Hey bees just curious ...I wanted to know how many of you wanted a private or public proposal and why?
Definitely a private proposal! It's really important to me that we just have that moment between the two of us. I know that my guy is pretty shy anyways so I wouldn't expect him to make a scene of it. :)
Private! I always think public is a bad plan... What if you want to say no???
That and it's a special moment that should be just between the two of you IMO.
@beesbelle: Haha +100
My answer is in between. I absolutely don't want a totally public proposal (like at a football game...ugh, the thought makes me sick). But I would love him to incorporate my friends or family into it. So I guess my answer is semi-private, just not around strangers!
@Serey: I would want it to be private since it is such a special and intimate moment between SO and I and I would want to share our honest reactions without any outside influence. I think I would be okay if he did it in front of our immediate family as well, but I don't think he will.
I'm totally married, but going to answer the question anyway...
I wanted a public engagement, like I used to dream about him proposing and then having people around us break out in applause...... but I got an awesome private just-us-two engagement in a beautiful museum garden overlooking the NY skyline. So it was all good either way!
Most definitely private-ie just the two of us!! It wasnt until I came across the bee that I found out that some people get their whole families involved-plus photographers for the question moment, its very sweet but its just not me :-)
I'm already married but I informed him that if he ever asked me to marry him that it better be in private. As it turned out we pretty much made a joint decision to get married so it didn't matter. :)
I voted public, but I really won't care either way. But knowing my SO, it's going to be over-the-top - that's just his personality. I like the idea of public b/c hopefully people will get pictures or video that way!
Private. I'm very shy and self-conscious, hate being the center of attention. If there was a group I would feel awkward and distracted, wouldn't be able to focus on the moment. I want that moment to be something that belongs to us, and us alone.
I know it's going to happen in the next few months so everytime we see a proposal on tv or a movie I make sure to comment on how I have public proposals so he gets the idea.
private - I think he would do it this way anyway but he has joked in the past that he'll propose in disney land with a musical number (he's got this idea from youtube haha) because it'll embarrass me!
i'm not waiting.. but i definitely wanted a private proposal. it was really important to both of us to have that moment between only us. plus we are both pretty shy. he proposed while we were fishing at the spot we went on our first date. it was just the two of us and it was perfect! :)
i'm not waiting either, but i would prefer a private proposal because my guy is shy and not into public displays like that. but if he were up for it, i would be too!
I just got engaged, I thought I always wanted a public proposal..I'm crazy and outgoing and my FI is SOOO not. We had a very romantic private proposal...it was very him which made me love it. (I later asked him to get on stage and profess his love to me...he declined...LOL!)
I never really thought about it until SO said he would do it private. He said we will share the wedding with everyone, so he'd want to just have a private, personal proposal between the two of us. Makes sense to me
It doesnt matter if the end result is a proposal. Most men who propose are only thinking about what will make you happy. They know us well enough to know whether it should be public or private
@Serey: i'd like private but honestly, at this point, ill take it any way i can get it!
@PenguinLove: +1 I love thata video!
Private-ish. I was thinking in the car that if he incorporated my family or friends that would be fantastic. I would also love some kind of song/dance numberr but that's a fantasy because I know it will be private.
This is my fantasy http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5_v7QrIW0zY
@LilliePad: +1, yeah id like it in the middle, i get really embarrassed, and dont like to be the center of attention so id like semi-private...i want to make sure someone is there to take pictures lol
Private!
It's important to me that we get our moment alone, he's not a PDA guy and want to be able to kiss/cuddle and enjoy it just being us. I think it's more special that way.
I'm already engaged, but I'll still chime in. I wanted a private proposal, but i didn't have to tell FI that, he knows me well enough to know that I hate attention and PDA. After the proposal I asked if how he decided to do it, and his thought processes were pretty much right on track with mine!
I had always wanted and imagined a private proposal, but I got a public proposal on Valentine's Day at a beachside restaurant.. and actually it was perfect! It was really nice having the waitresses and customers congratulating us!!
I would prefer for him to propose to me just the two of us because I don't really see a public proposal being very romantic. How ever he decides to do it I'll be happy because I know he put a lot of time and effort into his idea .... and because I'm so tired of waiting! lol I'm a little bit too impatient
I just want a proposal HA!
only joking, I would prefer it to be private :]
3rd option? Personal. We like walking so a public space like a boardwalk, park or garden is ideal. Not at a game on the jumbo-tron. My only thing is that the ring should absolutely never be hidden in food/drink. Its gross, sticky and undignified! The only thing that should ever be a surprise in food is a baby in a King Cake and that is pushing it. Restaurants are definitely a no. I guess not private though either? I would probably be a little disappointed if I got proposed to in sweatpants in my living room watching TV, even though thats how my parents did it and they've been married for 30 years.
Definitely private! Just the two of us. I'd love it to be outdoors though. Either way I'd just love him to ask.
I'm not waiting, but I was happy with mine. In a public place yet still very intimate and personal. It was on a bench by the water with a few people walking their dogs, etc.
I hadn't really thought much about getting engaged before he proposed, but I definitely would have said private because I'm very shy, and that's what I got. That being said, though, I love witnessing a public proposal because I think it's so much fun to see! I work in Rockefeller Center and I loooove seeing people get proposed to on the skating rink. I've also seen a proposal at the top of the Empire State Building and most recently during a Nets game. I'm a sap so i always tear up :-)
I said private, but it doesn't have to be exclusively so. I don't want some big show or anything, but if it happened to be in a park or something (or a location that meant something to us) that wasn't 100% secluded, I would definitely be okay with that!
This public proposal went horribly wrong. Just had to share with you Bees:
100% private! SO knows that this is the #1 most important thing to me! I'm such a private person, I don't even like exchanging our Christmas presents to each other infring of family haha. I don't even know why.
@lindseyl06: oh.....my goodness. I cringed through that entire video. That was the most awkward thing I've ever watched. Not sure if I feel worse for him or her haha!
@WannaBeeMrsB: Yes I feel the same way. I wouldn't want to be proposed to in a food court in the mall but I wouldn't have ran away like that. The funniest thing was the guy filming said "WWWWWHHHHHHHAAAAAAATTTTT...."
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