Waiting bees: enjoy being a girlfriend!

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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6964 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@inspiration86:  This is exactly how I feel. I am NOT looking forward to being engaged– I’m looking forward to being married. I am so nervous about the wedding costs and my dad thinking he can invite all his high school buddies and SO’s mom and sisters having a million ideas I don’t want and blah blah blah…. But I do want a big family wedding. Maybe I’ll win the lottery before I’m engaged and then I can hire a team of DOCs and make them deal with everything 😛

Post # 4
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9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

@inspiration86:  I think there is enjoyment to be found in each stage – dating, engaged, and married. I say slow down and enjoy phase. It’s about the journey, not the destination.

Post # 5
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2052 posts
Buzzing bee

@inspiration86:  Thanks fellow bee!  I do really want to get married, but I do consider the work that goes into planning a wedding (BFs family is from the north and my family is in FL) and how complicated its going to be to get everyone together….and then realizing that after marriage there will probably be babies and the thought is exhausting! 

Words like this from time to time, even though you are one lucky bee to be engaged, help those of us who are (almost desperately) waiting deal with things better and calm down over the entire situation.

Post # 7
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1327 posts
Bumble bee

Thanks for the advice!  I keep reminding myself to enjoy being a girlfriend now because I don’t have to cook very often (even though he’d probably like for me to :P), I don’t have to do his laundry, clean his apartment, or anything like that!  I can just go hang out, enjoy being with him, and leave.  I do, of course, try to do the dishes sometimes but he usually takes care of it, and he doesn’t complain. ^.^

Post # 8
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I ended getting sick and tired of being a GF. After a while I was like, “Ok, this GF shit is just that!” I was happy to leave my status as GF behind. I found myself feeling like a less legitimate person when my BF at the time would introduce me to family and friends. “Hi everyone, I’d like you to meet my GF of 5 [friggin’] years…” I felt like I was going to be a forever GF and was happy to have what I felt to be a more formal title instead of being in limbo.

Post # 9
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181 posts
Blushing bee

Im so over it! Its been 7 years and I  cant wait to get married. Luckily we have already decided to elope, so there will be no wedding stress. I am really looking forward to the future.

Post # 10
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2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Eh, I didn’t care that much for the GF or FI stage.  When you’re 37 you kind of just want to get on with it!  Luckily he felt the same way, so we got married 11 months after we met!

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@oneofthesethings:  I am with you. At 35, there is little charm in being a long term GF.

Post # 12
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2395 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@LilRhodyGem:  Yeah – I think these kinds of posts are directed at much younger people.  There’s no need to be in a rush when you’re 25, but there is 10 years later!

Post # 13
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250 posts
Helper bee

I agree that this may be directed at the younger crew here.  when you are a little older you know what you want and how to shoot down others ideas in a respectful manner. You are also at the stage of “I don’t give a damn” rather than “what will others think”.  Well at least I am lol 🙂

Post # 14
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429 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Don’t get me wrong, I LOVE being a GF, but I have been a GF for 8 years! And we’ve lived together for 3! (I joke and call our relationship a civil union Tongue Out) Its time for a change!! 

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

…yeaaaaah: after two cross-country moves for his job in one year, and living together, I was pretty over being a girlfriend. Even our friends were having trouble labeling us: “this is Bababing and her…what are you guys, now? Common law?”

No complaints about wedding planning, either. It’s only as hard as he and I make it!

Post # 16
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Sugar bee

I think it really depends on the nature of the relationship and age/where you are in life. Personally, I am enjoying being a girlfriend because I was already in a 5-year relationship with a 2-year engagement and that was a disaster. I’m patient this time around and even told him to slow down and not propose this year like he’d originally planned because I want us to be stable in our careers and life together before we take the next step.

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