basically in place to send out invites once we get engaged.

    So far, we’ve narrowed it down to 2 venues

    Post # 5
    858 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I live in Sonoma County and it’s expensive to get married out here due to the destination wedding industry… So I am thinking about having a wedding elsewhere. All of my family lives out of state, too. My SO really likes the idea of getting married at Disneyland, I’ve thought about going to my mom’s hometown (no family there anymore, but it’s a beautiful and meaningful place to me). But his family lives in the area and we have friends scattered throughout the bay, so we are still considering getting married around here. We’ve been researching but won’t start visiting venues and pricing out options out until we actually get engaged, so I guess we’ll wait and see!

    Post # 6
    1343 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2017

    We haven’t had any real discussions on destination weddings, but I could see us doing it.  Most of his family lives in another state, plus we both love California, so I could see us doing it there somewhere.

    Post # 7
    1406 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We both want to get married in Hawaii.  Neither of us are really into wedding, so we’ll invite our parents and our best friends.  Simple and low drama for us!

    Post # 8
    197 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    No destination wedding for me. Don’t get me wrong, I would love to have one! But, SO and I are Catholic and in the end its more important for us to get married in the church. Yes, we could get married in a Catholic church somewhere else, but it wouldn’t have any sentimental value like if we were to get married in my family’s church, plus it is difficult to get approval from a church outside your “district” and if you do its crazy expensive. Maybe we can plan a vow renewal somewhere in the future!

    Post # 9
    605 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2016

    My SO and I throw the idea of a DW around quite alot.. I doubt we will actually do it though.. Most of our family & friends wouldn’t be able to make it! 

    Post # 10
    482 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2016

    I would love a destination wedding. Somewhere on a beach or garden outside. But SO is quite traditional and said he would have regrets if he didn’t have a church wedding at home. Plus it’s an expensive hassle getting all our friends and family someplace else (we’re probably going to have a relatively large wedding). 

    We compromised on a church wedding and a honeymoon in Hawaii =]

    Post # 11
    441 posts
    Helper bee

    Nope, gotta admit I’ve never understood the appeal of destination weddings. If I were invited to one I’d either feel inconvenienced for having to travel, or guilty/awkward for having to decline because of the logistics. I want to make my wedding as convenient as possible for the guests.

    I’d only consider a destination wedding if everyone I intended to invite already wanted to travel to a certain place together, or something like that.

    Post # 12
    419 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2015

    So I am a waiting bee, but we have already discussed/agreed to get married in my home state of MN, where my family and most of my friends live. SO and I live about 1000 miles, or 17 hours driving (without stopping), from my family. SO’s family and friends live 1-5 hours south of us… so his family and friends would all be traveling. 

    I have been looking at venues for some time, but keep going back and fourth between my dream of the all in one venue at a resort up north and being close to the airport for his family’s convenience. If we went with the up north resort, we would either have to provide transport for OOT guests from the MSP airport to the resort (about 2.5 -4 hour drive, depending on the final resort choice) OR expect people to rent a car- which I think is asking too much when they already have to pay for lodging and transportation…. I’m pretty sure we will end up with a lower guest count for MN and have to have a reception back in SO’s home state. 

    Are there other waiting domestic destination wedding bees out there?

    Post # 13
    532 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Definitely destination wedding. I wanted to elope and SO wanted a wedding (for his family) so DW was the compromise. We haven’t worked out any of the finer details but I want to keep it as small as possible.

    Post # 14
    2516 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think destination weddings are beautiful, but I can’t imagine having one myself. It’s important for me to make it as easy as possible for my friends and family to celebrate with me. I don’t feel comfortable asking them to use up their vacation days and savings to spend a week with me overseas. My goal is to be as inclusive as possible, not exclusive.

    The only place that isn’t either of our hometowns that I would consider is Napa Valley. Many of my friends already live in SF, so it wouldn’t be a big stretch.

    Post # 15
    119 posts
    Blushing bee

    MY SO and I were both born and raised in San Diego. However we also both moved to Houston for college and have made and established lives here. Because of that no matter where we have our wedding people will HAVE to travel. Why not make it fair and have everyone travel I would def, consider it. 

    Post # 16
    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    We’re considering it because our family is all over the place. We have close family members in New York, Connecticut, Ontario, New Brunswick, Nova Scotia, and Alberta. We live in Québec, and the only family here is his mother. Everyone else will have to travel anyway.


    However, I don’t want a beach wedding, so I’m thinking about the Laurentian mountains. Is anyone else thinking about a non-beach destination wedding?


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