Waiting bees… how long have you been waiting and when will it be?

posted 4 months ago in Waiting
  • poll: When do you think he'll propose?
    Within next 1 to 3 months : (21 votes)
    36 %
    3 to 6 months : (13 votes)
    22 %
    6 to 9 months : (8 votes)
    14 %
    9 to 12 months : (5 votes)
    8 %
    More than 12 months' time : (12 votes)
    20 %
  • Post # 16
    Member
    22 posts
    Newbee

    Waiting for about two months. Know he has the ring (cause I helped pick it out). Unclear when it will happen. He used to say things about us getting married this year but seeing as that it is March, and things around here get booked really early, I’m thinking that’s probably not so feasible! Good luck to all the other waiting bees! 

    Post # 17
    Member
    35 posts
    Newbee

    I’ve been waiting since January. I found out he bought the ring back in November… but I’m not sure if he physically has it, yet. I’m hoping it’ll happen for our 3 year anniversary in July!

    Post # 18
    Member
    1009 posts
    Bumble bee

    Not sure I count, as I’m not really “waiting” so much as just waiting on the ring to be done. lol But when we had our timeline talk, we agreed to wait another 9-10 months. We wanted to live together longer, then the ring process would take ~4-5 months. We bought the stone right on schedule, and he should have the ring by the 10-month mark (3 months from now.)

    I’m not sure how long he intends to make me wait for the ring once we have it, but better not be longer than a month or so!

    Post # 19
    Member
    47 posts
    Newbee

    I’ve been waiting around 5-6months. Our original timeline was before the end of September 2017 but my SO recently disclosed he had intended to propose in march/April around our anniversary/my birthday. He is planning a career change that will cause a reduced salary throughout a training period towards the end of this year so we decided to reallocate some of the ring savings to boost his income during this time, so all things considered it looks like we will be back on track for the September timeline. 

    I’m not sure how he will propose. He has enlisted the help of his best friend, which could honestly mean anything lol. He has promised that it won’t be a big public thing but he can’t promise that it will be only us as there is an off-chance there may be passers-by. My best guess is a secluded spot on a beach/in the park as he knows I love a good nature walk. A lot of our early dates were takeaway coffees and a walk somewhere scenic. 🙂 

    I love the speculation. I think i’ll miss it when we are engaged 😂 

    Post # 20
    Member
    21 posts
    Newbee

    We’ve been dating for 5.5 years, i started talking about engagement around our 3rd anniversary, so almost 3 years i’ve been waiting. We have the ring (we’ve had it over a year now) and he asked for my dads blessing over the holidays. But i honestly have no idea if it will even happen THIS year. :/

    Post # 21
    Member
    32 posts
    Newbee

    Sorry this is long. 6 years now… It didnt really start getting to me until a bunch of his friends started proposing to their girlfriends of 1 or 2 years. Started to feel like there was something wrong with me (Insecure, I know). 6 months ago we stopped by a ring store while at the mall and he asked me to show me what I love. I was on cloud nine. I love weddings, have always dreamed of planning my own. My pinterest wedding board doubled in size, I gushed to my mom and sister, yada yada. Anyway fast forward to 2 weeks ago, we were out and I saw another one of his friends popped the question. I made some dumb comment like “Oh look, so and so got the ring.” I guess this really got under his skin (Apparently other people, including some of my family were also asking about marriage). He snapped at me at the bar, said some really hurtful things about how I’m ungrateful, and about how he pays my way all the time (We’ve lived together for 4 years, he has a better job so he pays our phone bill), and so on and so on. Due to alcohol, I cried, felt like shit. After 30 minutes of not speaking, he apoplogizes sincerily. He was stressed out from a terrible work week and felt inadequate and took it out on me. I forgave him. Hes been exceptionally sweet since, but I cant forget what was said. Ive been trying to pay for all our nights out and bills and he just refuses saying that he wants me to forget what he said that night. I want to, but I cant. This board is the first wedding this Ive been on since that night. (I’ve even stopped watching “Say Yes to the Dress”) I’m off marriage right now, I dont want anything. I just want to be us and slowly work my way back up to it being a happy idea, because right now I dont have any good feelings about it. Next month we are going to the Bahamas on a trip he earned from his company for being Manager of the Year. I’m very excited but am nervous that he may propose. In that moment I know I’ll cry and say yes. I love this man, I love his daughter, I want to be with them forever. But in the back of my mind I know I will be agonizing over wether or not he just did it to pacify me or because he feels bad. I dont want that, I dont want it to be like that. I want his to be happy about his choice not begrudgingly doing it because everyone thinks he should. I guess we’ll see, I dont want my insecurities to ruin the moment for me or him :/

    Post # 22
    Member
    1076 posts
    Bumble bee

    roseishere123 :  *hugs*

    Maybe he’s trying to throw you off. Do you know if he has a ring? Have you established a timeline?

    Post # 23
    Member
    886 posts
    Busy bee

    We’ve been dating a little over 4 years and I voted in the poll that he would propose 1-3 months from now, but that’s probably unrealistic. We have discussed marriage generally, but have no timeline. He doesn’t know my ring size and hasn’t been looking at rings that I know of. So why I think 1-3 months is puzzling. Lol. I do plan to bring it up early next month.

    Post # 24
    Member
    32 posts
    Newbee

    No the fight was legitimate and it hurt both of us like a bitch. No nothing like that, I know he wants to marry me and my mom has been dropping hints about this vacation. I have no idea if he has a ring. I’ve been tempted to look at his phone messages but I know that’s bad.

    Post # 25
    Member
    32 posts
    Newbee

    becks90 :  No the fight was legitimate and it hurt both of us like a bitch. No nothing like that, I know he wants to marry me and my mom has been dropping hints about this vacation. I have no idea if he has a ring. I’ve been tempted to look at his phone messages but I know that’s bad

     

    Post # 26
    Member
    16 posts
    Newbee

    I’ve been waiting around 7 months now , we have discussed it An he said on my birthday (start of February) he wouldn’t make me wait a year and a few days ago he said he had it planned . I don’t think he has a ring yet though .

    Post # 27
    Member
    384 posts
    Helper bee

    We’ve been together for 5 years and 5 days now. I really thought we would be engaged by now. On our anniversary he asked if I planned anything special, which neither of us really ever do but then he went on about someones wife, which the guy proposed to within like a year of dating, bought him a trip to vegas and blah blah. I snapped “Yeah well thats his wife not his girlfriend”. I don’t even want to think about it anymore, it makes me feel like a loser.

    Post # 28
    Member
    292 posts
    Helper bee

    We’ve been together a little under 2 years. He doesn’t have the ring, but I’m not really a “ring girl” so I think he plans to get it like a month before he proposes (this is just not an important part of the process for us – I’ve told him not to any circumstances spend more than like $1500 and he has well over that amount in cash at all times. No savings necessary). He says he totally knows how he’s going to propose to me, and even told his friends and I think it’ll be around the end of this year / early next year. Originally, we were working towards a summer 2017 proposal for a wedding summer 2018, but we also plan to move (possibly accross the country, and either having to sell or rent out his condo) that summer, so we talked recently and decided it would be too much for one year, so the wedding (and with it, the engagement) got pushed out a little. I’m a bit bummed, but seeing how excited he was to propose made me happy. It might even be sooner, but we def won’t be having a summer 2018 wedding anymore, which is fine.

    Post # 29
    Member
    11 posts
    Newbee

    Dating for 6 years. Officially waiting for about a year now. He bought the ring three weeks ago, but it just got back from being sized a few days ago! 

    Im betting a weekend in may when the weather is gorgeous!

    Post # 30
    Member
    1173 posts
    Bumble bee

    Waiting for almost two years now. We probably would have gotten married, but I’m hoping to finish my graduate school and he’s hoping to transition into a line of work where he can afford to stay home more often. Life happens.

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