Post # 1
Just a thought, because I’ve noticed how some women post about everything from ex’s coming out of the woodwork, to people slandering their names once they find out and throwing surprise parties once they have become engaged. Bad behavior can catch you off guard, and sometimes even those you never thought would care eventually do.
How do you think people will react to yours? Feel free to specify individuals and as to why you believe they will react the way you think they will. Also, how do you plan to handle such behavior if negative?
Post # 3
I think that I’ll get a lot of “Finally!” sort of comments, but I’m only expecting a possible negative reaction from 2 people. One is from my family and just has problems letting other people have the limelight, and the other is from his side of the family and treats our relationships like they’re in competition. I have a feeling (and an evil part of me kind of hopes) that we’ll get engaged first and I don’t think they’re going to take it well.
Post # 4
I’m already preparing for my parents’ bad reaction. They don’t understand the meaning of marriage AT ALL, will say I’m too young and my mother will probably try really hard to talk me out of it. Not necessarily because she thinks it’s a bad idea, mostly because that’s what she always does with anything I do, not matter what it is. She tries to talk me out of doing things that she previously tried to talk me into doing. I don’t care too much, because they’ll most likely come around. My FILs will be happy, so that makes up for it 🙂
As for ex’s, I’m looking forward to it! (I would NEVER admit that anywhere else than the Bee, haha) Both of my serious ex’s have continued, years after the break up, to make comments about how one day it will work out, one day we will have sex again, how my SO and I can’t possibly be in a serious relationship (they’ve never met my SO)… One even said he was looking forward to visiting me when I was “in between boyfriends” – at that point I had been with my SO for 6 years. WTF. I found that so offensive. Both of them are crazy. But they both live in Europe so they hopefully can’t cause any drama!
Thanks for letting me get this off my chest 😛 What about you, @GirlWithTheGlassSlippers: ? Are you anticipating bad reactions?
Post # 5
I also think that I’ll get a lot of “Finally!” type of responses and a lot of support and happiness. I can only think of one person who will be negative about it, but she’s the world’s most negative person and does everything she can to undermine every happy thing in her friends’ lives, so it’s par for the course. I don’t think my ex will come back out of the woodwork though because I’m pretty sure he’s married now.
Post # 6
They won’t be surprised; people have been asking when we’re getting engaged for a few months now. My closest friends know it’s coming sometime this year.
Post # 7
@GirlWithTheGlassSlippers: The overwhelming majority of people will be truly happy for us. One or two people I expect some less than supportive comments from and if I am correct then they will be promptly deleted from my life.
Post # 8
I can’t imagine anyone we know not being extremely happy for us. I am truly blessed to have such supportive and loving friends and family on both sides!
Post # 9
The people that matter to us will be happy for us – some will say ‘damn bout time!!’. One little wench will turn more rancid when she finds out but who cares?
Post # 10
Most people will probably be thrilled, a few might say “finally”. We’ve been together a very short time, but kind of everyone including us has known from the start that this is it. My mom told me to marry him the first time they met.
Post # 11
I think that when I get engaged, people are going to be very, very shocked. I never saw myself as ever getting married. Not that I didn’t have the desire to. But, that I used to be very obese and insecure and didn’t think anyone would want me.
I lost 80 pounds and I’m still working hard to adjust to such a new lifestyle. And, after having had been engaged before and he walked out on me, I just was a bit skeptical about marriage. My current SO has changed that though. While I do know that he wants to be married to me next year, and that a proposal is indeed coming soon, I am still nervous at the thought of not knowing how to plan a wedding lol I think I’ll be more focused on getting us ready for the marriage.
I also have a few odd ex’s who check in every now and then to see if im married lol That’s weird too. So im sure there will be some trying to come back. I have one female friend on FB who hates men altogether. But she’s for some reason obsessed with my relationship even though she lives states away, and I’ve never met her in person lol So I can only imagine what her reation will be. Smh
Post # 12
Interesting topic! I think my family and friends will say FINALLY..lol I’m not expecting any negative reactions from anyone though. I also have a random ex who checks in every once in a while, so I’m sure he will resurface when it happens lol
Post # 13
I think mostly everyone will be supportive… we’ve been together for almost 4 years, and people have already been asking for about a year when we’ll be getting married. I do, however, know of a few people who would be “unsupportive” AKA bitchy if they were to find out that my engagement ring isn’t a diamond.
Post # 14
I’ve been engaged before so I’m having mixed feelings about announcing my second engagement (which will be sometime between October and December of this year). I’m sure my family will be supportive but my mom has already made comments like “you wouldn’t want another engagement ring would you?” although she feels weddings are a waste of money to begin with.
I’m sure his family will be happy but I can see his mom and sister having some additional opinions. His mother wants him to focus on paying off his debt, so when I walk in flashing a sizeable engagement ring she may not agree.
Post # 15
Those close to us will be very happy. My friends and family really like him and his family likes me.
Post # 16
It will definitely be a case of finally and what took him so long. My family and friends absolutely love him and think we’re great together so I’m not really the only one who’s “waiting”
The only people who I think would react negatively are women I used to work with… the majority of them are bitter divorcees and don’t believe in marriage.