Post # 1
Hello fellow waiting bees!
My SO & I have discussed marriage for a few months. Neither of us wants to go into debt and he is particularly concerned with paying for a ring, a wedding and a honeymoon. While we might end up getting a LITTLE help from family members, I’m assuming we’d be paying for everything ourselves more or less.
So, my waiting timeline has far more to do with money than anything else. I know he’s saving for a ring. We’ve basically planned that I will look for a job near his place, move in and pretty much the majority of my income will be saved for the wedding while he continues to pay rent & bills.
So my question is: while you’re waiting do you have a budget in mind? How much have you planned out?
Post # 3
Im not engaged yet still in waiting but we both agreed on a ring and wedding budget and were both paying for the wedding ourselves no loans or family helping. We wouldnt want to go into debt or ask for any assistance even tho both our parents are offering to help out.
wedding budget is $60,000
Post # 4
- Wedding: July 2017 - Bristol zoo
I’m nowhere near being engaged (I think XD) but I love watching “Don’t tell the bride” where the budget is always £12,000 so I’ve kind of idealised that as a nice amount 🙂 (though hopefully I’d actually spend less)
Post # 5
@MaidMarian: Yeah, the other day I mentioned that a fellow bridesmaid in another wedding said her total was 18k and the boyfriend almost died. SIIIIGH.
Post # 6
Right now we are just seeing how much things are going to add up. As of right now, we’re trying very hard to keep most of the wedding plus reception under $10,000. If we can find a barn to rent it should be cheaper. We have to start discussing who is paying for what as it’s probably going to be split between us and both sets of parents.
Post # 7
We’ve talked about a budget of about 10k including the honeymoon because we’re doing a DW/elopement but I’ve crunched the BASIC numbers & it’s looking like it’ll be more than that =/ I’m also including the wedding rings in that though so if I take out the rings, the ceremony, at home party/reception, and honeymoon should stay in budget. It kind of kills me because the main reason I want a Destination Wedding is to save money & we’re still spending a ton. (that to me is a ton lol)
Post # 8
Weve talked budgets and time….we have a small amount saved, and i would like to stay under 6k, ive got my eye on a dress that is about $300, flowers ive priced for under $300 (i want to use mainly silk flowers in everything…no roses ect….) were alsolooking at doing it at an inn near us thats half way in between the families wich will eat up the majority of the budget probably around (3k total) for the venu itself on the grounds and they include lodging for the majority of the guests….then food is the other big one! Were looking at getting married in the off seasons like late fall to get discounts….were not engaged yet but ive been crunching the basics….im hoping with alot of DIY i can save a bunch….cuz i love me some hobby lobby! the other 2 big expenses i have yet to really price is photography and cake!
Post # 9
My parents gave my sister and BIL a certain amount of money to plan their wedding (10K), so I’m hoping, and guessing, we will receive the same for our wedding when we become engaged.
Post # 10
My Mom is willing to pay for a big chunk of our wedding. I’m not sure exactly how much though. She gave 5,000 for my brother, but his wife’s parents gave 10,000. SO’s parents probably won’t give much, if any, they don’t have much money to spare. I think she’ll end up giving us a bit more. I plan on keeping it under 10,000
I plan on renting or buying used/selling, getting flowers in bulk and I know a place that does $50/plate. We also plan on getting married on our anniversary, which is on a weekday, and they will give us a good deal on it (i already asked lmao!). Also, don’t want to have more than about 60-75 people there.
SO wants to get me a really nice ring though, he’s emphasized that a lot. I know he’ll be saving for that
Post # 11
I’m currently impatienty waiting to get engaged and have a pretty good idea it will happen this year. Knowing that it’s definitely coming, my SO has requested that I not ask him about it anymore because I was driving him a little bit crazy with my inquiries.
With that in mind, I really wish there were a way for us to discuss the budget in more detail. We both do not want to go into debt and don’t expect our families to contribute anything substantial (in the monetary sense–I’m sure they’ll be a big help!), but, since SO hasn’t ever looked in to anything wedding-related, I think he has a super warped sense of how much this thing is going to cost us. Example: he talks about having a band, open bar, Saturday night party, etc., but wants to keep things UNDER $10k. We live in an expensive city, and, only because I’m engagement/wedding/marriage-obsessed right now, I’m pretty sure that’s going to be impossible.
We’re going out to dinner with some friends of ours tomorrow who are just starting to plan their wedding, so hopefully talking to them will help convince him that we should start saving, like, now and that he should get a move on it and propose!
Post # 12
I had the thought that I could do a backyard, DIY, major friendor wedding for like $4k but even with all that, I’m thinking that’s really not an option considering we’re having minimum 150 guests. SIIIGH. I feel like I HAVE TO plan a budget now, so I know how much I have to save, so I know how long we’ll have to wait.
Post # 13
I haven’t got a budget but we’d make it work without gong into debt (I’d hope) 🙂
Post # 14
I do, I’ve done much more research than I should lol Already figured out possible venues and what not hahaha My mother said she would give 10k, my father will not talk about the subject until the ring is officially on my finger (I think he has been talked to already by the future fiance but I get squat of info from either)
I plan on saving about 10k before the wedding (only good thing about a super long engagement) and idk how much the future Fiance would chip in since he is very traditional and has no notion that weddings have changed since the 1950s lol
And we are having TWO weddings, one in Costa Rica and one in Arizona, I hope to spend 10k on the one in Costa Rica (big party!) and 5k on the one in Arizona (we want his grandfather to marry us and due to a heart condition he can’t travel) and the other 5k are for splurges (ahem photography and videographer)
I sound like a nut having it all planned already don’t I hahaha
Post # 15
Our goal was under $10k for everything. However, it is looking to cost around $12,500. Some help from my parents otherwise we are paying for it all and I am a full time student. Yikes!
We splurged on our honeymoon to Mexico so that brought it up quite a bit. Our reception hall is the most expensive part, but the food has always been amazing there so we booked it anyway.
We are having approximately 100 people to our ceremony in a small park and then 200 people for dinner and dance. Our invitations are from VistaPrint.. they have some really nice options and with a 50% off from Retail me not our invitations are only $145 (this includes all enclosures).
Try to find connections in the wedding business. We know a professional photographer who is doing everything for $500! We did not plan a budget prior to being engaged and we are planning a wedding in less than a year so it can be done!
Post # 16
We don’t exactly have a “budget” I am trying my hardest to keep everything under 8k. I think I will be able to do it. Thanks to having a smaller guest list. We booked on a friday which brings down the food and bev minimums. We are also having our ceremony at the same place as our reception. Just paying for chairs and sound set up for officiant which will be around $320. I am hoping to find the dress I’m loving in next years clearance cause its this years maggie sottero styles… otherwise to find it used. I can go to the local bridal shop to get measured in the dress so I buy the right size. We may be having some family help but otherwise its all us! That budget does not include the honeymoon.
Can’t imagine where someone gets 60k to pay for a wedding. I would have to try extra hard to spend that kinda money.