Waiting Bees: How are you feeling as we approach the end of engagement season?

posted 3 years ago in Waiting
  • poll: How do you feel as we approach the end of engagement season?
    excited/hopeful! : (14 votes)
    18 %
    bummed/depressed : (6 votes)
    8 %
    PISSED OFF >:( : (3 votes)
    4 %
    hopeless : (6 votes)
    8 %
    completely at ease : (28 votes)
    35 %
    anxious : (9 votes)
    11 %
    don't care : (12 votes)
    15 %
    other : (2 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    2721 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    @daffodil89:  I am not a waiting bee but I wanted to say that men don’t necessarily realizr that it is “engagement season.” So he might not think that proposing after Valentine’s Day is a big issue. (my proposal was in early october)

    Post # 4
    Member
    3624 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    @daffodil89:  I am no longer a waiting bee, but I got engaged on 2/22. DH had the ring, but was waiting for the right time and didn’t want it on some cheesey holiday (his words, not mine, I’d have taken it!). He also wanted over a year engagement so he pushed back the engagement to make sure we would have to wait over a year to get married. From my experience, don’t stress. it’ll happen!

    Post # 5
    Member
    1676 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2015

    @daffodil89:  I feel entirely at ease. I know a proposal won’t be happening in the first half of this year, so I’m happy, content and looking forward to summer! And bring on the warm weather too!

    Post # 8
    Member
    900 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @nycsa:  agreed – mine was in May….on the couch over pizza.

    Totally out of the blue. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    1327 posts
    Bumble bee

    I’m feeling pretty okay considering we haven’t been together very long, but I have to say, I did have a disappointing conversation recently regarding timelines.

    SO and I met at the end of 2012, at 25 and 27.  He gave me the impression from the get-go that he really wanted to settle down (especially given our ages, and him being a small town boy with mostly married friends), and he once said something about proposing in 2014.  It was a bit sooner than I thought, but I soon got used to and came to really like the idea.  I thought we’d then get married in 2015, and I even kind of picked a date.

    Then last week week, we talked about timelines and apparently he wanted to wait another 4-6 years! What???  He said he wanted me to have 2 years to live on my own (I’m hopefully moving out this summer or fall), then 2 years of us living together before we should get engaged, married, and try for kids. 

    So I said that I’m actually hoping to get engaged after being together for about 3 years, get married a year after, enjoy our time as a married couple for 1 year, before trying for a baby.  Basically, I want to shorten his minimum timeline of 4 years to 3.

    I can have 1-2 years living alone – one year is perfectly fine with me – but I do not want to wait 2 years while living together.  If we do live together before marriage (which he previously said he didn’t want and I was onboard with), I want to be engaged after 1 year of cohabitation.  He was very thoughtful but didn’t say much.

    So…we’ll see what happens! :S

    Post # 11
    Member
    1627 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Is there really a season? My husband proposed in March.

    Post # 12
    Member
    2125 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    @daffodil89: I’m glad it’s ending, but also hopeful. I was guilty of thinking and hoping that a proposal would come over the holidays, but it did not. I know my SO is plans on proposing by Spring Break, but I still thought it may happen sooner (he’s hinted at it a couple times). It MIGHT happen on Valentine’s Day, so I’m also hopeful.

    I mean, he’s already had my ring for about 6 months, so…

    Post # 13
    Member
    662 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

    I’m glad it will be over soon, so I won’t have engagements in my face every time I log onto social media 🙂 But I am totally at ease, I have so many other things that I want to accomplish this year, and so many fun things waiting for me this summer. A ring will come when it is supposed to.

    Post # 14
    Member
    411 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    I’m honestly glad that the typical “engagement season” is almost over. SO feels strongly about not proposing during the more common periods, like Christmas, Valentine’s Day, etc. He wants it to be a complete surprise, so he’s bound and determined to not drop any hints and do it when I’m least expecting it. Such a sneak!

    That being said, I’m definitely not expecting anything until he graduates police academy for his park ranger job in mid-March and I can generate enough cash flow with my freelance writing business to get a place near him and move out of my parents’ house (We’re 4.5 hours away at the moment). We actually have a really good hour-long conversation about engagement rings over Skype this past weekend! We were sending links back and forth and discussing over webcam what I liked, didn’t like, and what his tastes were. EEEEEEEEK!!!! I REALLY hope it happens before the end of the year!

    Post # 15
    Member
    1463 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @nycsa:  Agreed.  My first time around I became engaged in March, also known as “basketball season.”  Wink

    Post # 16
    Member
    681 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @daffodil89:  no longer a waiting bee but I’ll share this pic that pretty much sums up how I used to feel! It cracks me up every time!!

     

     

     ETA: This is not anyone I know, found it on pinterest

     

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