Waiting bees… how long have you been waiting and when will it be?

posted 7 days ago in Waiting
  • poll: When do you think he'll propose?
    Within next 1 to 3 months : (21 votes)
    38 %
    3 to 6 months : (11 votes)
    20 %
    6 to 9 months : (8 votes)
    14 %
    9 to 12 months : (5 votes)
    9 %
    More than 12 months' time : (11 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 2
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    55 posts
    Worker bee

    I’ve been waiting for about three years now. I hope it happens soon as we’ve been together four years!

    Post # 3
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    997 posts
    Busy bee

    winebarbiekiss :  I’ve been waiting in earnest since November, and it’ll be by June 1. We’ve been together almost 4 years, and are moving into the house we bought in two weeks! He has the ring, and we both agreed that we wanted to get through the house buying and moving processes before he proposes, because it was starting to feel like “something we had to do” instead of wanted to do. 

    Things are moving along 🙂

    Post # 4
    Member
    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    winebarbiekiss :  FI and I’ve been together for 3 years. He hasn’t officially proposed yet as we’re keeping our engagement largely secret. But it will definitely be before October 2017, since we’re getting married then! xoxo

    Post # 5
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    27 posts
    Newbee

    I’ve been in waiting mode about 4.5 months, but not “extreme” waiting. I just said at the start of the relationship that I wouldn’t want a proposal until after one year, so I’ve been waiting since the one year mark haha. I expect I’ll be about 12 months still – we don’t live together yet, and I feel like it might feel more right for us to be living together and sharing our finances first. That should be happening in December. So I’m think a years time! Maybe a year and a half.

    As for how, I have no idea! I’d think he’d do something just quietly romantic, like a dinner out and a walk at the lake.

    Post # 6
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    375 posts
    Helper bee

    Been dating for 2+ years now, waiting for last 6-9 months or so. We are planning to get married Fall 2018, and he expects to propose sometime this Fall. He has not been ring shopping yet, though. As for asking for blessings, we are both South Asian so the parental blessings came a long time ago haha. In fact they wanted us to be engaged yesterday. So that won’t be an issue.

    My SO said that he doesn’t care about anything wedding planning related except for the proposal and ring he wants to do completely in his own way and as a surprise. So, we’ll see 😀

    Post # 7
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    224 posts
    Helper bee

    FI have been dating for two years, but I knew him for over 10 years before that so I’ve known I wanted to marry him for a long time! 

    I’d say I’ve been ‘properly’ waiting since the end of last year, but this is apparently the year! He told me in Feb that he hadn’t bought the ring yet, and I have a suspicion he may do it around Christmas time, so it’s a long old wait for me! 

    Post # 8
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    1027 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2017

    I just wanted to chime in even though I’m not longer waiting. I was with my FI for 6 years when I officially began ‘waiting’ and it took two years from then for him to propose. He asked two days after our 8 year anniversary. He only had the ring for three weeks when he asked. We will be married on our 9th anniversary. 

    Post # 9
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    Wannabee
    • Wedding: November 2019

    Well we have been together for almost five years (it will be 5 in may) and I’ve been “officially waiting” for about two weeks now. We picked out the stone yesterday, but based on the cost of the setting I’m thinking it won’t officially happen until around Christmas. So 6-9 months ish. We’ve lived together for almost four years now, so it’s time lol.

    Post # 10
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    2 posts
    Wannabee

    Been with my SO for going on 5 years now. Been officially waiting (since our 4th anniversary) about 7 months . I’m expecting it to happen before our 5th anniversary. A few weeks ago, he randomly took me into a jewelry store to get sized and look at the style of rings I like the most. He also opened a profile with the jewelry store. So now I’m really excited and just happy he’s showing me he’s putting in effort towards the next step. He says he knows I’m his future wife but he also knows I’m tired of just words. I want action (and he wants babies). Lol

    Post # 11
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    209 posts
    Helper bee

    I’ve been waiting for 1.5 years now. No proposal in sight. He told me that he would be ready to start thinking about it more at this time next year. I’m beyond frustrated at the glacial pace at which things are moving.

    Post # 12
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    304 posts
    Helper bee

    We’ve been together for 3 and a half years now. I’m expecting a proposal in the next 2 months. I’m 99% sure I’ll be engaged by the end of May. (Fingers crossed!) We’ve been discussing it more and more and I can tell he’s getting excited. We’re planning on having a custom ring made together so I’m not sure about the logistics of that though.

    Post # 13
    Member
    224 posts
    Helper bee

    blissfulheart :  Oof, bee. He’s going to maybe start THINKING about it in a year? I can see why you’re frustrated. :/ How long have you been together? What’s his reasoning for putting even the discussion off for another year at least? 

    Post # 14
    Member
    209 posts
    Helper bee

    thatweddinggirl :  We’ve been together for 2 years, which I guess is not THAT long. I’ve been more than ready to take the next step for a long time though.

    He says that it’s financial. His reasoning is that he’s unhappy with his current job, and he wants to get a new one that pays more before he considers engagement. He also wants to have more in savings. 

    What frustrates me, though, is that you can work towards those goals together as a married couple. People change jobs and save money as a married couple all the time. If anything, I think he’d save more being married to me, as I could pay for half of his mortgage, and certain expenses could be shared. I’ve told him that I don’t want a ring and that a courthouse wedding would be perfect. He says that he wants to do it right though. 

    In all honesty, I don’t think it’s about the money at all, but rather his personal sense of readiness. All of his friends are in 5+ year relationships, and are pretty comfortable just living together as couples. While I respect that choice, I personally don’t feel comfortable moving in with him without an engagement.

    Post # 15
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    4 posts
    Wannabee

    Dating for 2 years…I would say I’ve been waiting for a year now… (He says its only been 6 months since he’s been thinking about it) Just recently we went in to design the ring laughing.  We agreed that it would happen sometime before August. 

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